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Do people always want to get better from depression?

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Last Updated: 10/12/2021 at 5:05am
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January 29th, 2016 1:19am
Not everybody does.. Sometimes it feels like you literally become your depression, that you are nothing without it.
January 29th, 2016 6:13am
Yes they do but they should accept that they are depressed. The person who never accepts he is depressed will not get better bcz he wont even try.
January 29th, 2016 9:53pm
Some people do, while others tend to take longer to make their own personal comeback. Not every person is the same.
January 30th, 2016 2:21am
In most cases, yes, but some people are so in such a pit that they don't realize that their depression is keeping them from wanting to get better
January 30th, 2016 10:34am
No. When I was depressed I didn't want to get better. I thought it was my fault that I got that way, and that I would have to live with it. I thought there was something tragicly romantic to it.
January 30th, 2016 11:36pm
Of course everyone wants to feel better, the problem lays in the fact that sometimes you don't even want to acknowledge that you're depressed, or you feel so hopeless you don't think you deserve the help, or you simply don't know how to ask for it, so you sink, and you let it turn you into a sack of potatoes
January 31st, 2016 9:44pm
Yes they do. Some people realize then and some don't, thinking this is the better ultimatum or that they deserve it, but slowly they can learn that, no, you deserve to be better.
February 3rd, 2016 3:15am
From my experience, yes-- deep down, nobody wants to be unhappy. Depression is a mental illness, not a conscious choice. You might as well ask, "do people always want to get better from cancer?" As with both, there are times when people give up, but I wouldn't say that's the same thing as not wanting to get better. Sometimes, due to severity of the symptoms, hope can seem altogether lost, and suicide can seem like the only viable alternative to living a life of pain. However, nobody with depression wants to die-- they just don't want to keep feeling those negative feelings anymore. So yes, I believe that everyone wants to get better from depression, and it is possible to do so.
February 3rd, 2016 8:11pm
No one wants to continue feeling depression. But I find the path back from depression can be very confusing and full of obstacles. I think there are lots of people who find it hard to think about overcoming depression in one go. However, if you present the solution day by day, step by step, most are willing to go forward.
February 5th, 2016 11:22am
No, definitely not. Depression is a lifestyle I feel, a certain outlook on life that some people just don't think is a problem or affects them negatively. They often view their depression as reality. They are viewing themselves as realists
February 5th, 2016 9:45pm
I believe they do. My brother is bi-polar and he's dealt a lot with depression. However, there are some days when people don't want to get better, because they're swallowed in a pit of their own despair. The best thing you can do for them is to just remain supportive and loving, letting them know you care.
February 5th, 2016 10:18pm
Not always, but with some help totally! I suffer from it and only want to get better, but not everyone believes that they can, which is why we need to help.
February 6th, 2016 2:23am
Like any other illness, people do want to get better, but sometimes they don't even know they are dealing with depression, so how can they possibly seek for help?
February 6th, 2016 9:46am
not always some people find it hard to get better and the struggle can be very diffcult on the road to recovery some people dont want to get better and find it easier to not
February 7th, 2016 5:08am
People have to want to get better. They have to be tired of misery. Some people become accustomed to it. You have to actively participate in recovery.
February 7th, 2016 9:15am
I guess not. Depression can also bring people to lot of improvements and for seeking changes in life.
February 11th, 2016 2:07am
Yes and No. I've had time where ive been super depressed and i just want to suffer, and other times where i wish the pain would end .
February 11th, 2016 5:22am
Nobody wants to feel bad, .... but sometimes when a person gets so used to feeling a certain way, it can be come what is normal and in a way ... comforting.
April 11th, 2016 10:18am
my opinion is that not wanting to get out of depression is part of the problem. it might feel easier to stay home and sick, with everyone looking after you instead of being healthy and going out to work. depression sometimes works the same way
May 30th, 2016 6:13am
This is an interesting question. From what I've read, and from personal experiences, sometimes depression seems to feel so familiar and maybe almost comforting that one might feel hesitant to want to change. Change is scary, even if it is a change that will ultimately help one feel better. And change is also difficult, especially when managing mental illness. So in short, I would say that sometimes people might not want to get better from depression. I think this tends to be a temporary feeling, but I can't speak for everyone. Some reasons that people might not want to get better from depression include: depression feels familiar and perhaps safe, one might feel like they don't deserve to get better, trying to get better is hard and that (as well as change) can be scary. I hope this helps!
June 14th, 2016 9:30pm
Not always. Many people become trapped in that mindset and feel as if they have no hope at recovery. Things will always get better they just need work and time!
October 18th, 2016 8:22pm
Sometimes it's really hard to want to get better when you feel like life isn't worth living. Part of depression isn't just sadness, but often apathy, or simply not caring about anything. A lot of people who are depressed just can't bring themselves to care enough to do anything, good or bad.
November 21st, 2016 6:47pm
I feel like in a way, yes; but also at the same time, no. I believe everyone wants to go back to time when they were happy, but some people believe they do not deserve go "get better" or recover and that they deserve the negative things they are recieving in their life.
February 20th, 2017 2:48am
Personally I have been so caught up in it that maybe I didn't want to get better but it was more than just "wanting attention" it was this need and this feeling of "I'll be alright. This is helping me. It's straightening me out and making me tougher". I was wrong to think that though and I'm glad I got help.
July 9th, 2018 9:19pm
no they dont but its a slow process it takes time to understand that this is not normal and that there is more to life than what is currently being experience in time like those family and friends support can be helpful
August 13th, 2018 2:33am
Not everybody wants to get better from depression. Sometimes people don't want to get help. These people may feel like they can't be helped and they may think they shouldn't bothering trying to get better. Depression can cloud your thoughts into thinking you want to and deserve to feel that way. Nobody deserves that feeling.
September 4th, 2018 9:26am
There is a saying that "Man clings to his suffering as a drowning man to a straw". We are creatures of habit, and we tend to cling on to what is familiar to us. We seem to be born that way; most of us are resistant to trying new things; and perhaps this is a kind of laziness inherent in human beings, or perhaps there is some kind of psychic economy in doing certain things automatically, as we do when we drive a car. And yet, when I am depressed, I am aware of how frustrating it can be for others who are around me, as if I am not making any effort to get out of my depressed state, whereas the reality of depression is that it is paralysing, it leads me to exist in a state of numb inertia which makes it feel I would have to be somehow superhuman to shake it off. And perhaps there are perverse payoffs involved in effectively punishing the world for perceived hurts or injuries by withholding the positive energy which would otherwise flow supposing we did the work or releasing resentments or working out what it is we are perhaps doing ourselves which generates negative feedback from the world.
February 12th, 2019 12:43am
Of course. People who are depressed need support, love, and understanding every step of the way. It takes great strength to deal with such trouble, but even greater strength to get the help and support needed to overcome it. It is our civic duty to help those in need or who are grieving and assist them in the process of becoming a more spirited and lively person once again who takes the time to admire life for its beauty rather than curse it for its troubles. It's a very hard process, but one that needs to be done in order to improve the quality of life for the afflicted.
March 18th, 2019 5:47pm
No, people don't always want to get better from depression. Most people say they want to, but not everyone believe it and some just don't want to put in the effort which is their choice to make. I've struggled with both depression and anxiety myself and one thing, I'm battling with every time I get some kind of setback, is the feeling of being scared of change. If you're the person who 'is' depressed or the girl/guy who gets panic attack, it can be difficult to re-write your story and rewire your brain to believe that you're not that person. It's the feeling of being scared of change and that's okay. It doesn't mean that you can't make the change.
June 10th, 2019 9:01am
No, sometimes when people are depressed and they have been depressed for a long time they can't really remember a life where that depression wasn't present. Depression comes like a place of security, or even comfortable although it is hurting them. Stepping outside of the depression and getting better is scary because it is like stepping out of your comfort zone, it is scary and you don't know what to expect; it is just the same as anything that makes you feel uncertain or uncomfortable, giving a speech, ect. It doesn't mean that they can't get better, but that maybe more encouragement and support is needed to give them the momentum to push through their barriers and overcome depression. I just want to add that I don't know if it is you or someone you know who feels this way, but don't give up, there is not one person in this world facing depression that is exempt from getting better. You will get better, I am certain of it, and you have the power and the belief that you can overcome any obstacle that gets in your way. I believe in you so much. You are so powerful. Please if you need, reach out to me or someone else, you have a whole world on your team.