How can I stop being so clingy?

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Last Updated: 07/03/2018 at 6:49pm
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FlowerInDisguise19
July 23rd, 2015 11:17pm
Knowing that you're clingy is the first step to improving your behaviour. If you're clingy, then you're the kind of person who gets obsessed with a new person the moment you meet, whether you're making friends or dating. After that, you're likely to call the person constantly, ask to hang out all the time, and feel sad or abandoned if you have to spend some time alone. You can stop being clingy by trying to build your confidence, learn to love yourself and try and take pleasure in being good at something such as sports or it could be anything such as drawing or your ability to make others smile. It's also important that you work on your trust issues, many people are clingy because they have trust issues, whether they stem from feeling abandoned as a child, being ditched by a former best friend, or even being cheated on by a former significant other. These causes must have been very painful, but you need to learn that you should approach each new relationship on its own terms, and that the past cannot dictate the present. Slowly you can ease your anxiety - you can do this by talking to someone - best way to do this is to connect 1-On-1 with one of our amazing listeners. Remember that being clingy right now doesn't make your behaviour bad it just means that you could improve - its understandable to feel that someone who may have entered your life may leave you if you don't constantly keep in touch but it's ok to ease your mind a little bit and take it easy. Overthinking corrupts the mind and leads to negative thoughts - don't let your mind do that to you stay positive! :)
Dailydaydreama
January 15th, 2015 9:31am
Self love is really important if you have it you will find that you won't settle for people who will let you be clingy you will be around people who encourage you to be independent !
theegyptianscrewup
January 30th, 2015 9:42pm
Build a confidence, think of at least three things that make you special. Learn to love yourself. Take pleasure in being good at something, whether it's running, the hard work you do, or your ability to make people laugh. Have the body language of a confident person. Stand tall with your arms away from your chest, and smile as much as you can. Work on addressing your flaws. Everyone has flaws, and addressing them will make you feel better about yourself.
Antonia1996
February 8th, 2016 12:55am
There is nothing wrong with being clingy. Love and affection is very important, Its also important to make sure that you understand that if things don't work out, There are plenty of other people.
JKuchboi
August 11th, 2015 6:01am
Give someone time to do go through their own issues, thoughts, etc... It's hard when you care about someone but it can be important for it will give the person room to think.
Anonymous
March 20th, 2017 2:55pm
"Clingy" is word that is used negatively, however it doesn't have to be. Showing somebody you care about them is a good thing, you just have to try to understand that they might want some space too.
Anonymous
May 12th, 2015 11:50pm
Do some independent things that are important to you help others out that may be in need. Speak positive words into your life.
Michelangelo9819
May 24th, 2015 1:53am
Everyone should open their minds, the free will, the free speech and the freedom in general is our most valuable feature as human kind! We need to comprehend instead of judge and listen instead of hear if we want stop being clingy: OPEN YOURSELF!
TheWeepingWillow
July 13th, 2015 7:28pm
Figur out why are you beging clingy to begin with? Is it a trust issue? Is it possibly you are not able to feel happiness when you are alone. Once you pin point what the issue is, work on it!
Sanguinity
August 4th, 2015 10:05am
You can stop by thinking that you do now own the person, you are only friends or is a girlfriend/boyfriend to him or her. You are still not married keep that in mind. In my experience I always think that what would her parents feel if I'm clingy with their daughter. Sometimes clinginess can lead to pre-marital sex imagine how your parents would feel if that happened to you. We must learn to put ourselves in our partner's shoes!
Sky0
December 8th, 2015 2:38am
You need to take a step back and evaluate yourself. You need to put yourself in the other persons shoes and see how you would feel if they were constantly clingy with you.
Anonymous
October 3rd, 2016 3:33pm
I can stop being so clingy by talking to people more and getting my needs met. When I do not feel loved and accepted,I become clingy.
tidynorth1234
November 29th, 2016 4:45am
In all reality you're probably not clingy and just think you are. And that's okay. But if you feel it's becoming a problem then you should maybe let them speak first or let the other person make themselves feel clingy if you understand what I mean. Don't straight up say they're clingy but maybe you can just not talk to that person without ignoring them. Talk to them but try to let them talk first. Make it kinda 50/50.
LagathaStrong88
November 27th, 2017 12:08am
Take time for yourself. A hobby could be just the thing to get you focused and perhaps offer challenge you never thought you would like. Being clingy can be another form of self doubt. Understanding yourself and building confidence in your abilities can help.
AmethystUnicorn
February 6th, 2018 1:07pm
If you feel you're being a bit too much (too clingy). Tell yourself that they have a life too, they get busy and they have stuff to do. You have a life as well and make sure that you're getting done what you need to get done.
Anonymous
April 24th, 2018 3:36am
Sometimes being clingy is a result of you doubting something in the relationship. If you figure out what it is that your doubting, it just may help the clingyness to go away
thereforyou12
July 3rd, 2018 6:49pm
well it depends upon whom you’re emotionally dependent upon....becoming clingy is not a bad things most of the people are even i am....and believe me if you stopped giving damn to anyone from that day you’ll feel as happy as never before....and whenever you feel emotionally dependent just be alone hear some music and cry our heart out other than telling anyone that what is wrong believing me you’ll feel a lot better😊