Why would someone who is already in pain wish to inflict it upon others?

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MysticTails2701
October 12th, 2016 7:18am
psychologically it makes a person feel better about their pain due to not being the only one in pain
Anonymous
October 19th, 2016 1:52am
Because they are putting their anger onto others. It is an unhealthy mechanism of coping with pain..
Anonymous
October 23rd, 2016 2:04pm
Someone who is in pain don't have healthy ways to cope with that pain. They don't know how to deal with it in an appropriate way so they are wishing it upon someone else to be sure that there is someone that is going through the same thing as them
OctopusGarden
November 3rd, 2016 2:36am
They might feel that others who have wronged them deserve punishment for hurting them. Or they may feel that they are alone and become envious of people who seem to be having it easy, and believe that they should suffer too, even if they haven't hurt them.
Anonymous
November 5th, 2016 12:50am
They want others to experience they're feeling. They want to feel powerful or in control when at home they could be spiraling out of control.
ElliotIsGoingPlaces
November 5th, 2016 6:51am
I think someone who is already in pain will think it is okay to inflict it upon others because he might feel upset, or he just doesn't know how else to handle it.
CoreFeelings
November 16th, 2016 3:43am
Some people rationalize and cope with their pain by making sure that other people feel it because they never really knew how to deal with it themselves. It is not uncommon, mostly seen in children who are bullies. They are having trouble in their lives so they make others suffer so they do not feel so alone with their own problems.
RheanaHazel
December 9th, 2016 1:06am
They may feel as if others do not understand their pain, and they want them to be able to. They also may think it is unfair that they have to experience this pain and no on else does.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2016 4:26pm
because his pain might lead him to anger and anger does not let us think, The anger might amke us get satisfaction when seen other people in pain.
BakerStreet21
January 8th, 2017 3:03am
I suppose that worst case scenario, it is a way that the person is able to release some anger. If it is physical, it is not acceptable, but if you talk to the person, and tell them they are hurting you, maybe you could help them.
Nypssy
January 22nd, 2017 12:41am
For many that have been hurt have also been manipulated. Especially when those inflicting pain are close friends or family and can sometimes be confused with love or appropriate treatment given the circumstances. For these people who have been hurt and manipulated in this way, it is less of questioning why they wish to inflict harm upon others and more what makes them inflict pain upon others. The answer could be as simple as missing out of some key relationship factors to have been taught that is how to treat other people. #monkeyseemonkeydo
Revinjan
February 1st, 2017 12:46am
They want others to know the pain that they are feeling . These people do this because they feel the world is inbalance and they would believe that its unfair that they are the only one suffering. Rather then seek help they simply just choose to harm the people around them
Anonymous
February 9th, 2017 6:45am
Some people feel that inflicting pain on others will numb their own pain. It's a very selfish reason but that person is just trying to find a way to cope.
generousWaterfall39
February 17th, 2017 11:50am
Personally, I like to give individuals the benefit of the doubt. There is always the question of intent. People who are in pain sometimes lash out. It doesn't mean those impacted should become a consistent outlet for their frustration. It does open the door to some very important conversations. Boundaries, honesty and providing new coping mechanisms are priceless.
AnimalLover90
February 18th, 2017 12:26am
Maybe because they feel hurt and alone and they don't know how to express it or get the help that they need. All they can think of doing is making others feel the way that they feel so they feel less alone.
Anonymous
February 25th, 2017 6:07pm
People deal with pain in different ways. For some people the best way for them to deal with that pain is to hurt other people too.
Anonymous
March 16th, 2017 2:40am
sometimes people think hurting others will take away their pain. or the pain they are feeling is so harsh that they think the pain they will feel after hurting someone will feel better.
MalieMist
April 2nd, 2017 3:55am
they may feel like it'll make themselves feel better if they don't feel that they're the only ones going through it, or they may think that it will cause people to understand their pain & empathize. but it is not the way.
adventurousHazel
April 6th, 2017 9:20pm
Weakness. A great bunch of weakness and insecurity. Sadly, a lot of people feel like their own life gets less miserable if only they can drag others on their level or even further down. It can even give them some feeling of power and might to massage their ego, but it's probably just them being scared of feeling like they're alone with the pain.
TaranWanderer
April 12th, 2017 2:14pm
Everyone reacts to pain differently, and for some people, that reaction is lashing out. To want others to feel how they feel, or simply not understanding that the reason they are hurting others is because they are hurting. Sometimes pain makes people upset, and it's easy to hurt others when you're upset. It's not necessarily that they wish to, but it does happen. It can be a sort of relief, to push your pain on to someone else. That doesn't mean that it's a positive thing, but it is understandable.
sereneBeauty12
April 13th, 2017 4:33am
This is a hard concept to understand. This person must feel a lot of pain and resentment. They must be upset with them self and not know how to deal with it; therefore, they hurt other people to avoid their own pain.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2017 10:49pm
Possibly because they want others to feel their pain. Their pain might've been caused by society and they wanted everyone to feel the same pain they put this person through.
Anonymous
April 27th, 2017 3:34am
Sometimes people who are in a lot of pain want other people to understand how they are feeling by making them feel pain as well. They feel that others need to feel the same pain as they are.
purplefaithful81
April 28th, 2017 8:14am
Because they have no where else to inflict this pain. It's a common thing people do nowadays as they become so isolated in their own problems. To see someone in the same boat as them almost comforts them. Doesn't mean that it is right however.
gentleWinter41
May 7th, 2017 11:21pm
Oftentimes when persons are angry, they want others to be angry too. Likewise when they are sad or hurt. This is the reason the adage 'Misery loves company' holds true. It sometimes makes persons feel better when others are in pain if they are in pain. It differs for everyone. but have you ever been hurt or angry and because of that you say mean or hurtful things to hurt others? That is how persons in pain may feel.
MelPaddlingAlong
May 13th, 2017 1:50pm
Some people who are so clouded in their misery resent other for their happiness. They feel alone and isolated. They feel the world is unjust. They want to see that they are not alone. That others are miserable too. These people need compassion more than anyone.
joyfulsinger4
June 3rd, 2017 3:20pm
Well since they are in so much pain, they want to see it in others. They think it'll make them feel better knowing someone else is feeling pain. They might think that since more people are hurting, it'll make them better than others.
Anonymous
June 17th, 2017 1:42pm
To make themselves feel better and see others misserable too. That's the way they don't feel like they are the only ones that feel that way
AndyP84
June 29th, 2017 2:16am
Misery loves company. People sometimes like to make the outside world look like their inner world. If they are in pain, the bring it to life in their surroundings. It's sad that they can't see how much more good it does to share love.
joyfulBubbles81
July 8th, 2017 11:32pm
Because they want the victim to feel the same way they do. Or by them inflicting pain on others makes them feel powerful and better about themselves