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How can I make my friends and family understand that my depression is a serious issue, not just me being dramatic?

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Last Updated: 06/15/2021 at 11:22am
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Anonymous - Expert in Depression
August 4th, 2015 1:33am
State how it has affected you, how you've been struggling to cope - show them the physical drain as well as the emotional and mental, give them extra information such as articles or short videos so to give them a better understanding. But this situation truly is out of your hands, you can merely give them resources to come to a conclusion but you can't force them to change their minds. Hopefully they'll soon learn to support you. And if no, always come here, because we definitely will.
November 17th, 2015 9:29am
sometimes people will not understand and we cannot make them we can try to explain it but that dont always work if they love us they will understand
November 21st, 2017 3:40pm
Show them research or if you go to the doctors together have them speak about it there. If they are friends and they don't try to understand or anything I wouldn't continue to call them my friend.
April 3rd, 2018 8:47pm
Be open about it. Try to explain how it feels like and have a lot of patience, it will take time for them to come to terms with it
March 12th, 2019 10:21pm
growing up for me was difficult. many people in my family suffered from mental health issues and various disorders. so my advice on making them see how much depression in affecting you is to sit down with your family, gather them around and have a real open honest heart to heart conversation about how much your mental health and depression matters to you. explain to them how your depression makes you feel and what options there are for you to start the path for happiness. ask them if they have ever fallen on hard times and ask them how they felt.
October 15th, 2019 5:24pm
What has helped me is rationally explaining them how the illness works. If you don’t know much about how depression develops or how it works, you will profit yourself, if you take the time to learn something about it. It’s called psycho education and it’s very commonly used to help patients as well as their friends and family understand and handle the illness, as well. Seen from a rational point of view, it’s not only less scary for you to have to handle it but will also help the people around you understand what is going on. I wish you all the best!
August 25th, 2020 11:12pm
Try to engage with them on a personal level where there's little room for distraction and have time to really delve into all your feelings and also have the space to react and take time for yourself if you feel overwhelmed during the conversation. Be willing to talk about your feelings and why you feel this way. It may help to bring up specific examples as long as it doesn't feel triggering and recognize that in the end, this is for you and you can leave at any time from the conversation and reach out for support from other people if you need it.
December 29th, 2020 10:09pm
Depression is tricky for those who don't experience it as deeply as you. It's hard, and I'm sorry they're having trouble understanding. If you want them to understand I suggest that you do some research on your own. Look up and print out articles about depression and find studies that talk about the depression you experience. Look up what doctors are concluding about depression rather than random interest confessionals. I would also suggest you research therapists in your area. Present this research and information to your family and friends. They will take you seriously if you are taking it seriously. By actively showing interest in solving your problem they will understand that you are not feeling well and want to feel better.
June 15th, 2021 4:00am
Sit down with them in a safe, neutral space. Make sure they understand it is a serious conversation. Let them know how you feel, and share what they could do to help you out. It is important that you get all of your points out, so they fully understand and they can completely help to their abilities. Let them know what you need, and how to handle when you may not be feeling well. Everyone has dark days, so letting them know what they can do (bringing food/water to you, leaving you alone, staying with you, etc.). Helplessness is not a fun feeling.
June 15th, 2021 11:22am
Firstly, choose a proper time to talk to them. Maybe you need to find a time that you can ensure you have a long or enough period to explain your situation and let them know that you have a serious attitude towards this thing. Try to make the talk as formal as possible. The reason is that if you just try to chat with your family members or friends, they will think it is a casual chat and would not take it seriously. I strongly suggest you to talk to your parents when you have a family meeting or after dinner. And talk to your friends maybe on weekends so that both of you have enough time to understand each other.