How can I stop pretending I'm not there?
Last Updated: 05/31/2016 at 5:20am
Polly Letsch, LCSW
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
I provide non-judgmental, person-centered, objective therapeutic treatment for individuals of all ages to improve social, emotional, mental and other areas of functioning.
Top Rated Answers
Speak up, make your self known. Don't keep quiet and hide in the shadows if you are there then be there.
By knowing and truly believing that you are here, that you are real. Don't worry about what other people think, live the life that you want. Go on an adventure, travel, study anything, do what you want 'cause you want it. Feel your heart beating and believe that you are alive and that you matter.
The easiest way to stop pretending you are not there is to attempt to be more assertive and forthcoming, instead of lurking in the shadows.
You should show your best chance to other . makes other see you and appreciate you by impressing them , making friends . talking to anyone . :3
Try making yourself known to yourself and others. Get their attention, do something that makes you seem like you're there.
Interact with everyday activities and people you are close to more often. It'll help you get a feeling of 'Being there' I guess.
By being honest about why you actually cant be available... There are times when each and every one is either occupied. Also there are times when we can not be with someone... The best thing is to be honest.
Try and speak up more! Let yourself be heard and input yourself and your opinions where they can be used. Raise your hand in class, actively participate in conversations... There are plenty of ways to stop pretending you're not there. Just be a little more interactive with the world around you.
Start speaking up and getting involve wherever you are, I know for an introvert that is not an easy thing to do, but always try to step out of your comfort zone. Take it 1 step at a time and before you know it, it'll be like a routine :)
Figure out a reason as to why you specifically should be there,and why you didn't want to be "there" in the first place..Everyone deserves a chance to be there and one should not deny themselves that basic right, no matter who they are or what they've felt they done.
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