I am 19 and got feelings for my teacher. What do I do?
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Anonymous
February 17th, 2018 3:47am
It's completely normal to catch feelings for a teacher.
However, it's probably best not to act on them. Romantic involvement with a teacher could get them fired, and almost always ends miserably for the student as well.
I would suggest you appreciate your teacher for what they are - a (presumably) kind and lovely person who likes to help people and has helped you in this time. At the same time, appreciate them for what they are (statistically) not - a romantic partner for you. Teachers are sunsets, not diamonds.
This teacher is a sunset - beautiful, worth admiring for its time, but not to be owned. They are not a diamond to be held close forever.
Focus on growing yourself. Your education and experiences will grow you into a well-rounded person who can live joyful and free.
Focus on your friendships. If you don't have many friendships yet, go make some!
Be open to feelings for fellow students, but don't obsess over them.
Focus on friends. Focus on you.
You've got this!
Anonymous
June 1st, 2018 10:57pm
I used to feel the same way to back in highschool, i guess i was just into my philosophy teacher because he was young, well educated , wise... I used to have big expectations that somehow at the end of tye last highschool year ,I’ll confess to him ... glad didn’t do it !! I found out that I was just attracted to that person because he had abilities , I didn’t have or because he was sweet and know how to teach , that only means that he has good teaching skills not a sign for me to get attracted to him.. what I’m trying to say is that : It’s just a phase of confusing emotions that won’t last forever , deep down you might just appreciate your teacher . Today , I look back at what i thought was “love†and laugh or be like what was I thinking... ofcourse at that time it seems serious but after 1 or 2 years passed by , i don’t feel anything any,ore and I’m so relieved I didn’t admit anything yo him coz i would of turned that into an embarassing memory from the past . He is married now and I’m happy for him and I’ll always remember him as a good teacher , nothing else. :)
It's totally normal. Teachers makes themselves neat, intellegent, cheerful, beautiful and awesome. Sense of humor is also a bonus and they smell good. They have job and looks independent and strong. This makes us undoubtedly admire them to the extent falling in love ( for some students). Your 19, young. Give yourself a chance to admire her but dont force yourself. Teachers has reputation, career and family to be protected. They know very well that reciprocating your feelings to you brings unimaginable damage to her career and to your future. You can finish first your study and if your feelings towards her doesn't change after years then go to her and confess your love. Good luck and God bless.
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