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Why was it always me getting bullied?

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Last Updated: 08/14/2018 at 12:58pm
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gentleZebra22
February 2nd, 2015 3:04am
As hard as it to believe, it was probably not always just you getting bullied. I'm sure that you had a really bad experience of being bullied, but bullies have almost always experienced bullying themselves and they just want to make someone else feel the pain they feel. I'm a teacher, and so often the kids that are being bullied one year reported being bullied previously. Sometimes they think that they'll feel better if they're the ones giving the bad treatment than receiving it. The people they bully are usually their peers that seem different, but what they don't realize is that those differences are what make them special and unique. If you were being bullied it's because your bully saw something in you that made them jealous and instead of dealing with it, they decided to lash out.
LapisAngularisVitae
April 15th, 2015 1:05am
Personally, I was bulllied for what made me stand out. I was someone who studied, "snitched". since I live by "I will not lie, steal, or cheat, and I will tolerate non among us who do", and was also relatively easy as a target. I did not have muscle or the gall to stand up to my bully because I believed it would be mean.
RoseIeroWay
May 22nd, 2015 4:52am
Poeple bully those who are kindest and most vulnerable, because they feel bad about themselves so much to the point where they have to shift the pain onto others.
PeacefulMermaid84
June 23rd, 2015 1:57pm
A lot of people got bullied, including myself! Be confident in yourself and you'll be able to outdo them.
Anonymous
August 4th, 2015 4:28am
people think that it is only them.. that are only getting bullied, sometimes! but its not their are so many people out their getting bullied just like you.
Molentra
September 10th, 2015 7:42am
It could just be bad luck, or if you're like me it could be because you were socially vulnerable. I was super shy, so I struggled to make friends. Even when I had friends it was normally a very small group. Because of this I was very socially vulnerable and an easy target for bullies.
bambi74
December 14th, 2015 4:21pm
people might think you are different and they don't like that it could also be that they are jealous and so they try and make you feel bad about yourself but don't let them get you down
PositiveDreamer2016
May 30th, 2016 6:26pm
Bullying is a thing that unfortunately still exists. Don't feel like you are alone. You are not alone. Many people are bullied on a daily basis. Stay strong and talk with a trusted adult, teacher, friend, family member, and we are here for you as well.
SupremeCourtJustice
July 25th, 2016 6:19pm
It's not your fault, really. The bullies only pick on those who they think are weaker than them.
friendlyKoala94
August 2nd, 2016 11:57am
People who bully other people usually go for persons who won't fight back, maybe due to their low self-steem or their calm personality. It's not your fault.
JCGeorge95
September 26th, 2016 3:51am
You are not alone in this situation. There are others out there who go through it at least once or twice in their lifetime. But most bullying comes from another persons personal insecurities directly/indirectly towards an individual. Bullies tend to try and rise above the victim because they themselves feel weak. A good way to 'stand up' to bullying, is by telling them sincerely to stop, and if they persist or it escalates to the point where you are in danger or serious risk, please consider telling someone you trust. Such as your parents, a trustworthy friend, a teacher, your boss, a police officer or seek help from a local Anti Bullying campaign/group in your area! It may also help you if you take a diary and log every single time this person has given you grief. Once done, fill in a bullying statement with your boss/principal/teacher etc. And action should be taken almost immediately or within 24 hours (Depending on their anti social behaviour policy, severity of the degree in bullying and within the victims discretion.) I hope I have helped, and good luck.
MartyFox
October 10th, 2016 1:35pm
It was not your fault bad people look for the innocent ones who mean no harm. Do never blame yourself
Anonymous
July 10th, 2017 12:12am
Bullys aways target their victims, ushually ones that look defenseless and wont fight back.
Anonymous
August 14th, 2018 12:58pm
It may feel like it's 'just you,' but there are others that get bullied. Some get bullied at home, some on the streets, and others in school. To the bully you seem like an easy target. Maybe your just naturally nice or that you have the perfect family. They see something in your life that they want. What it comes down to is, you are NOT to blame for what is happening to you. You are not the issue, your bully is. I really hope you tell a teacher or another adult to help with this situation.