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Will people stop bullying me if I lose weight?

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PerfectlyImperfect9090
December 13th, 2014 9:51pm
Lose weight for yourself, not because of people or for people, they aren't worth your effort. Bullying is a kind of mental problem, they are sick people, they can't see someone better than them so they pull them down by doing this. Don't pay attention to them, they are weak people just go on, they don't even deserve that you think about them. Stay blessed :)
brothergeo
May 30th, 2015 2:47am
People bully others for a reason, that reason will never be the reason they make out it out to be, sure they may say it's our size,weight,skin colour,clothes, poor or wealthy, family circumstances etc but generally it'll be because you have something they don't, if your a nice person they'll pick on you for it, if your good at your work they'll pick on you for it, it'll never actually be something you've done they do it because te problem lies with them, if they come from broken homes, or too good a home, if they have no money or too much money..it's not your fault. Never change who you are to satisfy someone else, if you are happy with yourself the way you see you then don't change for anyone. Never give in and never give up.
Tush408
December 14th, 2014 4:09am
People who bully will find any reason possible to bully. The best way that I know how to stop a bully is to simply love yourself enough to stand up to what they are saying. Bullies are small people, the best way to beat a bully is to be a bigger person than they are.
katelyn22
December 13th, 2014 10:40pm
Your weight should not determine your worth. Gaining or losing weight should be solely on what you want and if you feel comfortable doing so. When others bully it's usually due to low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence. Do your best to ignore the nasty comments they say to you and continue doing whatever you feel is best for you. If YOU truly want to lose weight for yourself and feel better about yourself for YOU only then go for it. But never do it to please others. There's only one of you out there so treat yourself just as that, a work of unique art.
safesecrets79
December 13th, 2014 10:25pm
No because, unfortunately, the world is cruel and people will always find a way to make someone feel bad. Many bullies have flaws too, but they love to call out everyone else's. Just be yourself and the right people will come along.
Altdorf
March 19th, 2015 5:25am
People will certainly cease bullying if you gain confidence- as then their bullying will have no effect. Losing weight, or any other change to yourself that doesn't necessarily improve your confidence, will not necessarily affect your bullying. Though gaining control of your weight is always good from a medical perspective. Do it for yourself.
seekercastle
March 26th, 2015 6:02am
no, because people will always looking for your flaw then use that against you, and that's more of their fault not yours . if you want to lose weight, do it for yourself, not for anyone else. there's a lot of better reasons to lose weight, like for your own health. you're beautiful, you're unique, and just be who you are. just like tyrion lannister said, never forget what you are, the rest of the world will not, wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you ;)
Dako10
May 13th, 2015 5:34am
Bullying can make you feel like it's something about yourself that must cause it, but I can tell you that that is absolutely not the case. You could be what most people consider 'perfect', and yet people that are unhappy with themselves will find any detail about you to bully you over, just to try and escape their own pains and issues and make themselves feel better.
AffectionForever
March 8th, 2016 7:29am
It depends on the situation, generally, people who bully an individual do it to make themselves feel superior to the one who is being bullied. Therefore, sometimes it does not depend on the characteristics of the one who is bullied, but on the emotions the bully gets from bullying.
Lelde97
December 27th, 2014 3:09am
You are beautiful. And nobody has the right to make you feel like you’re not. Losing weight would mean letting the bullies win which isn't the way to go. Show that you are strong and powerful and at any given moment you have the power to say, this is not how the story is going to end. Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities and the way you look! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful and happy. Leave them behind and take the first step to taking control of your own life.
Anonymous
December 28th, 2014 5:01pm
Definitely no. They'll just find something else to target regardless of what you do because that satisfy their needs to dominate over others. If you ever feel like losing weight, do it for yourself and your health because that's all that matters! You are what's important. Not them.
Anonymous
March 21st, 2015 4:09am
People could stop bullying you if you lose weight, but if you want to lose weight, lose it for you- not for what other people think of you!
JessInTechnicolour
April 9th, 2015 12:44am
There will always be people who try to judge you or make you feel badly about yourself. Generally these people are unhappy themselves and want to make sure everyone else is equally unhappy. Living your life according to what others think or to impress others is a guaranteed way to be unhappy. Losing weight will not stop people from judging you or finding something about you to criticize. Your weight or appearance does not define you. You are perfect as you are. Spend your energy focusing on the people that love you and value you. The people that matter will not care what you weigh. Be confident that you are a wonderful person and you deserve to be happy on your terms.
neverletlifetakeyourspark
April 19th, 2015 5:43am
It does not matter what others think of you, only what you think of yourself. What will being sad about someone calling you a name accomplish? Nothing. It doesn't matter what they say. If they call you names, that means they are the ones who need to rethink them self. Just ignore and do whatever makes you happy. As long as you eat healthy, it doesn't really matter. Don't let them get to you. Keep your head up and smile, sunshine.
Funfloor
April 25th, 2015 5:35am
No they will not stop bullying you if you lose weight. That is a simple and short answer to your question. Well bullying is not a good approach to encourage a person to lose weight. LOL
Brook
April 25th, 2015 8:22am
You shouldn't ever change yourself for other people. You should always stay true to yourself. You are amazing the way you are. Don't let others change your perspective on yourself.
Anonymous
May 28th, 2015 1:30am
Self confidence starts with changes to your thoughts not to your body. People will always try to bring you down, and if it's not for your weight then it will be for something else. It's hard to let the haters roll off your back like water, but it can be learned! It's wrong that we have to work to change our thoughts to accommodate for their nastiness, but if we can learn to accept that their words are only words, and stop fueling their fire, then maybe one day they can learn to be kinder to others.
Waterbear
June 14th, 2015 7:16am
They might, but it's unlikely unless you suddenly get a new group of friends. Bullies may use fat as an excuse, but they're really bullying you because they can get away with it--that is, because you're in a vulnerable position and don't have friends to back you up. Also, weight loss is almost always temporary, and most of the ways you'd use to go about it will be unhealthy in the long run.
smilejade
July 13th, 2015 9:05pm
Do not feel like you have to change for people, you are your own person... And bullies get a kick out of doing picking at peoples insecurities so that they will do what they want them to do. Its hard not to do what your brain tells you because you want the bullying to stop so you'll do anything to make it stop, but if you was to lose weight they'd find something else to pick at, I've had the same problem and they just kept picking and picking by the time I had left school I was in no emotional state to carry on.
UnmaskYourDesire
July 28th, 2015 10:21am
No, it's not about your weight or anything. It's all about who bully you. He/she has problems. Not you. Just be yourself, be how you want to be.
Anonymous
August 17th, 2015 8:11pm
I think people will always find more excuses to bully people no matter what size or color they are. They don't care really, if they did they pick on nobody
Anonymous
September 1st, 2015 9:24am
There will always be someone who will put you down. The thing is, you should not let that person get to you. Be yourself. Surround yourself with people who love you.
IrisRose
December 28th, 2015 9:56pm
No, bullies will be bullies. They'll bully you no matter what. Just know that you're beautiful no matter what anyone says.
BenS
February 2nd, 2016 2:55pm
Hey mate! The truth behind bullying is that you are not bullied for your physical characteristics. They may specifically pick on you for these reasons, but if you were to change, I can guarantee to you that it will not stop. They will simply find something else. Bullies take advantage of your state of mind, rather than your physical appearance. The most important thing is that you yourself accept your being, and are comfortable with the life you lead. And so, for this reason, id advise doing one of two things. You can either simply let go of the care you hold for others- people will always be there to pull you down- you just need to ensure you take no notice of them. As long as you are truly at peace with yourself, nothing anyone else can say or do will affect you. If they want to talk rubbish, then let them. Or, if the bullying is more physical, other than responding with violence (which, even against odds, can sometimes be a good response- pre-emptive violence preventing further violence, you must let it be dealt with my an adult or teacher. This is not always the right way to go, and can worsen the situation sometimes. I hope this has helped!
HopeAlways16
March 21st, 2016 10:56am
I hate to say this but if I learned anything from my personal experience with bullying it's that bullies always find something that just isn't enough. So my advice is to lose weight for your own benefit (if you think you have to) not because someone out there thinks you should. You have to learn to love yourself. It would not be easy but it's crucial 'cause when you learn that, no bully in this world will have power over you to make you feel bad. So go on, we care about you. It's time you start caring about yourself. :)
FightingForYou7204
June 14th, 2016 7:55pm
Do not let people bully you into doing something you don't think you're ready for. Be yourself.
WonderLostSoul
August 8th, 2016 11:20pm
You need to do what feels best for you. Don't listen to the bullies! Stay true to yourself and try not to care what other people think of you!
ItIsWhatItIs99
August 7th, 2017 9:18am
If you want to lose weight, you should do it for yourself. People will always find something to make you feel bad about. Don't listen to them, they are not worth it
Anonymous
August 18th, 2017 2:10am
Firstly, your body is beautiful no matter what anybody says. Do not change what others do not like. You're unique and only you can chance yourself. That being said, it you believe the bullying is going to become worse if you don't lose some weight, I'd suggest reaching out to a trusted adult or therapist. If you don't feel comfortable with that even a loving friends - even if they're on 7cups - is all that you need to sometimes make you smile. I will say, if you do not like your gorgeous body, you can always change that. But don't let others force decisions onto you.
Anonymous
December 5th, 2017 12:00am
People shouldn't be bullying you for your weight. They shouldn't be bullying you for any reason. If you love who you are then you have no reason to change.