How can I recover from a relapse?
Last Updated: 09/28/2020 at 6:44pm
Stacey Kiger, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
My belief is that therapy is not about giving advice, but joining you on your journey
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Be gentle on yourself, sweetpea. You're doing the best you can, none of this is your fault. I'm proud of you and I hope you are too. Take comfort in the fact that relapse can be a part of recovery, and this in no way means that you are defeated. You may have tripped but you can get right back up and 7Cups is here by your side every step of the way. You can do this.
We all fall down not once but many times. You must be feeling why is it happening to me? How can I cope again when i just got through one? This is impossible? Consider what helped you get over the first time. Will following the same help? maybe give the other options a try?
Remember that relapse is a part of recovery. Dont stress too much if it happens. Remember that you will get through it. To prevent relapse, you should distract yourself. Hangout with a friend, watch a movie, do some exercise or maybe even do some baking:) If you still have relapse on your mind,try snapping a rubber band against your wrist or use a red marker to draw lines on your wrists. Also taking to someone you trust is a good way to let things out and reconsider things. Hope this helps and good luck:)
You can always go back to rehab, you can do 90 meetings in 90 days, or you can seek out a sponsor who can take you through the program of recovery.
The most important thing is taking care of yourself. Make sure you're safe, take care of any injuries, and rest. This is not a time to punish yourself--it's a time to heal yourself. And then you start over, with new knowledge of what doesn't work for you. You try again with new techniques and coping methods.
Be kind to yourself about the relapse. You are not the first person who has ever had a relapse and you won't be the last. Try to reaffirm to yourself the reasons why you are recovering, and all the positives that came from being on that road. If you're aware you're relapsing don't be afraid to reach out in those times - its important for yourself to understand this is a part of the process of healing. Continue to make small steps daily to get yourself back on track.
A relapse is not the end of the struggle. It doesn't mark failure. Understanding this is the first step. after that you must analyse the cause of the relapse and try your best to take measures so that it doesn't happen again. you know yourself the best and you are the best person to understand what are the triggers and how you can prevent them. the key ingredient is ofcourse perseverance and determination
Remind yourself that the past is the past - what is done is done, and you can't go back and change that. Worrying over what you have done, and feeling shameful of it, is completely normal, but you can't let it affect what you do. Your fallback isn't a reflection of yourself - addictions are very difficult, and they can't be solved immideatly. Remember that you're strong and brave for fighting this addiction, and that your relapse is something that's completely okay. The only you can do to move forward is to continue to fight it; personally, I find small goals important. Take maybe one or two days off from your addiction at a time, and then make that longer and longer. In times when the urge is strong, do something that you know will distract you, or try something like mediating. /p
Find the cause of the relapse. Accept the cause of the relapse. Find a solution. Implement small steps toward the solution. Find a way to forgive yourself and carry on. There is no reason that you should ever dwell on a relapse after you find some solutions to the reason. Life is all trial by error. Sometimes a mistake is bigger than others.
Relapses are a part of recovery, not everyone has them, but its not unusual. Recovering from a relapse is all based on you.
.. with positivity. A relapse is not a failure of any sort. We are human and we can only do what we can - a relapse does not mean it will always be like this or you will never be able to get out your disorder - it may just mean you need to dust yourself off and get back on the tracks. You may have made a wrong turn somewhere but you can always get back onto the road to recovery easily.
The best answer is that you should not totally dwell on this fact. Relapses can be very painful - both physically and emotionally, depending on the situation. A nice pointer to understand is that you are not your addiction or your relapse, and that relapse is a part of recovery. :)
I believe the most important thing in any stage of recovery is to remain present, in the present and aware of the things happening NOW. It does no good to dwell on the past, especially if one is in regret or condemnation. Better to look to the Present, where every breath means life, every act is decided upon and weighed Now, and the balance is kept. The reason our Recovery is called a Practice, is because it must be practiced, over and over, and each one of those acts is both a success and an evaluation of needs and abilities. Fulfill your needs as well as you can, and exercise your abilities. Then remember to be Kind to yourself and Praise yourself, for persisting and enduring, and eventually, Succeeding.
Have self compassion and don't give up. Understand that it is not weakness but the fact when we try to cut something out it's not a overnight success but constant work. It's easier to add positive alternative behavior before cutting things out. By adding positive coping mechanisms you have a different technique to try when you start to struggle. Changing behavior takes repetition, patience, support and self compassion to change a habit not just will power as people often think is the main thing it takes. Support is a kept part of understanding it's not just you that relapses.
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