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Why do they bully me?

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Last Updated: 12/17/2019 at 11:22pm
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December 10th, 2014 12:20pm
Bullies act to assert some dominance over others because it makes them feel better about themselves and their choices. They bully you to improve their self-esteem by suggesting they are better than you. Of course, someone who is bullying you is not better than you. They are probably insecure, and it's unfortunate they haven't discovered another way to comfort themselves.
December 29th, 2015 10:50pm
Bullyng has a lot of reasons. But the most common one isn't about you, but about them. They need to feel important, to feel like they are in control and are better than everyone else, so they choose to treat a person like nothing. Bullies are the weak, and the bullied are the strong ones.
December 12th, 2014 8:09pm
Bullying is often an expression of the bully's self confidence, or lack there of. Bullying is often used as a mechanism of escape from the difficulties of one's life by creating difficulties in another person's life that the bully controls, due to the fact that the bully's own difficulties are seemingly uncontrollable.
February 23rd, 2016 11:20pm
I Think people bully because they have nothing else to do with their life, so they get amusement by bullying.
December 19th, 2014 7:47am
Its never about you! It is always about the bully... Bullys bully people who are better than them, people who have something they dont have... And always remember people who talk behind your back are where they belong... Behinde you
December 29th, 2014 9:47pm
It has nothing to do with you. They are insecure about themselves and are using you as an outlet for this.
May 15th, 2015 9:41am
Bullies are trouble-minded people that are experiencing issues in their personal lives and that do not know how to properly solve them. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you and being bullied is something you should not take onto yourself.
June 23rd, 2015 3:12pm
They do not bully you for your faults. They bully you because its an outlet for themselves. It gets better.
August 31st, 2015 4:34am
Some of the reasons why bullying takes place include institutional and cultural causes as well as social and family issues. The personal history of someone who bullies others is also a reason why they do so. It is not uncommon for kids to bully other kids in order to feel like they have some power in this world.
August 15th, 2016 10:33pm
Because they are selfish, they have nothing better to do and target people unfairly and cruely. Don't let them dominate you!
December 10th, 2014 12:29am
Because they are weak and they see you as an easy target. They use you to make themselves feel better and its wrong but they don't realize it and the worst part is, is that they won't they are a bully until they finally stop being one. So they spend their days harassing others to lift up their own spirits. Which truly they probably have many insecurities and this is what they do to cope with them. No matter how wrong it is they believe it is ok and nothing is wrong with a little teasing. And anyone tears shed by the bullied is, in their mind, just plain over dramatic. So this gives them more and more leverage over someone and no one sees a way to end it because they have built up this wall of defense. And this wall of defense just keeps on shooting down anyone in sight. Breaking them down into pieces and destroying who they are. So when they bully you, its not because of anything you are doing wrong. Its actually the complete opposite. They see you as more than them and they can not handle this. So they must shoot you down before you shoot them down.
December 10th, 2014 12:55am
They bully you because they are jealous of you. They want to have your life and they are upset that they don't.
December 11th, 2014 2:16am
I think every bully has a different motive. Some bullies may be jealous or upset with themselves. Others may be going through a difficult time and want attention or just don't know how to deal with their situation or emotions.
November 14th, 2017 10:55pm
People bully sometimes because of doubt, sadness, and even depression. The harm caused makes them laugh, and even point at you.
January 3rd, 2015 6:20am
Because they have nothing better to do with their time. Or they have problems in their own life and they want to take it out on the first person they see.
May 17th, 2015 8:03pm
some people bully because they cant handle their own emotions and could possibly be having problems in their own life so choose to lash out on other people without thinking what cimpact it has on others lifes either that or they are jealous of you... stand up ignore them and try carry on in your life i know it is hard but once they think it isnt affecting you and your not bothered they will stop xxx
June 5th, 2015 10:30pm
Some people bully because they have things or problems they are going through that then they bring it out on you! There is nothing wrong with you! You are AMAZING!!:)
January 18th, 2016 9:31am
Because they feel bad about themselves and they think hurting you will make them feel better about themselves
February 1st, 2016 1:22am
Bullying is normally caused from the bully having problems of they're own, causing them to take it out on others.
February 8th, 2016 5:14pm
People bully for several reasons, the main reasons being that they themselves have low self esteem, or are dealing with problems at home. They take their frustrations out on others. :)
April 4th, 2016 4:44am
Many people bully because of their past. Some of the worst bullies have been through the worst. You never know what anyone is going through. Sometimes they release their anger, frustration, and/or sadness through giving it to others to either release it or make someone feel what they feel.
April 11th, 2016 7:34am
Look it's being the fundamental law of nature that powerful dominates the timid !! They do bully you because you do allow them. In my opinion The time they come to bully you must answer to them with complete energy so that they dare not to disturb you again.
August 8th, 2016 8:00am
They bully you because you're high class. If you weren't they would bother. Don't feel to bad about being bullied, just pity them as they keep you on your pedalstool by keeping you relevant.
December 13th, 2014 12:36pm
Bullying is a behaviour, it is something people learn. Bullies may also be bullied themselves, or they were bullied at one time or another in their lifetime. People bully because it makes them feel superior to others. They might get power and strength from bullying others. People bully to get attention. They think that it makes them popular, or that bullying may be a way to fit in. Bullying doesn't make someone popular or cool, it just makes them mean. People who bully are often scared about something about themselves, so they try to scare others to hide their feelings or pick on others so they won't get picked on first.
March 28th, 2016 7:06pm
Because you get bullied. Don't tolerate such nonsense under any circumstances! You need to stand for yourself. Once they get to know that you have a voice too and they cannot intimidate you so easily, they might back off themselves.
March 5th, 2018 7:43pm
They feel weak, inferior and inadequate, so they bully others to prove their strength, superiority and power. They feed off the energy of other people's fear and intimidation, and steal power from others in order to feel more powerful.
December 17th, 2019 11:22pm
Its because they are jealous of you and envy you for what you have ad what they want. Its also because they are being abused at home and when they get to school they seek power by picking on smaller kids to make them feel better about themselves. Bulling shouldn't happen in schools but they happen more then they should. Stick with a group of friends that will help you. Cause bullies don"t like to fight bigger groups. Instead they want to bully the person individually because it makes them feel better and stronger due to them trying to hid what they actually feel.
March 19th, 2018 4:52pm
They can bully you for many different cause like thinking your more approachable and other aspects too.