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Am I worthless? I'm 21 and I feel like such as disappointment to my family

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Last Updated: 07/27/2020 at 4:14am
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April 24th, 2018 12:46pm
No one is worthless. Maybe you feel that way because you feel like you haven't done anything better for your family compared to your age since you mentioned it. We are all tired of trying to be 'best enough' for others. But it's not always possible that we meet up the expectations of others. Maybe your family expect too much from you and that might also make you feel that way. Just because we are not doing well enough yet, doesn't mean we are worthless. We all have a value within each and every one of us. Others should appreciate you more :3
February 25th, 2020 12:47am
Hey great question. For me I would say - get okay with them rejecting you, the main goal is to open up. If you do that, reward yourself even if they reject you. It's a win that you took action and did something you were afraid of, not the outcome. Second I would say try not to have expectations of how something is going to be like again focus on the little winds. This will give you some momentum that will carry you on to bigger challenges! Hope this made some kinda sense and put into action this can really change things for you.
March 2nd, 2020 4:32pm
You're not worthless. You're worthy of so much in life just like everyone else. You're capable of anything if you put your mind to it. It doesn't matter what your age is, a lot of people feel worthless no matter how old they are. Age is just a number that represents how long you've been here. You many struggle but what you feel is valid and it's okay to feel like that sometimes and not everyone will understand that. We do what we do just to get through the day, you're not a disappointment to anyone. Even if they're not proud of you, you can be proud of yourself and so will your friends and loved ones. Family may not be everything but someone or something is better than nothing
July 27th, 2020 4:14am
first, let's examine the voices you hear, are the voices coming from those people overtly or you hear your own? why are you believed you have no strength? when you ponder over those, you can hold this thought, "a psychologist said that people have their own resources within them. insights, love, capabilites to overcome, solving problems, strenghts, wills, et cetera. But there are times people get lost and need to be reconnected with those inner strengths by the help of others". even if you're still persistent (by the facts) that you're worthless, how about imagine your life like a game? people starting their life from zero, or might restart. As time goes on, they will still have their others competence zero, BUT one strength, the ultimate one. another one, have you tried meeting a new person? what would they say to you? do they give you a regard, a smile? isn't it a warm gift? you still deserve something no matter how you are. And i believe in you too.