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Why does bullying hurt for so long?

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Last Updated: 06/04/2018 at 8:08pm
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Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
January 10th, 2015 1:57pm
Because you start believing that you are what bullies say, because they repeat that over and over again. You need to get that out of your head, you are what you want to be, and no one else has the right to tell you what to do or what to be.
Anonymous
April 11th, 2016 12:28pm
No matter how many times we tell ourselves to not care about our bullies, we always end up paying alittle attention to what they're saying. If it happened since you were young it hurts to know that there are people cruel like that. Everything they say can stick with you until you grow up. It can also hurt if it came from someone close or someone you haven't done anything to. It's best to just let the thoughts of your bullies flow accept that you've been bullied.
brokenmarsh
March 26th, 2015 5:14am
Bullying personally hurts me because bullied point out your flaws, the ones you try your hardest to hide. They pick at all your flaws and make you feel completely worthless. That pain lasts for a while because all the words they said stay in your head in exact detail.
imemma03
February 20th, 2018 11:23am
because they really try to hurt you, it might not be what they say that hurts you the most, but maybe that they do bully you because they are jealous or they judge you before getting to know you
DipityEnigma
June 6th, 2015 3:23am
It depends on the length of bullying sometimes. If you've been bullied for a few years, you end up feeling like you deserve it but then when you realise you didn't deserve it, you feel hatred, anger and upset that you went through all that for nothing but there's nothing you can do about it now. "Shoulda, coulda, woulda" as the saying goes. Bullying hurts because you feel like you're a target; like it's meant to happen and after so long, you simply accept it and bullying becomes just another part of life. Bullying shouldn't happen but it does and if this is a personal experience that you're referring to, I'm sorry that you've had to go through such a terrible ordeal and I wish you the best of luck.
sweetSunshine28
December 8th, 2015 3:02pm
I feel its cause bullies target our weakness, that's what makes them feel so powerful. And if they are able to pick at something that hurts us we feel the pain long after. Even though we know what they say or do isnt true We are reminded that someone hurt us for a while after it happens.
Anonymous
April 5th, 2015 1:11am
Bullying can affect people in a lot of ways. Some people may feel the effects of this for a long time afterwards. It is possible that you aren't completely over what happened or that you may need some form of closure.
Anonymous
May 6th, 2015 4:51am
Because people knock you down so you feel worthless about youself. like one time i was called freackle face and that really put me down
librabrandi89
May 20th, 2015 12:46am
Because it leaves emotional, mental, and physical scars. But luckily these can be healed by you and only you
Anonymous
April 9th, 2015 1:40pm
Bullying can hurt for so long because sometimes it goes unnoticed, or unresolved. A lot of people don't speak up when they are being bullied and they let it happen, which can, in the long run cause hurt and sometimes anxiety associated with the bullying
smilejade
July 13th, 2015 8:58pm
Because the bullies have been chipping away at you for so long that what they do or what they say takes a big hit on your brain and mental state and will take much longer to accept than what anything else would.
ListeningOak
August 11th, 2015 2:36pm
Memories have a tendency to haunt us for a long time, especially the bad ones. When we're bullied it raises all sorts of horrible negative emotions that hurt us every time we remember them. It's important to remember that it is never your fault that someone bullied you, NEVER and that you are not alone.
Anonymous
August 29th, 2016 3:39am
It hurts for so long because it leaves some scars in your childhood which affect the way you perceived something in the future.
PuckisaDuck
May 29th, 2018 11:58pm
I think that’s because minor (or major) negative things in your life keep reminding you of it, and therefore you keep experiencing your past over and over again.
Anonymous
December 7th, 2015 3:47am
Because it sticks to you and never really goes away because it is something that will always be around and those feelings may never go away but no matter what you are worth it
janicenotfromfriends
January 25th, 2016 8:42am
I know bullying hurts as I myself have gone through it. The worst part for me was that my own best friends had bullied Me. Bullying hurts a lot and can cause serious stress, but trust me, that'll be there for only sometime. You'll get over it once it's over and when you do, you'll feel great. You'll tend to push it awayand it won't last for long. All you've to do is stay happy and never back down.
blissfulHug30
January 26th, 2016 2:59am
Because we are human. We want to feel loved by others actions and words. When someone hurts that trust with bullying, it hurts us. Its a natural feelings to grieve. Talking about your experience with a truth worthy adult, or a counselor is a good place to start recovering.
LoverOfHappiness
February 8th, 2016 6:55am
It hurts for so long, because it wasn't just name calling or physical altercations that passed through your body and ears, but it passed through your mind. It hinders your mentality and emotions. And those things stay there, the very actions of people can be embedded in our minds forever and since our brain is a storing information system its hard to just click file delete.
Brighterdays69
July 12th, 2016 8:56am
same reason deeper cuts take longer to heal, they didn't build Rome in a day. Pain stays with us no matter where we take it or how far it follows, it's still there. But you have to remember the way someone treats you is only a reflection of their true self and how they feel upon themselves.
Keebler
September 26th, 2016 6:27am
Because I'm our minds we never forget what happened we just learn how to cope with it. Bullying hurts because it causes self embarrassment and depression and over thinking of ourselves with negative thoughts. We feel possibly unacceptable to others and feel like possibly we aren't good enough for others.
pixiex1
October 10th, 2016 1:20pm
The effects of bullying can make people feel sad,lonely, depressed and make you feels insecure it can also go unresolved for so long
Anonymous
October 10th, 2016 1:44pm
Bullying hurts for so long, because those words are in-bedded into our brains, so we think that about ourselves.
peeledOrange
December 4th, 2017 5:57pm
Bullying hurt for so long because it tries to attack one’s identity and his emotions. Bullying brings an enormous risk of problems like depression. It hurts for so long because most of the time, it goes unspoken and buried inside one’s heart. The more we talk about it the more is brought at the surface and the person becomes stronger while the bullying becomes just a words.
Anonymous
June 4th, 2018 8:08pm
I was bullied so I know, it hurts because you feel as if no one likes you so then you have to get up everyday and have the pain of thinking that you don’t matter to anyone.