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Do I need to tell people that I'm depressed?

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Do I need to tell people that I'm depressed?
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gekko
December 31st, 2015 2:25am
No. Depression isn't something you should tell everyone. It usually makes people look at you in a different light. However, it's that's what you want, then it's all up to you.
jmc997
December 31st, 2015 1:36am
You don't have to tell anyone if that isn't what you want or feel like doing, but if they're close to you and you know they'll react well, they'd be a good support system for you
funnyVision29
December 30th, 2015 9:41pm
First you need to take a step back and think about if you trust that person with that information. If you do it also be good to consider if that information would be important to tell that person.
OceanBreeze
December 30th, 2015 3:01pm
It is very important to tell someone that you're depressed. However, be careful about who you trust. Find a friend or adult that you TRUST, and tell them that you're depressed. That way, they'll know immediately that you're serious and will be willing to find you the help you need.
FriendlyEmmy
December 30th, 2015 5:00am
I honestly think you should. Once that's been lifted off of you chest you can stating taking the right path to becoming better.
Aprildays2432
December 30th, 2015 12:36am
You absolutely do not need to tell people that you are depressed. While it could help so they could understand why you do certain things, if you are not comfortable sharing this then just don't tell them. You can tell as little or as much people about your depression that you want.
JayIvory5711
December 27th, 2015 11:13pm
No, not necessarily. You don't have to tell people that if you aren't comfortable. If you feel the need to then it's fine, but it all depends on if you think it'll help your situation.
CaringJoy
December 27th, 2015 10:08pm
Suffering alone can be hard so we need the support and love of people we can trust that have good intentions. I suggest only telling the people you trust that care about you, are supportive and non-judgmental.
SmileyJess
December 27th, 2015 9:12pm
I would advise to let the people in your life know about the problems you are facing in order to get the support you deserve and need. A family member or close friend is always best as you can trust them the most. It is easier to cope with knowing you have someone there for you. Also having someone who has some idea of what you're going through can be useful because some days will be worse than others and you won't have to explain to much about how you are feeling if they already know your problems. Additionally, it can make you feel less alone knowing someone feels the same way. However everybody doesn't need to know your problems because you also need a place you can go where nobody knows about that side of you somewhere you can go and forget about your troubles.
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 7:32pm
Only if it is truly necessary and with people you trust like your best friends, spouse, or family members. Never feel pressured to tell someone.
violetskies
December 27th, 2015 4:15pm
you dont have to shout it out, im sure you dont want to, but if you think you are your family might be able to help you seek professional help, if that is necessary. But it is useful to not fixate on it, so theres no point telling EVERYONE and tlaking about it ALL the time, it shouldn't be a secret though
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 11:07am
Those you love and trust. Not everyone needs to know, but if you happen to be like me, people know anyway.
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 10:15am
you don't need to if you don't want to. i don't see much help in telling anyone you are depressed. i the most importan thing is that you know it yourself and try to work on it by seeing a counselor or talking to someone you trust about it.
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 9:31am
It is a personal choice whether you tell people that you're depressed or not- I have personally only told people that I trust as it is truly a very personal thing to me
kindheartedKitty71
December 27th, 2015 8:56am
You only "need" to tell the people you want to tell, and who you trust.. Do not tell anyone if you are not comfortable.
joyfulApple58
December 27th, 2015 12:12am
No! You do not have to, but if you would like to do so go ahead. There is nothing wrong with telling someone you trust what's going on in your life.
Anonymous
December 26th, 2015 10:16pm
It might be a good idea too. They might be able to help you. No one has to go through depression alone.
MissSatan
December 26th, 2015 9:02pm
If you can't bear to keep it inside yourself. If you try and hold onto your pain too long, it'll overcome you. It'll become you. It'll slowly eat away at you, and turn you into something else. If you don't think you can hold it inside you and fight it on your own, you have to tell somebody. Because, I can promise you, you don't want to become what depression can turn you into.
BlissfulApril
December 26th, 2015 8:04am
No, If i tell a member that i am depressed, i don't want them thinking that i can't help them. I want the person who needs help to feel comfortable talking to me and feel safe.
Anonymous
December 26th, 2015 7:59am
I don't feel the need to talk about it, but it makes me feel like I am separate from other people if I don't.
gentleCandy44
December 25th, 2015 10:33pm
Only if you feel comfortable about telling another person , it will definitely help you get it off your shoulders at least a little
StormyAngles18
December 25th, 2015 8:42pm
Yes that's the best way to get help. Most people don't tell anyone that they are depressed so they end up not reciving the help they need which leads to suicide and such.
Sya
December 25th, 2015 8:26am
It's up to you. If you can deal with it alone then you don't have to. But you are struggling with too much then definitely find someone that will listen to you and help.
iWarrior
October 24th, 2014 5:49am
You don't need to tell anyone anything that you don't want to, but it's good that you let others know that you need help. They can provide you with resources.
MrHelpful
December 18th, 2015 3:52am
Yes! You need to tell people you are depressed because if you are not telling it you are going to explode of emotions. You are going to keep that for yourself and start be even more depressed. Everytime when you feel something on your heart you need to say and and solve it
sweetGrace46
December 18th, 2015 8:51am
You do not need to tell anyone. But you should get professional help and have one person or friend you can talk to.
DarkFairy99
December 18th, 2015 5:54pm
You should talk with someone it's good for you to tell someone what you feel and what you think about what happens around you. It's good to have someone that you trust and talk with that person
GlowingRainbow4
December 18th, 2015 10:10pm
I personally would not just go and tell many people that I am depressed. Saying that, I would only tell people I trust and people that I know would never tell anyone or judge me for how I feel. It is not healthy to keep your emotions in but I would be very careful with who you tell these things to.
Sxcialcasualty
December 18th, 2015 10:55pm
You only should tell people if you need help or you become a danger to yourself but you should be honest with your family and friends but it really no ones buissness
magicalHug
December 19th, 2015 8:36pm
Based on my personal experience, you don't need to tell people, who you don't care about much, about your depression. However, it was very very helpful to have someone you trust to talk to. It could be one person or more, it could be a family member or a friend, but bottling all your feelings up will make you feel alone even though there maybe are people you could talk to about it. Anyway you choose, good luck because it is a tough journey but as cliche as it might sound, it will be OK.