Why do people so readily judge on assumptions?
Last Updated: 04/28/2020 at 8:13am
Halayma Khatun, M.A Theology(U.K, UAE), Diploma With Distinction in Counseling, Certification trauma abandonment
Compassionate, patient, experienced depression counselor. I use Psychodynamic counseling techniques. My counseling experience is +8 years, I counsel women.
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People easily judge on assumption because it easily for a person to assume then to ask other of what really is the matter. The judgement made on assumption can be changed as easily as they were made. As a famous quote says "We're good judges for other and good lawyer for ourselves."
I feel that people so readily judge on assumptions because these judgments are true in their own lives.
Because they usually don't want to find out for them selfs how people truly are, they'd rather go on what other people say
People judge based on familiarity. If you are a completely nice person but look like a stereotype that someone may not like, they'll assume that that is what you are. Keep in mind that the majority of people are not this shallow and do what you want regardless of what someone may think.
Simple answer is – because it is easy. Succumbing to initial reaction or assumption requires no effort, no introspection, no thinking or reflection on the situation – it is automatic and easy. We all have our different sets of life experiences, prior knowledge and exposure, sets of beliefs that constitutes our sense of identity. These factors guide what our automatic first assumptions are (for example, someone who has been chronically physically or verbally abused in the past is more likely to automatically assume that another individual is a threat and an enemy that they have to either beat or hide away from). These assumptions are not meant to be maladaptive and at one point in our lives perhaps they have served as adaptive, they guided us to chose the best action plan given the information, they protected us and may have given us an advantage. However, automatic assumptions become maladaptive when the life circumstances change significantly. It takes effort and time to change your automatic assumptions. This means that you have to be patient with other people who hold faulty first assumptions and patient with yourself when re-evaluating and working on yours.
This is something I've experienced a lot. I feel like people take one look at me and think they've got me all figured out. It doesn't matter how much the real me contradicts what they've cobbled together in their head. They will cling to their assumptions rather than acknowledge they were wrong and start to see me for who I truly am. From my experience, I think this can be chalked up to ego. People don't like to admit when they're wrong; they don't have that kind of self reflection. So they hang on to their assumptions and first impressions instead, regardless of how it affects the relationship with the other person.
People tend to judge others on their own assumptions because that is what they are conditioned too. The pretty girl is mean, the jock is a jerk, the smart people are nerds, all these assumptions are engraved in our minds by media and society. So it is quite difficult for a person to rise above such prejudices and think based on what they observe rather than what they think they should observe. However, it is completely normal to make a silent judgment about someone. One should not let that judgment affect the conversation and keep an open mind towards others.
For some people it is easier to assume that what they believe to be true is correct, rather than to hear all the facts. In my situation, this often happens when dealing with someone that is stubborn.
It's something that we all do because we are humans and don't always think before we speak. We assume we know something about someone and are so often wrong. There is no answer as to "why" we do it, it's just part of our human nature.
we all do it. its human nature.. they judge people based on the outside rather than learning about whats on the inside. they judge by what they see first: your appearance. How you look, what you're wearing, if you're "pretty" .. all that. Which actually doesn't even matter at all.
It's a thing that our brains evolved to do to help us survive. If you've been beaten up several times by tall hulking blond guys in football jerseys, your brain is going to go on the alert when it sees people with any collection of those qualities, even if they're not acting hostile. Similarly, if you were saved each time by short skinny black-haired girls in field hockey uniforms, you're probably going to be drawn towards people who look like that because you feel safe and protected around them. Also, there is a lot of information to process in our modern environment--far more than our ancestors had to deal with. It's just easier and less stressful on our brains to make quick judgments.
Sometimes people are too afraid to ask for the truth! So speculation occurs and they make an assumption and act upon it faultily.
They probably so readily judge on assumptions so quickly because they have been through that situation before. Someone might've used that line on them and betrayed them, making them more cautious.
Well, That's human nature.. they never follow "Don't judge a book by its cover". But we are not here to clear their judgements.. if they are assuming things its not our fault...and our lives are none of their business.. if you want to be happy.. then never care about what people are thinking about you.. because people are never satisfied. You are here to live your life.. not wasting it on other people. Just be yourself.
Because it's easier to come up to a conclusion based on someone else's views than to think for yourself and really try to understand a different perspective. Don't take it personally, there are people out there who put effort in how they think and those are the ones who matter for real.
The easy answer? because it is easy to let your brain sit one out when it comes to having to analyze and consider new scenarios and judgments based on assumptions are hand in hand since assumptions aren't based on finding truth but what you want to connect to be true and then based on the assumption you are easily placed with a piece of information already coloured by your perspectives and therefore judgment comes naturally to those who use assumptions
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