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I’m bi-sexual and I’ve not told anyone, not because I don’t want to, because when it comes to it and I struggle saying it. I need advice and help on what to say.?

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Last Updated: 03/12/2020 at 9:40pm
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Aayla
- Expert in Coming out
March 12th, 2020 9:40pm
First of all, it's important to choose a time, a place and a person that make you feel as comfortable as possible. You can start by coming out to the person that is closest to you and/or the one who think is most supportive of LGBT realities. And then you can express your feelings openly, telling them what it means for who to be who you are, how you started questioning and eventually realized your identity. You can either say it all immediately and then elaborate (like "hey, there's something I wanted I tell you, I'm bi") or get there little by little (like "hey, there's something I wanted I tell you. For a long time I've been feeling like..."). Whatever makes you feel more comfortable. There's no right or wrong way to do it!
Anonymous
October 3rd, 2019 10:06pm
Hi, I'm a fellow bisexual (or pansexual, I'm not picky about the definition). I think tha kinda depends on why you are struggeling to say it. Are you worried how people will react? I can only speak from how it worked for me. I was pretty sure that my friends wouldn't mind, it started with discussions about people of all genders we thought were attractive and ended with me being like "Gender doesn't matter to me". Whenever it comes up with new people I have this short moment of panic of "what if they react badly?" but I came to terms with it. I decided for myself that this is part of me and that I'm not gonna hide it. If someone takes offence in that, that's their problem and I wouldn't want to have them in my life anyway. I don't know how your situation is and if there are people you trust to open up to, but no matter what, remember that you are not alone with this. Hell, in my experience there are probably more other non straights around you than you think (Honestly, it's like we flock together unconciously). Maybe they are struggeling the same way you do. Maybe start small with coming out. Let it drop here and there who you find attractive (celebrities or whatever) to test water on reactions. Or try to jump into the cold water. I once was talking with my mum and I dont remember everything, but it was something like "and if you bring a guy home, blabla" and I just blurted "What if it's a girl?" Now I tend to say something like that when someone tries to pin me to one gender. I'm not sure if this was helpful, but remember that you are not alone. you got this and I believe that you'll be able to do it, even if it still might take some time.