How can I stop feeling worthless?
Last Updated: 01/26/2021 at 9:44am
Jackie Dross, M.S. Community Counseling
I have a passion for working with people from a non-judgmental, strengths based approach to meet their goals for personal growth.
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1, start keeping track of what you do each day.. in a special journal just for that.. an achievement or accomplishment journal.. in it you will write a.)everything you did that day b.)if you came to any special decisions, heard anything special/inspirational or had any insights c.)write down if you were helpful to anyone that day.. did you open a door or say a kind word.. or cheer someone up? When I did it there were 4 or 5 parts and I can only remember three, but maybe that's enough plus thoughts you may have in closing.. you can do them all in the same color or I did them in different colors.. just to make them easy to reference later. 2. notice when you feel worthless.. are you comparing yourself to someone else? did you just finish sleeping half the day and don't like how that makes you feel afterward? Did you fight with someone? Are you being fair to yourself and can you think of it objectively, mindfully, loving yourself.. is there something you can legitimately do as a easy next action to make that better? 3. See what you could do in your community for other people.. if strangers are too scary.. try picking up and calling people (maybe not that you've had a massive rift with) that you have dropped out of their lives and see if you can make little phone calls to reconnect with them. Best though, is to find someplace to volunteer your time/effort and go do that and make friends and connections there. Food banks, shelters, animal shelters, churches, and other non-profits usually need volunteers.. If books are more your thing, sometimes even public libraries will use volunteers to stock shelves, or pull holds or put holds on the hold shelves for people. A lot of times people who feel worthless, are just lacking connection to other people. Those are three very general things you can do. They may or may not fit you, so you will have to decide what parts you can go with. If you continue to feel worthless, I would encourage you talk to a listener and, or see a professional, because you don't have to feel like that and you don't deserve to have to go around feeling that way either. While you wait for a listener, why don't you pick up the self-help guide to depression, posted on this site.. http://www.7cups.com/depression-help-online/
The feeling is normally trigger by have low self esteem which can be developed from a number of things like bad upbringing, bulling etc. To stop feeling worthless and the negative thoughts is understanding where they first developed. What made you start to feel like this? You have to start loving yourself again. So when you get negative thoughts release they are there and refocus on something more positive or put some music on. More you feed the negative thoughts the more they take over. You can worth it again. Focus on your good qualities like being creative or you are kind and caring. Start doing things you enjoy and keep busy. More busy you are less time to think on negative things. One think I find helps is advoiling certain films, TV shows that can make you feel worse. I hope I helped. You can do it its just will power. You can make yourself happy again
tell yourself that if you weren't worth anything, you wouldn't have been born, you were put here for a reason, remember that
You have to surround yourself with people that make you feel like you have worth. You have to treat yourself like your best friend, therefore you won't be worthless since you don't treat your best friend like their worthless.
Meet new people. Converse. Pick a new hobby. Learn to be comfortable with yourself. That's one of the things which will make people to be comfortable with you.
After I lost my job to chronic illness I had a serious feeling of being useless. I felt like I let my family down and I figured it would not matter if I went away. But what I started to do was pick up the slack. Around the house I did ANYTHING to help my wife. She needs to work more hours for extra money. I make sue she has to do very little around the house. Then I started to volunteer. I volunteer at a hospital 2 times a week. Helping others and getting yourself out there and working for a better life helped me. It made me feel like despite what my life was, it was anything but useless!
When I am feeling down about myself I try to right down 100 thing that I love about myself. If that is to hard I try to write 10.
Start by making a list of all your positive attributes and your contributions. Save that list on your phone or somewhere easily accessible to you. Whenever you feel worthless, read the list. It might help you feel much better.
Try to think positive, meditation helps, also talking out your problems, crying it out, scribbling in a notebook when your mad helps, it can release those negative feelings.
Find things that make you happy. Find people that make you happy. Surround yourself with those things and live life to the fullest!
The feeling of worthlessness does not just dissipate but most of us know this by now. You can start by picking the smallest characteristic or trait and nurture that.
Dont compare yourself to others. You are you. We are different. Try to make the best out of yourself!
Basing on my experience, there's one thing you can do. Not just that, but prove yourself for your own good, not for others, BUT FOR YOURSELF. Doing yourself a favor from time to time can lift up your self-esteem. :D
Get into work. Make yoursef busy... Get socialised with the people around you. Then you will surely get out of it
You have to remember the good things in life, and things you are good at. You should also talk to your friends.
One you're not worthless .2 if you still feel like this do something that makes you happy that makes others happy that makes a difference
We have five fingers connected to our palm. Despite their sizes are varied, all of them help us do our day to day work comfortably. With one finger less, we will find it very difficult to handle things. That way, every one of us including you, is important to this society. You maybe having so many qualities and capabilities which you don't even know.
First you need to truly understand that you aren't worthless because you mean something to me, truly. Humans are quite complex creatures and we constantly have these thoughts that put us down. One thing that almost always works is human interaction. The company of another human, as proven by science, is the most beneficial way to feel so much better about yourself. Maybe joining a club or team sport that you're interested in can help you feel so much better! If you don't have a hobby, perhaps get one, whereas if you do, perfect it!
You should try to involve yourself in productive activities and you should try to focus on the things that you are good at.You should try to set easy and small goals for yourself and make sure that you appreciate yourself after accomplishing them.Practice the positive self-talk therapy(in this therapy,you need to keep saying positive things to yourself even if you don't believe them.Out thoughts affects our feelings.) regularly. Also I suggest an activity (that my psychologist had recommended for me),ask all your loved ones to write at least one good quality that they see in you.And whenever you feel worthless read them,you'll feel better. Know your worth dear,for now you might feel that you're worthless but I assure you that you're not,believe in yourself.If for some reason you're not able to believe in yourself,let me believe in yourself until you feel better about yourself.It will be my privilege.
It is, in my opinion, not something that happens to you overnight. It is a culture change inside that you have to actively work on for a while, but it is oh so worth it. I think the beginning is realizing that you want to stop feeling that way. The next step for me was to literally start finding things to compliment myself about. It may sound silly or weird or even terrifying but you need to do it. Making a conscious effort to think about what is good with yourself and what is good around you as well. Just always trying to name what is good instead of what is bad is a huge thing.
Speak Kindly to Yourself, Pay Attention to When Worthlessness Strikes, Keep a Gratitude Journal, Do Something for Someone Else, Try a Mental Health App. Sometimes these negative feelings arise in response to certain situations, thoughts, experiences, or even people. Start noticing when these feelings emerge, what is happening when they occur, and what type of thoughts might be contributing. This is one way to help combat the negative rumination that might be fueling feelings of inadequacy. People who feel worthless often engage in negative thinking and self-talk. It may be challenging at first, but focus on treating yourself with kindness. When you notice negative self-talk, look for ways that you can reframe those thoughts in a more positive or realistic way. Instead of thinking "I'll never be able to do it," for example, you might say, "I can do small things each day to improve."
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