Why would someone who is already in pain wish to inflict it upon others?

Often times I feel it's almost a coping strategy, especially if the person hasn't talked about their situation to someone who actively listens to them. Perhaps they are not ready to do so and in the meantime their emotions are not stable that can lead to them saying things that they don't really mean, rather have got caught up in that feeling. I know for myself if I am having a bad day I am more likely to do something or say something negative because sometimes that emotion can take over. I won't mean anything personally by it just an outburst that I always try and apologize.

Sometimes it is not that they want to, it is that they feel like it is needed. Sometimes they feel like the only way to get someone to understand them or what they are going through they need to put someone through that issue. If the issue they are going through or went through was bullying or abuse they want someone to understand, so they might resort to forcing people to understand and forcing people to go through the same pain and misfortune they suffered through. Sometimes it feels like the only person that understands and knows is yourself and that can make people feel uncomfortable.

No one wants to feel alone. Sometimes people desperately want others to understand how they feel. In a way, it can be seen as balancing the scales; creating justice. Another possibility is that people who are in pain do not know how to properly cope, and cannot keep their emotions in check. This is why it is advised to never make decisions when upset or angry, because you might do something you could regret later on. Of course, this doesn't excuse inflicting pain upon others, but it might help you understand what they are thinking. If you know someone like this, try to understand and help them, but be sure to take care of yourself and your wellbeing above all else.

Someone in pain may wish to inflict it on others in an effort of validation for his/her/their own experience. Also, it can be a harmful attempt for one to cope with feelings of stress or humiliation by projecting one's experience onto another. When in pain, it becomes very easy to feel isolated and alone, so seeing others in the same or a similar experience can cause a person to feel more valid, even though the validation is at the expense of another person. When someone in pain feels invalidated, it may become even more difficult to reach out for support, so self medication, even if harmful, becomes a bigger option.

Some people think it will be easier to get through their own suffering if they know others are also in pain. Sometimes it makes them feel powerful when they else wise feel powerless. It is not justifiable by any measure, but an exercise in having empathy for their pain may bring a little clarity and compassion to the situation at hand. Sometimes showing them that you recognize their pain as the source of their actions is enough to make them rethink their next steps. Compassion may be difficult to achieve, but start with empathy and you may achieve astonishing growth. Resentment is a poison you take yourself.

For some people, I think it's an outlet. It's not healthy, and it's definitely not right, but hurt people hurt people. I also think that when someone is at their lowest, they have trouble focusing on anything but their own pain, and they hurt people on accident or more than they intend to. With pain, some people become anxious (which can cause irritability) and impulsive. Others, I think, feel like a burden to those they care about and simply want to drive their loved ones away. Loneliness feeds itself as it tells someone they're not worthy of love or attention, so they push people away.

It's easier to forget your own pain when you're too busy hurting others. Many people use bullying and rude behaviour as a way of expressing and venting the pain they already feel. It's not a good outlet or coping mechanism by any means, but for people who don't understand their own emotions, it's the easiest way they know how. It could also lead them to feel less alone in their pain as now they aren't the only ones suffering through it. There's also the possibility that it comes from a place of "it's not fair that this is happening to me." So they lash out as well.

Sometimes pain can deeply hurt someone. Pain can cause anger in some people. These strong emotions can make them feel isolated. They may want to make other feel as they do so they feel less alone, so they feel more normal. I have personally faught with my mother and at seeing her seemingly unaffected by my words have said mean things to her in order to hurt her. I am not proud of this but I wanted her to feel my pain. Sometimes when others feel your pain as well you feel better understood and not alone. This is why people in pain sometimes wish to inflict pain on others,after all pain can be blinding.

When someone is in pain, their first instinct normally if that pain is anger. Is to cause the people around them the same type of hurt so that they can feel better from it, and feel as though since they're hurting people they can't be hurt themselves. For example bullying, the joy they get from that is they feel powerful bringing someone else down because it means they're "Better than others" or "Stronger" When really they're just suffering on the inside and need something negative to bring a positive to their life, and maybe the feeling of power so that they feel they have worth.

When they’re in pain, they somehow throw their anger on other people because that’s the way they cope with things in order for their anger to get out of their system. Yes it’s wrong to throw something at someone when they’re innocent, but that’s just how the person griefs and handles their emotions. Sometimes they want attention and throw the pain at someone in order for that person to help them, or be there for them. That person means no harm against others when throwing their pain or anger at them, they just want to feel comfort from a person.

People who are already in pain may try and inflict pain on others to call for help. They might not know how to express their hurt and ask for help so they try and make other people feel how they do. They want to find a way to connect with someone, and they do this through the pain. When people are I pain, it can hurt even more to see the people around you prospering and being happy. Inflicting pain could make someone feel like they have control over something, if losing control is a source of pain for them.

I have always wondered this as well, especially with my own actions as well. It is usually hinged to the individual and each reason is explicitly personal and based off of the situation at hand!! No matter what the reason is - no one should have the right to cause any amount of pain! but Humans do not always think rationally, we make mistakes and this includes hurting others!! We may lash out if we are hurt, to try to push away the pain- to not get further harmed by the individual or prevent another traumatic circumstance from happening. It is hard to be continuously hurt, and a bitter, callous nature can become a defense mechanism for some people! It doesn't make it right, but it does make us a human that is trying to cope with our emotions!!

This is because that person does not know how to express their pain. For example some people may bully others because it reflects on the pain they are experiencing in their own lives and they may not have anyone to talk to. Hence the only way they feel they can express is this pain is by inflicting it on others. Bullies could be experiencing bullying themselves either in school or at home in an abusive household. Therefore they may feel that it gives them more power when they are able to inflict pain onto others as they are no longer seen as weak.

Sometimes, people who are in pain, want others to know and understand how they are feeling, and the only way they can think to do make others understand is to inflict pain on them as well. In other cases, some people do not have control over the pain that they are being caused, so as a result, they lash out and inflict pain upon others as a way to temporarily relieve themselves of their own. Either way, it is wrong to knowingly inflict pain on others. Usually, in general though, this is done as a coping mechanism to deal with the pain that they are experiencing themselves.

Because they are in pain. When we are in pain, we aren't thinking rationally. Perhaps it momentarily feels better, like a release of sorts. Often people in pain are just not aware of how others feel (or even care). A soul in pain is desperate. It's not rational. It's finding a way to survive. It's important to not take it personally but to understand that it is purely a reflection of how they feel. That said, this does not mean being abused. Even people in acute pain do not get to mistreat people in a way that is abusive (mental or physical). If it feels abusive, step away.

That is a difficult question, because there could be many reasons. People who are experiencing pain may be projecting their pain onto someone else so they are not alone hurting. Pain can make people do things they would also never do in their clear mind. Being understanding and knowing they may not mean what they say and they are in a different head space can also be important. However, if they are inflicting pain it is also right for the receiver to wish them the best and carry on. Being supportive and understanding is beneficial to them and they will eventually realize that.

People experiencing pain might struggle to share their feelings and instead may try to isolate themselves and bury their emotions. When others try to help, they may feel hopelessness or anger and that they are being misunderstood. So, in an attempt to try to make others feel as they do, they force them into a similar level of pain and suffering, being unkind, saying mean things, etc. This might be seen as an attempt to gain sympathy or understanding of their situation. People in pain can lash out if they are feeling overwhelmed and alone.

When you are in pain, it can be hard to empathize with others. Moreover, pain can lead to stressful and hurt feelings. These feelings can also include anger. Sometimes, this anger can be unleashed onto others without fully meaning to do so. Another reason why someone that is in pain might wish to inflict their pain upon others is because they want others to feel how they are feeling at that moment. To simplify, if someone is in pain, they might want others to understand the feelings that they are going through. What this person might not understand at the moment is that putting others in pain will not help heal their own pain.

sometimes, people would be so broken that they wish others shared a similar pain. When those who constantly face pain and hardships see others happy, they tend to inflict pain upon others. This might give them a sense of relief that they are not the only one who is suffering. If life has been too unfair with a person, they start to question why it's happening only with them and why are others happy. Seeing everyone around them happy might drive them to get negative thoughts and wishing to see others in pain. This is a common tendency for people who are very hurt.

I would think it is so they can feel better about themselves, like a form of escape away from their current feelings. All the pent up emotion from their situation could overflow one day resulting in them becoming bitter and more easily aggravated. Consequently, this could result in them wishing to release some of their anger and inflicting pain upon others is a way to do that. In some way, they may wish to do this so they know that they aren't the only ones experiencing sorrow. Of course, it could also be that their current emotional state has just numbed them and made them unaware of what their own words could do to another individual.

Because it is comforting for someone to experience what you are experiencing, and there is the potential that it is a revenge based decision, if they have been hurt by someone, maybe they wish to hurt them back. There are those who don't fully understand how to deal with their emotions and when they are in pain can lash out in various ways and not realise what they're doing is seeking comfort in the form of " relate to me I am in pain " I feel that they wish to be understood and that is the only way they know how to express that.

Someone who feels pain for any reason would possibly inflict pain onto others so that they can show others how they feel from their pain. When one inflicts this pain onto another person, they often feel a sense of power or control, something the person originally feeling the pain most often would not feel they have due to originally not having control. When someone sees something cool, they often want to show others to share the joy - if someone would do this then when someone feels pain, that would be they may want to show others the pain to share it. It is a sense of power within one's mind/

This is very common. Basically, someone who's going through pain is at a bad place. Our mind cannot handle being in a bad place, which leads to a chain of unhealthy coping mechanisms, some are directed at harming ourselves, others at harming others. Inflicting pain on others could serve as a distraction, or as a means to punish someone, anyone, for the pain they're experiencing. It's a sort of tit-for-tat logic that's skewed, but people often say that they have terribly tragic backstories and they're so hurt they start inflicting pain on others. Think of stories; almost all fictional villains have bad backstories. They aren't right; just suffering.

A good friend once told me that people never act solely from a desire to hurt others, but rather from an underlying desire to ease their own pain or circumstances. People who are experiencing high degrees of pain themselves often don't want to hurt others for the sake of hurting others. If or when they in fact do hurt someone else, it is usually because they don't see another option or because they want someone to understand what it is they feel. Being in pain can be lonely, upsetting, frustrating, or even enraging. When we consider these feelings as the potential context for their actions, their actions or desires can seem more human and more understandable.

When the person is actively in deep pain, they are lashing out defensively. They feel backed into a corner so they are attacking to defend from being attacked. What about when they are not actively being attacked? When the person bullies another person or when they take joy from someone else's misery. They see their own weaknesses in their victims and seek to crush that weakness personified by the victim. In this way, the bully would feel they are disassociating with that weakness. A public display of crushing this weakness will amplify their disassociation from it as their image of themselves is now shared by others.

Our brains sends out instructions to our bodies based on things we experience, learn, see, and do. Sometimes we're not even aware of such communications because our experiences and behaviors may not be specifically linked to events. When we are experiencing pain, stress, fear, or worry, our parts of our brain begin to kick into gear with the intention of keeping us safe; however, when this part of our brain begins to do that, the rational thinking part of our brain can be easily overwhelmed and not function as it prefers to. For some scenarios, people experiencing pain who are wishing to inflict more upon others may be showing signs that they are in distress or crisis. That being said, some people just do not have others interest in mind and it is important to take care of yourself by not being around such instances.

When you are in pain, you can find it difficult to regulate your emotions. Sometimes hurting someone else feels like you are redirecting the pain away from yourself. By hurting someone else, you can forget your own pain temporarily. However, this never resolves the problem and can create feelings of guilt and shame later. As a society, we are not taught to manage our emotions, to understand them, label them or accept them. We are often taught anger is bad when it can be useful. Emotions are never good or bad, they just are. But when we tell ourselves our emotions are bad, this can have negative consequences.

Hurt people tend to hurt others. When a person is going through pain or any struggle in their lives, some have the desire to have another person experience what they’re going through. They do this by putting another person through exactly what they have gone through or what they are going through. Some individuals even do this subconsciously because the pain becomes normal for them. This makes inflicting the pain even more normal for them. This starts a cycle that one person has to work on in order to break the cycle of pain in their lives as well as in the lives of the people around them.

1) They may want to do this as a form of revenge. When somebody is hurt, they might want the person who made them feel that way to experience the same thing that they did. They do this because they feel that they didn't deserve what happened to them and that the other person deserves the same thing. 2) They might also do it because they don't want to be the only one who feels that pain. Sometimes you just don't want to be alone in something, and as wrong as it sounds to want somebody else to hurt just for you to feel comfort, it happens.

In Germany we have a saying that says something like "Shared suffering is half suffering." This actually refers to talking openly about what bothers you and venting so for example someone might feel better after they came here and opened up to a Listener and so "shared their suffering" with them. Yet there might be people who suppress things going on with them so much that they don't even realize and they kind of shift that negative energy and use the other person as an outlet which might be consciously or even without them realizing they are hurting someone (talking about emotional pain). Another explanation would be that they feel it is "fair" that if they suffer others have to do so as well. These are just example answers and I am sure there are more possibilities. As you already stated a person that hurts others can (doesn't have to) be in (emotional) pain themselves. If you feel like they are not completely suppressing it and running away from it it might be an idea to carefully confront them with what you observe (without being judging or they will probably shut you out) and lend them an open ear so they can "share their suffering" at a way that is healthier for both, for example by venting. You might also let them know that there are options like 7cupsoftea where they can open up anonymously to strangers if it is nothing they want to talk about with you or anyone in real life. Yet it might be that the person does not even realize their behavior or that they suppress their own negative feelings so that there is no guarantee for that to succeed.