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How can I stop that (negative) thoughts?

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Last Updated: 05/05/2020 at 11:52am
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TheSciKid
June 17th, 2015 7:29am
In order to stop negative thoughts, you need to meditate. you need to concentrate on the things you do. you should know the true power within you. If someone makes you feel to think so, you better avoid them and stay deaf to whatever they tell. And you should avoid any negative relationships. To a better positive life, sleep well and stay active and focus on every single thing you do....Exercise, long rides with someone you love, meditation might help you to know the true you within and so you can never think in a negative way... :)
Dailydaydreama
January 26th, 2015 12:09pm
Finding safe things that you enjoy is helpful to shift negative thoughts ! Self love is something we all deserve and non thinking tools can be used to bring you back into a safe place ! CBT training is a useful program that can help change this as well !
heavenlySun21
May 1st, 2015 8:27pm
I stopped negative thoughts by putting my headphones in and exercising. Exercise has been proven to rebalance brain chemistry that contributes depression
cherishedTurtle99
November 3rd, 2015 7:06pm
You can't stop having negative thoughts. They will always keep coming back as long as your mind is thinking of something. They are a part of you and will always be (deep inside). However, there are ways to minimize such thoughts. You know what you love to do (paint, dance, sing, music, etc.). Pursue your passion alongside your job (if you have one). And most importantly, you gotta get out there. You gotta face the real world. I know, this is too much too ask, but you have to get out of your current thoughts, your current mind state. If you're still looking for your role in this world, going out is the best advice for you. Even if you know where you belong and your mind is still in that state where it doesn't want to just work or anything, get out there. You gotta meet new people, be with your family, be with your closest friends. And those people who believe that family or friends won't understand you and would just undermine your situation, its an excellent opportunity for y'all to meet new people, get excited and adventurous all around again. I have constantly been saying you gotta get out there. What I mean by that is, get out of your house, start exploring new things, you just have to take the first step for your own happiness. What's the risk in it? "The worst case scenario"? You'll be back to where you are now. But you'll at least be a bit happy that you tried. You just have to stay strong in the initial steps. Whatever happened with you, happened with you. But you can't let that moment define your life any further. You just have to make peace with it and keep moving forward!
kokako
April 2nd, 2015 3:32am
I use mindfulness/meditation methods which my clinical psychologist taught me. Essentially they involve learning to notice, without judging, my thoughts as they come and go. My thoughts just are and do not define me any more than the fact that I have blue eyes does
trisjlistens
July 28th, 2015 6:13am
I personally think you have to pray. It is a great way to remove all the bad things off of you. It's like a refreshment, a cleansing, it could wash away all the bad thoughts in you. :)
Anonymous
August 31st, 2015 5:17am
Start replacing all of your negative thoughts with positive thoughts. The more you dwell on the positve, the more happy you will feel.
FriendlyHelper12
April 11th, 2015 1:05pm
To stop negative thoughtts thinking about positive and good things can always be a good way to stop them. Or maybe just thinking abot what you want to do in the future, as that can be an exciting and good thing to think about.
FrostyFireworks18
April 26th, 2015 2:57am
I would recommend that you would consider going to a theripist who would probably try some C.B.T which stands for cognitive behavioral therapy. It is a therapy where they try to change your negative thoughts into positive ones. But, if for whatever reason you are unable to set up an appointment with a theripist than I want you to keep track of all of your negitive thoughts and write them down in a journal, and try to figure out what triggered the negative thought. Then if you can, you might want to avoid whatever is making you feel negatively.
Hellodarling
June 23rd, 2015 12:03am
I personally find the best way I can hold the negative thoughts at bay is matching them with a positive one. It can be a positive thought about anything, even if it seems silly. Like, I'm really liking the way my hair looks today. Or, the trees look pretty in the sun. It may not work immediately, but eventually you may start noticing improvements.
Tantry
August 10th, 2015 11:03pm
Accept the negative though first. then thru the negativity try and think of the consequences. Based on the result you know where you are headed.
PlainlyThere
November 4th, 2015 12:22am
There isn't really a way to STOP negative thoughts. And I know that's not a helpful answer but there is a way to have less of those thoughts. You can find a way to busy yourself, or write the negative thoughts down on paper with pen, put the paper on the water and watch the ink fade away, its a way to see those thoughts "fade away" and it can actually help. Its a form of self therapy in some ways. But again busying yourself with homework, studying, working, planning, organizing, cleaning, reading, writing, anything that keeps your thoughts focused on something in specific can help those negative thoughts be less and less.
Pastelfairy
November 23rd, 2015 10:02am
I try to distract myself. first I would let myself have it all out like crying or talking to someone.Then I will try to find enjoyable things to do to improve my mood.
Ishimaru
December 15th, 2015 12:03pm
Do the things you feel confident with. I love going to shop new cloth and have a new haircut. This change of appearance is also a change from negative to positive thoughts for me.
Anonymous
January 5th, 2016 12:13am
Equal the Negative thoughts with the positive thoughts and turning negative with positive you can do this by outweighing the negatives with postives on a piece of paper.
awesomeMoment27
January 20th, 2016 12:00am
I am sorry to hear you are having negative thoughts. If this is an emergency and you are thinking about harming yourself, please call 911 or the suicide hotline at 1 (800) 273-8255.
Moji
August 22nd, 2016 4:50am
distract yourself! honestly, do something you like, or homework - because homework always takes your mind off things. for me, anyway. other than that, go for a walk or immerse yourself in nature - that's pretty ideal! of course, you could write a list of things that are negative / positive or talk to someone that cares - that's almost guaranteed to help.
Anonymous
September 19th, 2016 9:19am
Shake or dance or move to positive and/or high energy music; it really works to refocus thoughts and help your body change mode!
Anonymous
October 24th, 2016 3:47pm
Negative thinking is a habbit which will take some effort to break. Most of the negative thoughts are irrational or mostly fear based. Replace the negative thoughts with logic that counters it. Also keeping a diary of positive things that happened in life can help a lot. Get engaged in an activity you truly enjoy, hanging out with people also helps a lot. Make a friend with a person who appreciates you. That will increase your self-worth and self-esteem. A high self-worth is the best cure to negative thinking.
joyfulNight50
January 30th, 2017 7:02am
If you constantly think about all the things that make you happy even if they are something so small as learning to ride a bike. It will help you in the long run. I believe if you find the smallest memory that once made you happy.... it could cure the negative thought that would build up in your mind.
Anonymous
January 2nd, 2018 8:06am
Try to find the positive things about yourself and write them down on a piece of paper then stick it somewhere you'll always see. And remember to try your best to keep thinking of positive thoughts. You are a strong person, just believe in yourself!
Anonymous
January 8th, 2018 7:22pm
Try to practice gratitude journal daily, write down 3 things you are grateful for that, this way you are focus is only on good and positive things in your life.
Anonymous
August 13th, 2018 9:25am
Try writing down in a journal, or doing something you love. Thoughts come and go. It may feel like a lifetime since it’s been in your head but it’s only been a few minutes. Take a breath, it’s okay.
Cloishere33
April 28th, 2020 4:24am
When I have a negative thought stuck in my mind, the first thing I do is a yoga session and also some mindful breathing. I also like making lists. For each negative thought, I have put a positive one in a column next to it. Writing things down helps me see things brighter. Focusing on the positive side of the list helps me realize that there is always a solution to a problem. It might take time, but I will find a way to make things better for me. I think being proactive in your life is very important. Asking for help is also crucial. It is not the more comfortable thing to do, but it can really work. Coming here, for example, to have a chat with someone who will listen to you. That might help you get precise words around those negative thoughts and work out ways you could make them go away.
Anonymous
May 5th, 2020 11:52am
What I've found helpful is first to accept the thought; to acknowledge that this is just a thought that has arisen and to not become attached to it. I once heard the analogy "thoughts are like clouds; let them drift past, as you would do without focusing on any particular cloud". Thoughts in themselves are not reality, but whatever thoughts we focus on are those that will go on to shape our perceptions and reality. One technique that I have found to be useful is that of mindfulness, where we learn to let thoughts arise and then subside, without judging them. It takes practice, but it is a skill that can be learned.