How can I stop feeling so apathetic all the time?
Last Updated: 05/29/2018 at 9:48pm
Paola Giordani, Psychoanalyst
I have helped and am helping people cope with loss, divorce, anguish and parenting. Depression is also a major issue that comes up.
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well, that's not always easy... First, you've got to find something to get interested about. Find something you like, or used to like, if it doesn't get you excited, work around it, branch out. Well, that's what I did. I used to feel apathetic all the time. I love the sea, I went to beach trips, it helped, for a little while, it wasn't enough, scuba diving, almost there, and now, sailing, yes I can be interested in this! Sometimes it works this way, but you've got to try it out to find out
The first step of overcoming the feeling of apathy is to realise that in itself, apathy is a feeling. Some of the great ways of trying to identify the apathy is by closing your eyes and taking a deep breath and trying to become more aware of your body in that time. It takes practice, but you'll begin to notice where you feel tension or heaviness in areas of your body. From there you'll be able to try and make sense of that feeling, that is the start of the process. I think, from experiencing it myself, it gets a lot easier to manage it from there.
Apathy can be a sign of many things. It can be as simple as not having found anything to be passionate about, all the way to something serious like major depressive disorder. If you feel it's beyond just the simple lack of passions, it's turning into a long-term problem, or if it's affecting multiple aspects of your life, it might be time to get help. Trusted friends and family can be a great source of support, and might be able to offer you an outside perspective on what they see. If it's interfering with you ability to function in your daily life, or you feel it's having any harmful effects on you, then it's probably a good idea to seek medical advice from a family physician. At the very least, it will be a false alarm and your physician can offer you suggestions, e.g. lifestyle changes, to bring some spark back into your life. If it turns out to be a serious issue, then you'll have taken your next major step towards recovery.
I try to find something I really care about and am passionate about to fire me up. However, some days I'm just not into anything and it's OK to have a lazy day - if it continues to be a problem, you may be depressed.
You could try to do the things that please you. Sing. Draw. Go for a walk. Do more of what makes you feel relaxed.
I understand that feeling apathetic all the time is a result of past experiences. Maybe you have been affected/hurt by something so bad that now you feel numb towards everything. But listen, you have got to start finding good things happening around you or in with you, and start appreciate the little things you are getting. Don't be scared to put yourself out there!
I've found that being apathetic comes from a lack of activity. Meaning comes from working. Specifically working on things you love. If you can find something you love, say music or painting or building bird houses you start to understand what it means to feel for something. Then apathy can make way for empathy.
Asking this question can be the first step, it shows that you care at some level. Try to understand yourself more and why you feel apathetic first.
i usually try to find something that makes me interest, the topic i like and i can handle with. i will start questioning everything to make my self curious and get into the thing
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