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Why is it easier to accept the bullying in the hopes it will go away, rather than stand up against it?

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Tomislav
September 15th, 2015 11:05pm
Bullying is occured towards weak people. I know its hard to accept, my dear questioner, but thats the truth. Bullies prey on kind, gentle, easy going people who are bit asocial and dont stand from the crowd. Because they are good people, they dont want to do bad things. Bullies despise that (because they have their own issues, whether they are suffering from a dissorder or a tough situation at home for an example) and take advantage of that (because they know they can do it and it gives them pleasure). It is a physical abuse that makes it harder for the victim to speak (out of fright of more physical pain) but mental abuse (like name calling, offending) can cause life long scars. In start, the victim is in shock that it happens to her and later on just gets used to the feeling of hopelessness and despair. Sooner you stand up to a bully, the better. But never use your fists. Use words, but not towards them. Towards your family. Towards your friends. Towards your teachers. Towards your colleauges. Towards anyone who can stop it! Bullies are cowards in heart and back off easily when they reach a problem. Sooner you stand up to them and open to someone, sooner theyll leave you alone. Hope this answer helps.
EternalOptimist
April 4th, 2015 6:11pm
Bullies tend to thrive on reaction which is why people suggest not standing up to them. Though this advice should not be followed blindly as every situation and person is different. Some people, myself included, just don't care about what others say (or at least pretend), others are more sensitive and can't help feeling attacked or humiliated when being bullied. Sometimes it's beter to talk things over, other times better to ignore them and if all else fails it's sometimes beter to try and get as far away from them as possible. They are bad energy in your life and you shouldn't let it harm you.
Freebirdie
May 2nd, 2015 7:26pm
Its easier because its easy to run away from a situation and your fear stops you from standing against them...You should act sensible and see that in the situation..What you should do and do it..If you wait you might over-think it!
Cosmiclover01
December 29th, 2015 4:09pm
Those who are bullied are always are in the hopes it'll go away at some point. But those who bully tend to pick on those who are timid and not so vocal. Individuals who are bullied probably wonder the consequences or worry for their own self if they create a bigger problem than what it already is. On top of that, some people just don't know how to stand up to a bully, they might also worry it could make matters worse.
aliciaaX0
January 28th, 2015 9:55pm
Standing up can put people at a greater risk of danger; it is best to put your safety first. Acceptance is key to being able to properly handle the pressure of bullying.
hereforyouheather
February 6th, 2015 10:28am
Standing up against takes courage and strength, and sometimes people haven't realized that it lives within them. It's easier to accept it in hopes you won't draw attention to yourself or worse it'll increase when you do stand up.
HoneyStarling
April 30th, 2015 2:38pm
I think sometimes because acceptance as a known quantity, is seems safer. You feel like you know what will happen if you lay down and take bullying, where as standing up - who knows what can happen? Plus confrontation takes effort and can be hard - and apathy and acceptance seem easier. But bullying does damage deep down that can affect you for a long time to come - it destroys your self worth. If you're not able to make a stand (which sometimes tackling bullying can realistically be too difficult), then it is worth making sure you're actively seeking support and compassion to help make sure your situation does the least harm to you.
magicalsummer152
June 17th, 2015 5:51pm
Because you feel it is easier but yiu dont realise what you are doing can get tiugh to handle its always better to let somebody with aauthority to noe about it even if you have to drag youself out of it..
Anonymous
August 18th, 2015 6:48am
It might be easier to accept because you are afraid to stand up. You might be afraid that it will get worse or you are afraid to get in trouble for standing up. When I was in school, I stood up to no one until one day my dad (who was bullied until he became the bully) set me straight and told me that he didn't care if I was going to get in trouble. He said if someone bullies you, you have to stand up or it will keep happening. Don't let standing up get to you to the point that you become the bully.
Peacefulmeditation
August 24th, 2015 3:26pm
It's always difficult to do the right thing. Just like it's easier to float down a river than it is to swim against the current.
AmorCaecus494
November 9th, 2015 9:53pm
In my personal experience standing up to them rarely works, it is often better to try to ignore it which i know is hard, if it is physical bullying then this you may need to speak to someone of authority that you feel will listen to you, but as far as verbal bullying this can be gotten past and in the end it builds your character and makes you a stronger person.
kirsteng123
November 16th, 2015 8:30pm
I think its easier to accept bullying rather than stand up against it because you're scared to stand up against a bully which is 100% understandable. That's why its so much easier to stand up to someone when you have friends behind you to defend you :)
Apanda
December 7th, 2015 9:47pm
Standing up is really hard! Bullies convince us that something is wrong with us, which makes it really difficult to have the confidence to tel them to stop. If you want to stop being bullied, it can help to practice with a friend, family member, pet, or in your mirror first. Practice defending yourself, and always remind yourself that you do matter. Eventually, you'll gain the confidence to speak up.
fancydrums00
March 8th, 2016 1:13pm
Standing up against bullying takes real guts and a lot of effort. Hoping that it will go away takes no effort.
Anonymous
March 28th, 2016 9:38am
It takes a lot of courage to stand up to bullying. Don't forget the easy way is not always the best way.
Blaze
December 19th, 2016 8:01am
When going through tough times, it's easier to stay in an uncomfortable but known situation, rather than try to change things and not be sure of the outcome. We are often scared things might get worse. But it's always worth it to stand up against something that brings you down, especially bullying.
Anonymous
April 11th, 2017 4:44pm
Standing up against bullying takes a courageous effort, and it's not easy, it feels uncomfortable to raise the voice against bullying, To avoid this uncomfortable feeling and any conscious effort,,, the subconscious mind find it easier to accept the bullying in the hope that it will eventually go away,,,
Anonymous
December 4th, 2017 4:49am
Because they want attention so if you don't give them attention, maybe they'll stop. But never accept it talk about it to your teachers.
Indieair
April 3rd, 2018 6:15pm
I think a lot of people think that bullying will go away after a while, but most of the cases, it just gets worse and more rough. People are usually afraid that if they get up on their feet, bullies will be more rude to them.
Anonymous
April 16th, 2018 4:59am
It is easier to accept it than standing up because you don't want to get yourself in trouble or thinking afterward they'll target you again and this is why you tend to avoid the option to seek help when you can.
Keepyourmindcalm
June 29th, 2020 2:57pm
From my perspective, it is easier due to that you just accept the fact that you are being bullied with no logical justification -bullying never needs a justification- by people who most of the times never care about the person the bully and neither themselves. On the contrary, acknowledging your value and uniqueness and standing up against it it’s the hard way. And if you want my opinion, it is the wiser one. Bullies are not people who want to be better. Most of the times they are people who just want to get out of their problems and find solutions such as bullying others. One thing you could do is ask them or he/she if they need your help to overcome something that concerns them. Another way -that I highly value as an individual- is to understand that you are unique. Don’t let people who don’t care about your well-being take your uniqueness away. Build on that! Good luck!