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Why do people want to bring other person down when no one is perfect?

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Last Updated: 06/23/2020 at 5:35pm
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February 14th, 2015 8:21am
People do this because they are jealous. They want to bring you down with them into the place where everyone is horrible and ruin your streak. No body is perfect but they think you are, they want to bring you down so that you aren't better than them. Don't let them get to you, they just wish they were you..
April 23rd, 2018 12:18am
It probably makes them feel sufficient. Like they're better. Or it could be from the release of all the anger they've been holding from being treated badly. Either way, I don't agree with it. They need help. I've encountered such people and life was hard with them around. I hope this person either changes or you get away from them for your own mental health. :)
September 14th, 2015 11:49pm
It can be because they are insecure themselves and feel better when the bring people down. It's not right but that's what people do..
June 12th, 2015 1:05am
I was always told that you have to have something to build your mountain with. In other words, if someone wants to build them self up and feel better about them self, they need to push someone else down to stand on.
May 14th, 2015 1:12pm
By bring others down they would get a sense of achievement and feel more superior than the ones that they brought down. This makes them feel like they are more 'perfect' than others.
March 6th, 2018 4:32am
because it makes them feel better and more lifted when they bring others down. but you should know your worth! dont allow anyone to discourage you
August 21st, 2018 7:25pm
Because people fill themselves with hate and they take things from their own experience and they try to bring others down to make themselves feel better about that however they shouldn't do that and get the help they deserve to grow as a person, sometimes people just do it because that's who they are and they can be full of hatred, however someone can learn from this purely by acknowledging what they've done wrong and try to put it right , people tend to pick out other peoples imperfections when they think they're immune to being imperfect too.
February 13th, 2017 12:51pm
Often people who aren't where they would like to be become annoyed at themselves when they see others succeeding. Remember that it is not a reflection of you. Perhaps ask them why they feel the need to bring you down and you may even help them identify why they're achieving their goals. Try not to compare your goals and your journey to others.
June 22nd, 2015 8:09pm
Some people have to lower others confidence to make themselves feel better. They don't have a great self esteem so they put down others to reach there goal
August 31st, 2015 8:38pm
My biggest theory is that they either have way too much time on their hands, that they fixate on other people because they're ashamed with their own life. My next theory, is that they're intimidated by that person.
July 2nd, 2018 10:47am
Yeah no one is perfect despite of this fact people are running after perfection it makes them do various negative things. Brining other person down is also one of them. People feel if they bring you down they will excel. This is not healthy practice but many people try this.
June 23rd, 2015 4:41pm
Some people just don't know how to put themselves in other people's shows. And sometimes, how they apply to people how they see themselves.
August 22nd, 2017 1:25am
People will bring you down to make them feel better, because you are better than them. Don't let them know that they get to you. There are people out there that care. People will help you. Yes the world may cheat, but that doesn't mean that we can fight back. Believe, and thing will come true.
June 23rd, 2020 5:35pm
Hello most of the time there's a reason behind why they're acting like that 1 usually people who bring others down are jealous of the other person, they might say they're better than them but what they say is different than what's on their mind 2 maybe they're subconsciously comparing themselves to the other person 3 they're taking their anger out on that person or they are just really bored and for some twisted reason they're taking it out on others however no confident person would actually bother to bring another person down thank you for reading i hope this was helpful
August 24th, 2015 1:14pm
Because they feel horrible about themselves and want their misery to be accompanied. Its nothing personal
November 30th, 2015 9:17am
Because they think seeing someone do worse than themselves will make them feel happy, sadly the opposite is true but that is something the 'people' in question will have to find out on their own and they will one day.
July 26th, 2016 12:55am
It's all dependent on your perception of a situation. If a person wants to bring you down, you must first find out if their intention is to bring you down and if they want to bring you down...what is their motive?
April 6th, 2020 12:25pm
Sometimes this behavior could mean they are worried themselves or lack self-esteem, or they like to be in control, which means they will bring others down to feel superior themselves. Other times they will do it out of jealousy. Regardless of the reason why they do it, one should know that you've done nothing wrong, and you are not inferior to them. It is good to understand why they behave that way, because it helps you overcome what they do. Sometimes they need professional help themselves, and sometimes they don't even notice what they are doing. Some of them needs good faithful advice and need encouragement and need to be praised for their good behaviour. others are just being mean. Embracing yourself would be your immune system against their behaviour. Good luck!
December 22nd, 2015 1:08pm
Some people do it to make themselves feel better. I used to do it based off of me being bullied and a young child.
June 22nd, 2015 6:08pm
I think just the people who are unsatisfied with themselves are putting others down. They know exactly that noone is perfect, but maybe the society tell us we have to.
July 2nd, 2015 10:55pm
People tend to feel like they add more power to their own lives when making others feel weaker. They do know no one is perfect and probably know that even when they treat you badly. But they will continue pushing you if you show that you care. It is the most basic way of behaving, like you were in nature and your only options are survive or die. I would say you need to demand more for yourself and show your sensitive points only to people that deserve to know you for real.
August 18th, 2015 12:33am
Some people are often uncomfortable with themselves and feel the need to drag other people down with to make them feel better about themselves.
August 24th, 2015 7:27am
Some people do it to cover for their own poor self esteem. Some are personality disordered and do it because of wounds to their pride or other such reasons.
May 9th, 2016 11:13pm
Often, people do this because they want to feel better about themselves. It's not a good way to go about it. Instead of bringing themselves up, they focus on bringing other people down so that they feel better in comparison. It's the easier thing to do, but certainly not the right choice.
June 7th, 2016 12:22pm
Some people feel the need to bring others down , because they feel down themselves. They think, that because they are not good enough, they should make others feel as bad as they do.
June 27th, 2016 7:08pm
People like to bring others down due to them feeling insecure about their own selves. They take their insecurities out on other people and bring them down in order to make themselves feel better.
March 5th, 2017 5:08pm
they feel insecure about themselfes, so they try to bring a person down so they can feel good about themselfes and make the other person feel horrible.
December 17th, 2019 1:33pm
I have faced this at every stage in my life... Starting with my sibling, relatives, friends, and coworkers... For what I felt this far and understood was that I was being a thread/problem towards their own ego or rational judgement. People attack when they can not justify something within themselves. This can be because of jealousy which is a symptom from their boosted egos! I also think sometimes, that it might be because of the raw natural competing animal tendency that comes out in a more civilized manner! That's why I feel it is important to spread positive, unity and for an wholesome human society!
July 7th, 2015 8:43am
They are not learned person. They does not have sense of humanity. They are just envying these peoples.
November 11th, 2019 6:01pm
I wish I had an easy answer for you. I think it's really great that you recognize that no one is perfect and that is something that not everyone is aware of. Some people really try to hold themselves and others to this imaginary standard of "perfect" that really isn't attainable for anyone. As you can imagine that is really frustrating for them to not be able to achieve that, which can lead to anger and confusion. It sounds like someone could be taking that anger out on you, which you do not deserve to have happen to you.