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Why do they even have to bully?

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Last Updated: 08/06/2018 at 10:50pm
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AkankshaP
February 22nd, 2015 11:29pm
Bullies are people who bully to have fun without/with realizing they are have hurt someone's feeling or in some cases physical. Bullying is for fun or at-least they think it's fun, they don't realize the effect on other party.
naturalRose97
May 30th, 2016 9:57am
It can be a lot of different factors. Here are the most common factors : -Some people feel they are stronger by dominating someone else -Lack of attention so they do bullies to make themselves become the centre of attention or to feel more popular -Throw their frustrations by bullying -The negative feelings toward the target (dislike,jealous,etc) -Because they've seen people did that before,or even maybe a victim of bullying -They do feel they are better than you -Simply want to make fun of someone to get some laughs or make a target to entertain themselves -They think you are minority or being different Whatever the reasons are,it is so wrong. Some people don't know how wrong and nasty bullying is, so they need to get educated. However, those who already know how bullying can impact someone's life tremendously but still do it, it proves that how uncompassionate, no respect, insensitive, irresponsible, and poor of social skills they are as human beings.
SomeGamerGirl
February 23rd, 2015 4:23pm
So many people bully others because they feel insecure about themselves. They try to feel better by making others feel worse. It's stupid, but when someone is being a bully, just know that there's always a reason why they feel like they have to do that. Anyone who bullies is a horrible person don't get me wrong, but there might be something going on with them that you don't know about.
Alwaysdreamin
April 18th, 2015 4:10pm
Bullies are very dangerous. They hurt others that do not deserve to be hurt. The truth is though that most bullies bully because of pain or anger in their life or even they could have been a victim of bullying in the past. It does not make it right. Always report bullying. It can cause serious harm. Stand up strong, report the bullying, and try to stay away from them if you can. You did nothing wrong and do not deserve to be bullied.
knickknacks
April 22nd, 2015 1:07pm
Bullies are cowards. They are afraid thats why they bully people so that they see the pain of others. They are afraid to show their true feelings
KathyTheHealer
May 22nd, 2015 10:07am
Because bullying brings the feel of being powerful and exciting. It's the person can't find anything else to make them happy and fun. That's why they hurt other people to make themselves feel good. It's very unfair. but It's just life.
MrsBrownEyes
June 6th, 2015 3:55pm
Because they're dissatisfied with their own lives, so they try to knock people down to feel better about themselves.
Waterbear
June 12th, 2015 2:24am
Some of them do it because they were/are being bullied and they feel like they can get some power back this way. Some of them don't really want to but are afraid they'll be the target if they don't join in. Some of them have turned you in their minds into the symbol for what they hate about themselves. Some of them just do it because they can get away with it and they don't see you as a real person.
Anonymous
June 18th, 2015 3:34am
So many reasons. Stress relief? Insecurity? Belligerence? Perhaps they are insensitive and this is the only way they understand how to make friends? Maybe they've been treated the same way and assume it's normal. There are so many reasons.
iamindiananonymous
June 23rd, 2015 3:02am
because they are too weak to face their own problems themselves that is why they want to create the some in others life..
Anonymous
July 21st, 2015 1:46am
Bullies are insecure, and bully because it make them feel powerful. The best way to combat them is to not give them the reaction they crave.
heretohelp356
August 11th, 2015 6:41pm
bullying is terrible, they feel they have to release feelings because they might've been bullied before
Barnloft
October 26th, 2015 5:36pm
Bullying can come from many different reasons from jealousy, peer pressure or even their growing environment. There could be one reason or many but every person may have a cause for their actions; but not all may be the same reason.
Anonymous
December 28th, 2015 5:23pm
Because they struggled a lot in their life, they are insecure and have darker pasts and they think that if they hurt others, it is going to make them feel better
Anonymous
January 18th, 2016 7:19pm
Because they are bored of their own existence, they failed in their life, they have too much anger in their veins and they don't know what to do with it, they are trying to keep on eye, their popularity is kinda their life, they don't have anything else, in the end they are just losers who will be punished by someone bigger than them
Anonymous
February 15th, 2016 9:47am
People usually bully when they're jealous, or are going through something at home. Maybe they're the weakest link at home, and need a way to feel superior in some sort of way. Maybe they're jealous of you and feel like making you feel bad about yourself so they no longer feel the need to be jealous. In the end, there is no justifiable reason to bully, but these are usually the case when it comes to bullies.
RizanarB
March 21st, 2016 1:52am
Sometimes the bullies themselves are going through some personal stuff of their own. They may be having some problems at home like not getting enough attention from their family or an loved one has passed away that meant a lot to them and they are letting it out on others or they were not taught how to treat other people! Sometimes the bully is being bullied too.
Endearingfriend
May 24th, 2016 8:48am
Bullying is done by people who feel weak in other aspects of their lives and feel the need to bring down others so that they can exercise authority and feel powerful again. Do not let bullying to get to you as all they are saying is out of anger and frustration of their own. Bullying is THEIR PROBLEM, don't let them make you toxic. If it gets too bad, please seek help and inform higher authorities as it is a serious issue. Keep well and don't let the haters affect you :)
TeenWolf
May 29th, 2016 5:54pm
They 'bully' because they find something wrong with in them self's or sometimes they have a rough home life.
Anonymous
August 16th, 2016 7:40am
people often are bullies because they've been bullied/abused themselves, or they do it just to make themselves feel better or to be "accepted"
LoveAndPeaceOnThePlanetEarth
October 17th, 2016 3:41am
Sometimes it could be jealousy, for example I was bullied because the person was scared I would take over as a girl's best friend. It could be because they feel awful about themselves and want to make other people feel awful as well
Anonymous
November 14th, 2017 7:14pm
When the bully is personally insecure about themselves, they where a mask , a mask meant to pin down others, to be the dominant one and to feel good about themselves.
Anonymous
August 6th, 2018 10:50pm
People bully for many different reasons. It could be their own coping mechanism, it could be jealousy or something else entirely. I know it can be difficult to experience a bully but keep in mind that they could be going through a hard time, it doesn't excuse their behaviour but that's how they cope.