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Why do they focus on me when other people have the same faulty characteristics?

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Last Updated: 02/18/2020 at 6:51am
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August 4th, 2015 11:58am
1. Sometimes we overthink that lead us to think that the only focus is on us 2. it's a good thing, because when we know what is wrong with us we can change it "no body perfect" 3. raise your self-esteem and confidence so that you won't be bothered by them Nobody can hurt you without your permission. Mahatma Gandhi
October 26th, 2015 5:04am
Sometimes, people just get away with things and other's dont... sadly. Just focus on being the best u!
August 9th, 2016 4:13am
Because everyone deserves to be listened to and cared about. Everyone deserves respect and to be helped with there problems
February 7th, 2017 5:36am
They focus on you because they probably think they can pick on you. Show them how strong you are and don't let them get to you.
March 11th, 2015 12:06pm
You're unique. Maybe, it is just in your mind, your characteristic features could include worrying, worrying about what people think of you. This isn't a bad thing, lots of people have this, but it can make you feel like everyone is focusing on you, rather than anyone else.
May 18th, 2015 7:50pm
Honestly, some people are hypocritical and love pointing the finger at everybody but themselves. If you interact with these people, just brush off their opinion.
September 6th, 2016 7:14pm
That´s a really really good question. I have asked this myself a hundred times. I believe that people are irrational, even as groups. Which means, a group can function like a narcissistic individual. So not only narcissistic individuals tend to find faults they have themselves in others, also groups tend to cling to an idea of "we are this, you are that". That way, they are able to keep the threat outside of themselves.
June 6th, 2017 10:19pm
Bully's like to pick on the week. Show the bully that your 'faulty characteristics' are just badges of honor and wear them loud and proud. Then they wont have anything to bully you about or for.
January 30th, 2018 6:10am
Not knowing who they are (and only able to focus on you) I wonder whether they actually are focusing on other people too but you are only able to notice when they focus on you because, fairly, its about you. OR maybe they actually do have higher expectations for you. Wonder where that comes from, and what you want to do about it. OR, two wrongs don't make a right (but three rights make a left). Meaning, them having the same faulty characteristic does not justify or negate your responsibilities. You can't change them. Just focus on yourself.
March 19th, 2018 1:20am
They focus on you than others because you may have more helpful information and directions they wanted than others do.
June 26th, 2018 11:03pm
They don't focus on you. Or rather, just you. They focus on everybody. People like to judge other people. It isn't just you. And chances are they don't care that much, they just observe and continue doing whatever they were doing. It doesn't matter what they think in the long run.
February 18th, 2020 6:51am
Maybe the others don’t think is that of a faulty characteristic. Maybe the others just don't care about it and project their selves differently than you because they are confident these faults won't change them. Maybe you have identified too much with it that you quickly notice people focusing on this and it triggers you and when it does trigger you then this just promotes the focus and can go on a loop. Maybe this thought in the back of your head does not let you project the way you want to and people sense this, then they tend to focus on your uncomfortable side consciously or unconsciously. If this is the case and you recognize it then fuck what others think. It does not matter if you improve or learn to live with the fault, either way it will dissolve because the best of you rolls over it