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Why do people hate me for no reason?

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Last Updated: 11/17/2020 at 9:11pm
Why do people hate me for no reason?
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trisjlistens
August 1st, 2015 3:20pm
There might be reasons that you do not know. You might be being annoying, unconsciously. Everything has a reason.
Anonymous
August 5th, 2015 11:04pm
I'm so sorry you feel like people hate you. I don't hate you. I think you are deserving of love and healthy relationships. If you ever feel like someone is negative around you, remember that I don't hate you! We are here for you at 7 cups of tea if you ever feel like you need to talk.
emotional3cstacy
August 14th, 2015 8:12pm
Hate is a strong word, people can't just hate you for no reason, it is probably just you putting these thoughts in your head because you might just feel self conscious. However, people can hate others for many reasons, jealousy is the usual cause of most hate from individuals and or groups in most cases. Others just crave the attention from others, and because they are unhappy with something in there own life and putting others down somehow makes them feel better which is never okay.
NyxCain
August 15th, 2015 3:37pm
They likely have a problem with themselves rather than you. There is this term in psychology called "projecting" and it is where people take problems they are facing and how they feel about themselves, and then treat others how they feel about themselves. I'm sure that they do this to many people, and that you are a wonderful person.
cristiana33
December 16th, 2015 2:31pm
People don't hate you. They just behave like they do when they have trouble understanding you or when they think of themselves to be better than you. They aren't. You cannot be better than someone and treat them badly. We are all amazing the way we are. Try to find those humans who are willing to give you positive energy and good time.
Anonymous
December 22nd, 2015 11:48pm
People don't hate you. Everyone is deserving of respect. Many people dislike people because they misunderstand them. By opening up and talking with these people, we are able to share experiences and prevent hate!
CatTheByrd
December 31st, 2015 4:13am
Maybe they are jealous of you, from personal experience, that is most likely the reason they hate you.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2016 4:55pm
They may just be jealous of envious of you. Or.. They may not hate you at all, it may just be the way you see it. They might just dislike you just to be mean. Others just want a reaction, or attention to them.
GrowthMindset17
January 10th, 2016 3:33am
Don't worry about them. They hate you because they can't be like you. They envy the fact that you have what they don't so keep doing better than them !
tattoo99
February 10th, 2016 5:00pm
Hate is a feeling wich every person has and you can not turn it up. You have to ignore the people because they do not earn your attention.
Anonymous
June 20th, 2015 6:30pm
I hear that you are experiencing the feeling of hate from others around you and you can't think of a reason for it, that you aren't to blame for their hatred towards you?
Anonymous
June 24th, 2015 4:25am
In life, everyone is unique, everyone is different and wants different things. Not everyone can like a person just for being themselves, regardless of their behaviour. People do not want to same things, that is what makes every human being a unique indvidual.
Anonymous
July 2nd, 2015 6:44am
Hate is a pretty strong word. It might seem like people 'hate' you for no reason. But it's really all in their minds. Often it's not you, it's them. They could be jealous of you; they feel that you are a threat to them in some way. It's really their problem, not yours. Always remember to stand up for yourself.
Anonymous
July 2nd, 2015 8:16pm
I doubt anybody hates you without a reason, or maybe you are anxious and believe they hate you, but you haven't even talked to them, If they do hate you, it may just be because they do not associate with wonderful amazing people like you are maybe they are just jealous. Trust me, you are not the problem, they are
Anonymous
July 10th, 2015 2:26am
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Sunshine99x
July 10th, 2015 12:43pm
some people hate others for no apparent reason there's nothing much we can do about it , its just nature.
Stormearth
July 12th, 2015 2:45pm
People can hate because of many things. One of the biggest is jealousy. Don't let anyone bring you down.
Anonymous
July 18th, 2015 5:29am
They probably don't hate you and even if they do just try talking to them. Get to know each other. Tell them how you feel. Just try and fix things.
sunbeams
July 18th, 2015 6:53am
I don't think someone would hate you for no reason at all. There will always be a reason why people do what they do and you have to be open-minded about it. Next time you think someone hates you, ask them why. :)
Tryingtohelpothers1
October 9th, 2015 10:33am
People hate others and say awful things because they want to make you feel as they feel,deeply they feel awful and they have problems and they don't know how to get them out or they don't have anyone to trust and they just get it out to you or to whoever they see that is wick, always be happy for who you are and try to make a difference by smiling and thinking positive! By thinking positive you make your self happier and make you look better! I hope everything goes well love ❤️
TCloud
December 31st, 2015 6:24am
Hatred could stem from jealousy, it could be caused from misunderstandings, there are tons of reasons, but the reasons are not your fault. Try and question someone about why they dislike you.
Michelle0621
January 9th, 2016 2:07pm
There are haters in many people's lives, also in mine, sometimes they are jealous or maybe they need something inside their hearts, but they can't get them, so they put it on others, but there are lovers, too. I usually see my lovers, ignore my haters.
Anonymous
December 3rd, 2018 8:20pm
Why do you feel that people hate you?, people can hate others because there is something missing in there own life, don't rise to it as they are looking to see if your affected by this, carry on be true to yourself and don't give these thoughts legs or they will run around in your head, be strong my friend there is a lot of people who don't hate you these are the people you should surround yourself with, good luck with your future because your the one who matters, concentrate on all the good feelings and ignore the haters, please don't let anyone take anything away.
SABDemo
November 17th, 2020 3:39pm
Research articles into behaviors that include hatred point out that sometimes, people feel they have stronger bonding or close relationships if they can communicate about their dislikes. While the participants in such studies probably did not have a negative intent, information does show that bullying is at a rise, especially on social media. Social media has enabled people today to share their attitudes and negative thoughts in the absence of authority or heavy moderation - even moderated websites face these problems. Both men and women face this problem. A number of reasons for people hating for no reason can include poor anger management or displacement. No one deserves to be hated on for no reason, especially in social situations. It can lead to people not having any confidence or having their mental health affected for a long time. At the end of the day, we need to focus on reporting such hatred if we can to ensure our wellbeing as well as that of others.
writingloveaddy
June 26th, 2015 12:26am
People usual transfer their negative emotions onto other people but hate is very strong and many people don't hate someone rather dislike.
niceMermaid44
June 26th, 2015 2:21pm
Because you have something that they don’t, because they think you don’t deserve it, because they don’t want to lose to you. Because they can’t get over the past. Because they have nothing better to do in life. Because their life just ain’t as great and exciting as yours.
peacefulAngel63
June 27th, 2015 3:51pm
You may feel like they hate you for no visable reason, but you don't know what's going on inside their head. They could be jealous, or afraid you might become more popular than them. You may have also affended them by accident without knowing you did so.
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2015 2:25am
For me, it seems to be a personality thing. I'm either too quiet or too loud. One look and suddenly they don't bother to get to know me. For the most part, I've given up caring, no point being worried about people who don't want to know me, but sometimes it really does hurt!
strawberryblossom97
July 4th, 2015 12:05pm
People can hate others for lots of reasons, sometimes people just clash and don't mix well. Not everyone will like you and thats ok, I think thats important to remember.
Anonymous
July 4th, 2015 11:42pm
People hate you for no reason because they are simply fearful of you or jealous of you in many ways. They most likely want to be you in more than one way.