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How can I stop doubting myself?

18 Answers
Last Updated: 09/25/2018 at 8:12pm
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Top Rated Answers
EverlastingLove96
February 1st, 2015 7:38pm
Know that you are always enough and never too much. You are the only you and so you get to set the rules, the goals, and expectations. You know your limits. So you do you and you'll be set.
Belle1985
February 8th, 2015 9:43pm
I try to keep a list of the times I have doubted myself, and the actual result. I have found that going back over this list I see that more often than not I have succeeded and remind myself that though I feel like I am about to fail, that it isn't usually the case and I am overthinking it.
Anonymous
May 11th, 2015 3:28am
Sometimes, doubting ourselves can be helpful in provoking us to think about other possible options. However, there comes a time when self-doubt can ultimately get in the way of our progress. Self-doubt can lead us to feel like we're stuck or trapped. But, we can make short-tern goals that pave the way for long-term success, find supportive communities with similar mind to our own beliefs or working toward achievement of similar goals, and even taking a break to breath and relax before coming back to our dilemmas and plans can offer motivation to continue.
Anonymous
June 16th, 2015 2:52pm
Doubt is a demon that latches onto everyone. It's important to know that you're not alone. And self-doubt can be successfully destroyed through testing the unknown, and building confidence. Something self-critical people may do is take a failure and internalize it, therefore making them scared to try risky things. But the second you let go of failure, and realize it happens to everyone, the sooner you can keep trying things.
Anonymous
July 7th, 2015 1:44am
life likes gambling every now and then. so I say take the chance after analyzing the odds and your situation of course, and be the best at what you do!
summerUndecided847
July 27th, 2015 7:24am
Know that you are amazing and you deserve just as much love and respect as everyone else! You are worth it, you are strong, and beautiful
PoliteOcean
September 7th, 2015 2:49am
Its hard to get feelings of doubt out of your mind. Theres no one answer fits all to this question. Perhaps prioritizing and planning and preparing yourself and taking the time to think things through can help with self doubt. If all else fails, perhaps speaking with someone you trust or a counselor or therapist can help.
Anonymous
November 24th, 2015 5:04pm
It's simple. Never start doubting yourself in the first place. Don't allow the negativity and focus on the work always.
cardioneurgeon
December 28th, 2015 3:09pm
Don't compare yourself to others for self-confidence; at its most basic level, confidence should originate from oneself. Once you gain self-acceptance, then others will admire you for your spirit.
originalLily84
February 22nd, 2016 4:17pm
Always believe in yourself, everything happens for a reason, whether it is a good or a bad reason it is supposed to occur.
Anonymous
April 11th, 2016 4:28am
Take chances. There is nothing wrong with that. If you doubt yourself continuously then there is no harm in believing in yourself atleaat once. Try this often . I do not guarantee it'll work, but it won't kill to try :)
JCisLORD
June 6th, 2016 12:58am
Doubt is an issue with trust. When our foundation is not sturdy we cannot trust it. It is like a bridge that you wish to use to cross to the greener side but as you start to step on it, it gives signs to it be unstable. You would start to doubt the trust in that bridge and your approach. Now I can assume this sounds sensible but the point is that you must find something you can hope in, something you know will always prove to be true, and then you can find trust in that and let it back into your life.
Anonymous
September 5th, 2016 1:02am
Hobbies help create something try on new makeup start a blog help or volunteer at the animal shelter
cordial2394
January 30th, 2017 10:28pm
I know it can be difficult but start small. Try to stick with your decisions, even if they are very small, like what to eat, or what to do for leisure. As you make the decisions, each next decision will be a little easier. Most decisions should take less than 5 minutes. If it takes more than 15 you may need to do more research or to come back to the decision at another time. Another strategy if you absolutely cannot make a decision is to carry a coin and roleplaying dice with you. Assuming all the options you would do this for look the same in pros and cons (this is for little decisions, not whether to move cities or buy a house) you can see what happens if you roll a die or flip a coin. Again, try not to go back on your decision. As you exercise these muscles you should be able to move onto bigger decisions with more confidence.
Anonymous
April 10th, 2017 12:02pm
Tell yourself you are a good person everyday and you are worthy of your actions and ideas everyone is capable of achieving their goals.
Ava1122
August 1st, 2017 4:25am
From personal experience, You really need to focus on how you speak to yourself. What we often find is that we treat ourselves horribly compared to how we might treat our friends and family. Sometimes we can look at the way we treat ourselves and find that we wouldn't dream treating one of our friends that way. Pay attention to the way you talk to yourself. What kind of things do you say? Do you tell yourself that you can't do it? because if so, then that's what you start to believe. Changing the way you think about can have a bigger impact than you think. When you have negative thoughts about yourself, actually notice it and change it, encourage yourself, support yourself. After a while, it becomes a habit :)
Nikandlv
December 12th, 2017 3:56pm
Love your self and believe your self think of what you achieved and what you will achieve in your life ahead of you
MarkPeace
September 25th, 2018 8:12pm
I just trust that I have the power to change my fate. If there is something I want to change and can change. Then I know that with enough times and effort I'll change it. If there is something I want to change but can't. I just try my best to push it off my mind since thinking about something you can't have is redundant. While this answer might be too "logical" when it comes to something about the feelings. It still works if you ground yourself in reality and make sure you have a clear goal plan WITH a path to achieve such goals.