Why would someone who is already in pain wish to inflict it upon others?

A person in pain may want to spread his pain to others in order to feel less alone. Knowing that he/she has successfully hurt others may give the person a sense of satisfaction that he is not alone in feeling pain and hurt. People often exude and spread the emotions in which they feel, maybe subconsciously -but nonetheless they do. Maybe spreading pain is the only way they feel they can get this gratification. But I like to believe that the correct way would be to learn how to channel this pain into something else other than bringing others down as well.

Because that's their escape route. To feel good that they're not alone who felt pain. To get the revenge they never had. To escape from the reality of being alone in the pain. It's hard for them to see someone happy or content. It burns them from inside and they believe they deserve to do this. At end for them it is their sad history or present that drives them to hatred and evil.. And they can justify it. It's hard for them but they will be always saying that they're doing the right thing. To be able to escape from their own demons

Because that is the only thing that someone has to give: pain. There is no more room for other feelings such as happiness and etc. Maybe he or she inflicts the pain upon others so that the pain is shared and they feel validated for doing it. There are other quotes which encourage them to inflict pain upon others. Quotes such as "what comes around goes around" or "all things should be fair and equal". These quotations may be the driving force for people to do what they do. However, there is hope. There is no need to inflict the same pain to others if only they can defuse the pain just by talking to others (that's why it is important to learn and master a language in order to express yourself clearly). By talking, pain can be defused and he or she can have space for other positive feelings again.

Yes, it is an indeed interesting proposition, if one has suffered then why would someone like to replicate it to others? I guess the difference in action lies in how the person who experienced misfortunes processes them? One of the people who was cheated would consider it as a social problem and might try to solve the issue by spreading knowledge among other fellows while the other one having the same experiences could process it differently to become a cheat himself, professing the world is evil and hence it deserves so. Lack of empathy often stems from the lack of experience of love and compassion during one's younger years.

It can be a way to cope for the one who is in pain. It may not justify for what they may have done, but from their perspective, they are hurting as well and they sometimes need to "let it out" or distract themselves from their life. While, in some cases, the whole "they're just talking about themselves when they call you names" is true, it can mean that when they are hurting they feel as though this is what they deserve yet they take it out on others, or maybe it's how they were/are being treated at home or by others. Like I said, this shouldn't justify for what they did, but it can help by understanding and starting to defuse the problem.

When people experience pain it can resemble a heavy load. If you carry too much, it is often easier to hand some of the load to others. People who do not experience empathy or cannot share their emotions to feel release sometimes drift off into inflicting pain on others. They feel that this is a possibility to share their feelings and force people into empathy as they are now feeling alike. This, however, is very harmful and it is important to stress that there are other ways. Experiencing empathy, talking to someone about the burden you have to carry, or just writing down your emotions for yourself are methods which could help to relieve you of your pain and share it in a non-harmful way.

It’s hard to feel like you’re the only one going through and feeling what you’re feeling. Often times we try to bring people to our level, and in a case like this, the thought could be “the more misery and pain, the better”. We may want to blame others for our hurt, and may want them to feel the suffering we believe they have caused. Understanding it’s not about anyone else, finding support from those who truly want happiness for you is a great place to start. Your suffering because you are allowing yourself to suffer. You have to want to change your thoughts and feelings, and learn new ways to do that, to help you see things differently. 7Cups, like so many other organizations is a good place to help you sort through those feelings, helping you to learn the basis of your hurt and how it’s brought you to such thoughts. You are never alone, even though at times it feels so lonely. There are always people who care and genuinely want the best for you and your life

Hurt people hurt people. so if someone is in pain and hurt they might want someone else to feel as they do. in most cases, that's not okay. it's important that you heal yourself first so you don't have those negative thoughts anymore. it will be hard but it's a learning experience. once you figure out your issue and fix it everything will work out. it's best to take time to yourself and don't allow just anyone in your space if you feel like causing pain to others because you are in pain yourself, take that time and find ways to heal and become the best you.

Sometimes people in pain inflict it on others as 1) its what they know and experience so are inflicting pain as they have no other response, 2) they are not meaning to inflict it. Some people inflict pain without the realisation they are doing it, so its hard for them to stop their behaviour if they are unaware. 3) They want other people to feel there pain - some people want other people to feel pain so they can try and understand how they are feeling and making them feel pain the person may see as the best way of doing it.

The answer you are looking for is already in the question. Sometimes (in fact, more often than not), people hurt others exactly because they are in pain themselves. If pain is all they know, pain is the only thing they can offer to others. By hurting others people may experience a perception of fairness ("if everybody around is hurting, then my own pain is somewhat fair"), or even relief ("if I hurt someone else, maybe they will hurt more than me, and that means that my pain may not be as bad in comparison"). These processes tend to happen subconsciously, meaning that people often do not intend any harm to others, and when asked why they did, they truly may not know the answer. This means that often people will hurt others without such intent per se, but rather in subconscious efforts to relieve their own pain.

There are some people in this world who want others to hurt just as badly as they do. It's unfortunate that they've come to this point but it's usually because they've been quite bitter for a long time. Have you considered the importance of your relationship with this person? Is there anything you can do to take care of yourself, especially if the relationship is important to you? Sometimes it's better to take care of ourselves because we're not going to be able to change the person. The only thing we can change in this world is ourselves and how we handle situations.

Someone who is already in pain may wish for others to feel their pain to make them understand. If someone was beaten up as a child they may also beat up their children because they may not know another way to approach the problem. If someone has been in pain for a little bit now they may be mind-controlled in a way to make them beat up others. Some people who are bullied may target others like him because he was bulied. that is why someone in pain may hurt others.

inflicting pain on others, while your in pain, makes your feel good. because someone other than yourself is hurting. but at what cost? you just hurt someone you care for, for tempory relief of your own pain. instead of hurting that person you could have just asked them for help or support.

People want to know that others are hurting more than they are to deflect their pain. It's cruel, and unjust, but not uncommon. They want to know others are worse off than they are in their time of need, and it makes them feel better to know that things could be worse (even if they're the ones who made it worse for other people). No one wants to hurt, and some people find it easier to cope by taking out their hurt and anger and emotion on people who don't deserve it, as a sort of way to pass the pain onto someone else.

Because they have repressed the anger and frustration within them for a long, long time and haven't taken any steps towards getting out of the pain. Inflicting pain would become second nature if not addressed in time.

Sometimes, people may want to get back at the world for the pain inflicted on them, or struggle to process their emotions in a healthy way, and their desire to inflict pain upon others could possibly be a coping mechanism. Maybe this person struggles with intrusive thoughts or desires, and does not know how to handle these thoughts or desires, and need help perhaps through therapy, apps like 7 cups, mindfulness activities or other activities which can increase a person’s mental well-being and health. Sometimes, they may want a reaction out of the person, due to loneliness. They should be supported.

because they feel the need to drag others down with them. Don't let them do it, instead ask if they want to talk and just be their friend

Because they don´t know how else to cope, I think. When you are in a lot of pain, some of the time you do end up inflicting it on others. That can be a reaction of feeling jealous that someone might have it better than you emotionally or just generally not knowing what to do with all of the pain that you feel.

as an act of revenge...or...simply the same way an injured elephant flings itself around and hurts everyone else...the elephant is only trying to fling the pain away. Not understanding that flinging does ..nothing.

because they are full of pain and want others to feel how they feel

Some people are just built like that. They believe that what they are going through is horrible and has ruined their life or they may feel angry at other for being able to live painlessly and thus want to make others feel that pain. Therefore by choosing to make other feel pain, they can feel joy or happiness or some kind of solace at knowing that they are not alone and others will suffer just like them. Or they might make others feel pain, so that they too can become just like them. If someone wishes to do this, to others, they should receive the help that they need.

I honestly think as humans we don't wish to do this however sometime we have to be aware of the impact if our actions. Honesty is always best and listening to each other is the only way forward. I remember a girl friend asking me what a guy meant by his behaviour and he stopped calling. He stopped calling as he had lost interest! He just isn't into you. We gave to be honest and listen to each other.

To make themselves feel better, as if they aren't alone in their pain, and need somewhere to put out their energy and frustrations.

When people are in pain sometimes they look for an outlet to deal with that pain, and for them, it may mean hurting others. Some people have low self-esteem or feel powerless and being horrible to others may make them feel better about themselves.

Maybe they are jealous by other people's happiness so they inflict pain upon others out of spite and jealously and in an attempt to cause them to be unhappy. Perhaps they inflict pain thinking that other peoples misery will cause them to feel better about themselves. This act could also be a cry for help, they could be doing this to get attention if they feel alone and isolated. Speak to them and tell them how hurtful their actions are and perhaps having an open conversation with them may help you understand their thoughts and feels on such matter.

I believe that someone who is already in pain is blinded by their own emotions and so unable to understand or feel for others. Their minds are so cluttered with negativity that they believe they are the only ones who suffer from sorrow in their lives. They believe they are alone and have no one to help them. Because they believe no one is looking out for them, they may develop feelings of envy and hatred against others. They begin to believe that life is unjust and that they should not be the only ones who are suffering leading to strong feelings of inflicting pain on others.

It might stem from the belief that the person the aggression is aimed at somehow hurt them or is responsible for their suffering. It's a reaction to a factual or perceived pain that was inflicted on the body or the spirit. People who are in pain and who are aggressive in return might not be mature and present enough to see themselves as aggressors and take responsibility for their actions. This requires self-reflection, and people who are in pain are occupied with their own pain to notice the pain they inflict on others around them, or to understand its gravity.

Someone who is already in pain might wish to inflict it upon others because some feel that if they bring someone else down, it will bring them up. While this is often not the case, some will continue to hurt others in order to feel better about themselves. Some feel that if they hurt others in a way that they are not hurting, they are better because they are not feeling the same pain that person is. People usually want to feel like they are better than others, because of this they will do anything they can to bring themselves up. This is not the case for everyone, though.

Many people who are in pain are in a place where they handle things out of emotion instead of rationality, which causes them to do things they wouldn't usually have done. I feel like in most cases, it is not someone's wish to inflict it upon others, but an unconscious to react to what has been happening to someone. Many people reflect what has been done to them onto other people. For some, they also see the infliction of pain onto others as the last way out of their own misery. Though some people hurt others on purpose, many people who have suffered don't do so.

Remember hurting other people is wrong, but some people believe that if they make other people the same way they felt they may be nicer to the other person or have someone else to relate to.