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Do people always want to get better from depression?

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TinyMermaid
December 16th, 2015 5:29am
I believe it is easy to fall into a routine where you just let it keep settling, and somehow "stop" fighting it, Afterall it does that to you, but it's definitely not the right choice as it most likely will just continue acting as a black hole, sucking you in more and more.
HelpfulJake
December 16th, 2015 6:05am
Not always. Some people don't feel like they can get better from depression. Lots of people wish that they could but feel that they don't have the capabilities or the tools at hand in order to pull themselves away from depression. For some people they feel that it is the end of the line and that nothing, or no one will be able to pull them from the spot they are in.
TopHattedTeaMan
December 16th, 2015 3:05pm
Yes, People want to get out of the constant state of mixed feelings and sadness, People who suffer from depression want to be happy and feel sad / mixed up emotionaly.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2015 5:18pm
I would hope so. The feeling that depression leaves in your life is one I hope that no one has to experience. It may seem like an endless hope to get better but there are ways.
heatherishere64
December 16th, 2015 10:32pm
Not always. It depends on the person. At first I didn't want to get better but then when I was feeling happy one day, I wanted that same happiness overall instead of being depressed all the time.
StormyAngles18
December 17th, 2015 12:11am
Not all people want to get better from depression. Some feed off of their own depression to survive without noticing its only making it worse.
GemmaPearson
December 17th, 2015 4:54am
There is really no way to know. We can't say that there are no people who want to stay depressed. The real question is why would anyone want to stay depressed? It's hard to think of reasons because depression, for most people, is very painful emotionally. It is hard to imagine why anyone would want to stay in that emotional state. But there may be some people who have come to rely on others and are too afraid to face the idea of taking care of themselves. For example, I used to watch a show called My 600 lb Life. The purpose of the show was that people were going in to have gastric bypass surgery. They had come to the point in their lives when they couldn't take anymore and wanted to get to a healthy weight. Prior to surgery, the people had been completely reliant on their families to do everything for them. Even being washed and using the bathroom was assisted. Every person I ever saw on the show was depressed. Some of the people had been living with their parents for most of their lives. I'm telling this story because, very few of the people followed the pre-surgery diet the doctor recommended. After the surgery, most of the people did not follow the post-surgery diet they were supposed to follow for the rest of their lives, and they did not continue to lose weight. They basically ended up right where they started. They continued to live assisted by their families, and their lives did not improve. Now, obviously I cannot say whether or not they wanted to stay depressed, but they did not have enough willpower or intention to get better. I am not saying that getting rid of depression is a matter of willpower. Anyone who knows anything about depression knows that's not true. But the depressed person does have to put some effort into working with their treatment team to take the necessary steps to help make themselves better. Changing your life in a major way can be scary. Changing jobs or changing houses can really shake you emotionally. Sometimes it seems easier to stay where you are. In this sense, maybe there are people who want to remain depressed.
clh2os
December 17th, 2015 7:41am
Sometimes depression is exhausting--so exhausting that even the thought of recovery may sound draining. Its not that the individual doesn't want happiness--sometimes depression can be so engulfing that happiness seems futile. That's why there are many alternatives available--speaking out to friends and family, seeking counseling and professional assistance, even medical interventions.
TheITGuy
December 17th, 2015 12:26pm
My opinion is, that everyone wants to get out of depression. The more important fact is, that many people don't know they are into depression or are denying that they have one. And its hard to come up with the power to get started working to get better from the depression.
CarefreeKitty
December 17th, 2015 2:38pm
Personally, I think everyone wants to get better. However, it's not always an easy thing to do. So after trying and trying to get better and failing every time it can be really disheartening and make you not want to do anything and that basically can stop you from having the energy to carry on trying.
Anonymous
December 17th, 2015 7:11pm
i think, sometimes they dont want it. not because they like it, but they dont have strength for it. they need someone who could make them want to feel better and give them more power for it.
Anonymous
December 18th, 2015 6:31am
No not everyone because most people don't want to admit that they have it and also they're scared for what they could feel like afterwards.
luminousLynx19
December 18th, 2015 10:08pm
While most people do eventually want to stop being depressed, some people just want to wallow in sadness believing that they deserve to be sad. Nobody deserves to be sad, no matter what they did.
GlowingRainbow4
December 18th, 2015 10:15pm
Depression hurts anyone that experiences it even when they try to be strong about it. Does everyone want to get better? I am not really sure. I would hope that they would. Everyone I have known who has had it (including myself) tried to overcome it the best they could but I couldn't say whether Everyone wants to get better. Saying that, a lot of people do want help to concur depression and they want to get better so they can live their lives happily. Have I ever met anyone who doesn't want to get better? No. Then again, I don't know everyone's feelings towards their depression.
Anonymous
December 19th, 2015 2:30am
Sometimes people don't want to get better from depression because it is the only thing they know...
Anonymous
December 19th, 2015 3:08am
Ofcource! Who wants to spend life in a dark well? Depression is a state of mind where persin is always low and depeessed. No one wants that. People want to be happy.
courageousHorizon38
December 19th, 2015 9:02am
Actually not everyone does. Because there so used to it. They're comfortable with the way they feel, they don't wanna leave there nest. But some people hate depression and just want it gone. It's depends on how the person is honestly.
Miracle
December 19th, 2015 1:25pm
I think that people do want to get better from depression, but for a number of reasons it may sometimes appear that they do not. For some people low level depression has become a part of their life and identity and it's hard to leave behind old habits and ways of interacting with others and the world. For those suffering from more severe forms they may have fallen into a pattern where they are cared for by others and fear taking on challenges such as school, work or looking after a family again, so may be quite resistant to treatment efforts.
FruityloveBubbles11
December 19th, 2015 6:41pm
I believe wholeheartedly that they do . I always wanted to until I did. :-) for me it was a long mental journey where I began to learn about my brain and my life by myself. Like a personal journey getting to know myself not the image of me or the standards. I started to understand myself instead of judging. I learned to experience life by my eyes not a 3rd person feeling. To answer your question if a person is actually depressed they will want to get better. Sometimes you might meet people who look or feel depressed but are actually other things going on and they might not want to get better from those things. But it can come a time when a person is so depressed that they have given up a hope to get better and that can come off as they not wanting to get better. But when we suffer we want things to get better same for people suffering with depression even if they might not have the courage or motivation to do it they still do want to get better.
Anonymous
December 20th, 2015 6:31am
Personally. I am not sure. It is a feeling that is quite worse, I want to get out of it, but still I feel, that there is nowhere else left for me to go. More like getting lost in a forest, but not having the enrgy to get out of it or even think about getting out of that situation. Of course I would like to get better, but lack the energy , will and ability to do so.
Kenzielynn
December 20th, 2015 3:58pm
Not everyone who has depression wants to get better, but that doesn't mean that they can't get better. Most people who don't want to get better find that with counselling and therapy they are happy with the progress they make
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 3:59pm
Yes, we all want to get better. We just don't always know how but with support and guidance, you can become better because you are someone who's of value and you deserve the best in life. Keep your head up.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 5:15pm
Most people do want to get better from depression because it is horrible snd they just want to be happy again however some people get soo used to being depressed that they don't want to change.
SpookyBlue
December 23rd, 2015 6:30pm
Every person's experience with depression is different. Depression can affect a person's motivation, can make them lose the joy they once had in things that interested them, and can sap their energy. People with depression usually have to try out many different forms of treatment, whether that be different types of therapy or different types of medicine, to manage their depression. The most important thing to remember is that every person's journey is their own, and they have the right not to pursue various treatments just as they have the right to pursue them.
fluffyunicorn23
December 23rd, 2015 11:11pm
I can not speak for everyone but for me when I struggle with depression I know that I want to get better. And the people i know who also struggle I know they want to get better. I'm sure that no one wants to have it and that they want to get better.
Islah
December 24th, 2015 2:48am
No. Unfortunately, some people find security in their depression because it has been a part of their lives for so long. Many people are afraid of what they would be without their depression. You should always know that there are options for getting help for depression, and it is a mental disorder like anything else, with studies and treatments. Best of luck!
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 5:08pm
No that is not always the case. Sometimes when you have been depressed for so long depression becomes kind of like a security blanket and it feels weird not to be sad. There is nothing wrong with this it's just a preferred emotion
Riann5
December 24th, 2015 6:51pm
yes. one does not want to always be in the rain and thunder.. we want to be in the sun and feel happy like others too
mada
December 24th, 2015 7:07pm
it depends. some feel that they just want to live life the way it is but there are some who wish to overcome their state of depression. its always about the choice you make. some choose to stand up to their problems and some chose not to.
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 11:31pm
More often than not, people do want to get better from depression. It's this feeling of loneliness, worthlessness and a low level of energy. It just demotivated people and i personally wouldn't want to live that way forever