Why do people hate me for no reason?
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Some time people hate someone because there choices in life . The main reason sometime it because of there culture, values and ethic .
Anonymous
July 5th, 2015 11:56pm
They most likely don't hate you. It may be your perception of how they act around you and what their attitude is like. Or they may hate you, because they may be jealous of you, the people you hang with, the sort of lifestyle you live, or what sort of belongings you have.
Anonymous
July 8th, 2015 3:34am
People can't hate others for no reason. It is either they found something in you that they don't really prefer to find in a person or they don't feel comfortable around you ? or maybe because they are jealous of you? this could be possible :P..there are several reasons..But again, you can't hate anyone for no reason. :D
Everyone comes from different walks of life. By this I mean that everyone will have their own bias, and it will choose how to react to those people. Whether you accept or acknowledge their opinion of you, told or assumed. No matter what: you're going your own direction, and it is your will which way to turn, not theirs. It may also be a matter of looking in the mirror at how people see you as a person. What is your attitude? How does your body language make others feel? Once the problem is identified the next step is improvement.
Anonymous
July 8th, 2015 2:49pm
Sometimes it can feel that others hate us when in reality, it's our minds making us believe this. In the cases where it is true, I believe that those people either 'don't get you' because you have different personalities or they have there own problems and choose to take it out on other people.
Anonymous
July 8th, 2015 6:56pm
They're either jealous of you or sometimes they're scared that your might be a higher level then them
Because they don't see what they're missing. You are a good person and people should be nicer to you!
I'm not sure. If someone hates you there must be a reason for it! If not, then ignore them. They obviously don't know anything about you!
Anonymous
July 9th, 2015 6:00am
Here's the thing, I've heard that a lot. And every time it turns out to be all in your own head. Just try to relax and go with the flow of things.
More than likely, it is in your head! People tend to assume that no one likes them, when they have no idea what the other person is thinking.
Not everyone is going to like us, and we just need to accept that. Loving ourselves is the most important thing.
Anonymous
July 10th, 2015 6:27am
Well I do not think that everybody hates you, it may be a feeling that you are getting most probably because you want everybody to like you. It is not compulsory that everybody should like you. You just to find people who will love you no matter what.
Maybe you haven't give them enough time to show there true feelings for you. Not all people can be nice, give a good impression about why the should like or be nice to and show them that you would be a good caring and loving friend show them compassion.
they are jelou of you. something about you they secretly like. and they wont admit it.and you may not belive me but its true. kids are mean and are afraid to tell you about there own insecurtites so they hate you for what amazing trait you have that they don't
they might not hate you maybe you just think they hate you and you might not be friendly enough with others for them to be friendly to you
it is really hard to tell if people actually hate you or not. it is how you think they perceive you. they may actually just like you for who you are but give you your space.
The way we deal with ourselves, others do the same. If we can love ourselves without any condition then others will also love us without any condition but making everyone happy is a faulty thinking. Again, none can control anyone so it is impossible to make someone love you forcefully. It is not always important to a happy life that everyone should love you. The man with no friends can also become the happiest person in this world. If we can separate this two things happiness and hatred which are not in a relation can fix a lot of social problems in our life.
May be this is just one way of looking at it, may be they don't. It's just something you have in your mind. How about not thinking about people and start loving yourself with all your heart without thinking about that people hate you. No one can hate you more that you think they can. Acceptance on loving yourself more matters the most instead.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2015 9:14am
People don't hate you for no reason. They may not even hate you at all.
if they do, ask and evaluate
Anonymous
July 26th, 2015 3:09pm
It dispense on the situation, sometimes it looks like a person hates you, but it could be that he had something on his mind. Every character is unique and we don't have the same things we like and do, so that could be the reason that it look likes someone hate you.
Anonymous
July 31st, 2015 6:47pm
no one will hate anyone for no reason, it sounds like you have some social anxiety and become self conscious of what people are thinking. I bet your a great person and everyone in fact thinks you are too, if you was a bad person and people hated you then you wouldn't be asking this question..
That's an example of negative thinking. It's a jump to conclusion. They probably don't hate you. Think positive!
Anonymous
August 8th, 2015 4:11am
Usually people just don't hate someone for no reason. Maybe they misunderstand you or you offend people without meaning to. Look for social cues and body language for your answer. If the issue persists it might be okay to go and ask someone "Hey, why do you hate me?" They will likely tell you the reason if they hate you.
Anonymous
August 8th, 2015 7:10pm
I'm sure that people do not hate you. And if they do, they wouldn't hate you for no reason. Maybe they have a problem with you that they just don't want to confront you about.
People can be very mean, but in reality hate is a strong word. They may dislike you, but they can only say they hate you but I doubt they truly feel hate toward you.
They might not hate you? How do you know this? But If they have said it to your face there is bound to be a reason maybe it's the way you come off to people?
Most of the time it's because you are different and either they want to be like it or hate people who are not like them. Another reason is because it's has to deal with something happening in their past and they want others to share their pain or get rid of it for them.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2015 11:37am
hatred could be caused due to your body language. the person who hates you might be highly sensitive and could get hurt easily by even the smallest criticism you give or a small joke you made of him/her. another reason could be that he/she might be jealous of you.
Because they don't know you! Don't judge a book by it's cover! There is more to everyone that you have to see for yourself.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 3:39pm
Are you sure they hate you? Maybe they are just jealous of you. Remember you are amazing and special and what other people think about you isn't the most important thing. What's more important is what you think of yourself, so love yourself and the haters hate!
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 5:13pm
It could be that they just don't like your personality therefore decide to hate you. Some people may do it just to maje themselves feel better but it doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with you.
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