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Why do some people want other people to feel really bad?

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Last Updated: 04/14/2020 at 1:00pm
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Top Rated Answers
June 17th, 2015 7:03am
Some insecure people want other people to feel really bad, to feel better about themselves. Then they compare their situation/ feelings to the other people feeling worse, and that gives them a feeling of self-confidence. It's quite selfish behaviour.
December 15th, 2015 11:44pm
It's tough to say why some people want other people to feel bad. Sometimes they themselves feel bad and they want the others around them to feel the same way they do. Sometimes it's more complicated than that. What's important to remember is, just because some people want you or someone else to feel bad , doesn't mean you have to let it affect you. Be true you yourself and love who you are. Regardless of what someone else wants you to feel.
May 3rd, 2015 3:19am
Some people have very bad hurts and depression, and they will envy those who are happy, and do not know how to deal with it. So they try to make everyone else feel bad too.
January 16th, 2015 6:48pm
People often want others to feel bad because they feel bad themselves. They're jealous of the happiness of others and will do what they can to make sure those people aren't happier then they are feeling themselves. Those people just need someone to love, but they push away people trying to get close because they're afraid to look weak and lose the little respect they have.
November 27th, 2017 7:40am
Some people want others to 'experience' how they feel by making them feel bad, to feel understood...
May 17th, 2016 6:47pm
Sometimes these people are people who have problems on their owns and instead of talking about it, they hurt other people so they feel less frustrated.
December 28th, 2015 12:01pm
Because those people who want others to feel sad do not feel good about themselves and they want to hurt people to make themselves feel better
June 17th, 2015 2:59am
Because, they feel bad so they make others feel bad to make themselves feel better because they feel like they are in control and can make others feel like they do
December 7th, 2015 2:41am
It's not that they want you to feel bad it's that they probably don't know any better. Just remember to change your train of thought and you will see it all in a new prospective
November 13th, 2018 10:19pm
Some people want other people to fell bad because they fell bad themself. They think that in ordner to fly higher they need to tie others to the ground, but in reality they just need to spread their wings. What i mean by this is that they need to talk to others about their problems instead of coursing other peable problems. So they do not accualy want others to feel bad. They just do not understand how to maske themself feel good and do not want to be the only once who are feelinh bad about themself. I think that is why 'they want other people to feel rally bad.'
May 23rd, 2016 12:21pm
It is human nature to be selfish. Everyone is born this way. Therefore, it is natural for people to find ways to make them feel happier when they are down. One way is to make others feel worse then them. Since words like "big", "small", "better", "worse", are words that are based on comparison, by making someone else feel bad, you feel that you are better compared to them. All in all, making someone else feel bad makes a individual feel better.
November 17th, 2015 8:51pm
People who appear to be mean or hurtful don’t usually do it intentionally. There are exceptions to this, but generally the hurt you feel is a side-effect, not the principle cause. Lots of love!
June 7th, 2015 9:52pm
Maybe because they feel bad themselves and they feel the only way to get it out of their system is to take it out on other people, Maybe they were brought up a certain way to think that is acceptable there are multiple reasons really.
February 10th, 2015 11:16pm
Maybe some people want others to feel bad because they themselves feel really bad on the inside and it tears them a part to see other people happy or at least happier than they are. Or maybe some people are just really veangeful and like seeing others suffer.
February 2nd, 2016 3:49pm
Repressed traumas, anxiety for popularity, home issues.... Well... Thats part of life.... Just never forget that u r... And be proud of it.. But always... Go further :)
April 19th, 2015 7:02pm
Unfortunately, some people may want others to feel really bad, so that they can make themselves feel good.
April 25th, 2015 5:33am
The answer to this question I don't know and may be that is what make them feel good about them self. Well world is a weired place. And Keep searching for the answer.
June 30th, 2015 6:20pm
They want to feel better about themselves, they have prblems to that they try to fix, but they think it works and it really don't.
April 14th, 2020 1:00pm
that, noone will ever really know. because a lot of people consider things funny that while others may think they are really cruel it is also possible that maybe while someone grew up they were surrounded by a lot of violence, making them believe hat hurting others is in fact okay. or they just don't know nay other way to interact with other people. It is not necessarily that they enjoy it or want to really do it, it' just the only thing they know. but of course there are also people who actually enjoy hurting others, wether it is physicall or emotional pain they cause. why they like that, is unclear to me. teh cause can a be a trauma or a severe mental illness