How can I stop thoughts of being worthless?

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Last Updated: 02/11/2019 at 9:42pm
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Top Rated Answers
babygatorgirl
January 10th, 2015 8:30pm
It takes time and a lot of practice. The thoughts won't magically go away, but the more positive thoughts you can think of the quieter the negative ones will become, even if they never truly go away.
TheAnonymousHelp
January 29th, 2015 4:30pm
try to surround yourself with people who love and support you and will always make you feel important no matter what
MoonWaterAngel82
February 17th, 2015 4:39am
You can think about positive qualities you have (even if it is hard) and about what makes you happy. You can also turn the question around and ask how you have shown self worth so far. What have you done recently or previously that has made you feel worthy?
Anonymous
April 25th, 2015 6:40pm
trust yourself, you must believe that everyone is special, they was born to be special. just close your ear from all the bad thoughts about yourself :)
KathyTheHealer
May 21st, 2015 8:32am
If you are feeling worthless, there is no way to stop the thoughts, because it's the fact to yourself. So trying to stop the thoughts won't work, that's why you are asking now. Instead of trying denying your thought, you need to focus on the action to gain back your confidence. By start doing stuff: like new work, new job, new study, volunteer work, etc. The more work you acconplish, the more confient you will feel. You may self doubt that "it's because you always faile at doing stuff, that's why you feel discourage" You think it's the wrong way. The success rate of doing anything is 10%, which means that you need to do 100 stuff, to succeed at 10. If you have just done 10 stuff in yourlife, you can do the math : 1 archivement. So keep trying stuff until you feel your confidence back !
athira
June 6th, 2015 11:24am
no one is worthless everyone including you are important the only way to stop thinking like that is you start loving yourself know what you are just know that life is worth living
TheComedyTragedy
July 13th, 2015 8:45pm
That's not a simple answer. Counselling can help, talking to people on a site like this, reading self help books might benefit massively (on self esteem and self image.)
Anonymous
August 31st, 2015 5:58pm
Realize how much you mean to the people around you. Look at how much you do for others and how grateful they are to you. Think of all the good things you done in life and how great you really are.
MrAleczander
October 27th, 2015 4:56am
That's a very good question. I admire your courage coming to 7 Cups to open up about your feelings. On 7 Cups, there is a Self-Help section where you can locate various guides to work through a variety of issues, such as Depression. There is also a Mood Boosts section. In there, there are a number of guided verbal mindfulness therapies to listen to. Some of which are, Positive Affirmations, Stop Negative Self-Talk Now, Self-Esteem, and You Are Amazing. Finally, stepping away from 7 Cups and pulling from personal reflection. When I've felt worthless I've thought about times when I've helped a friend in a way no one else could have. I put positive self-affirming Sticky Notes on mirrors and walls. I've practiced mindful meditation to accept the nasty thoughts in my head, but learn to move past my fixation. Good luck. I hope you find this useful.
Anonymous
November 9th, 2015 7:20pm
Something that helped me get through feeling worthless was reading aloud some daily inspiration. These can be anything from "I am good enough" or something longer like a motivational quote. One of my personal favorites is: I release the need for approval in my life".
Anonymous
November 17th, 2015 12:09pm
you should get up and live. you should go out to the shop, or call a friend, or do something in what are you good
Roshney
January 19th, 2016 8:00pm
you can stop it by doing a positive self talk and questioning ur worthless or what we call irrational thoughts with questions like "Do i have any proof for it?" "Did anyone tell me that?" or " What I'm thinking, is it even any close to reality?" So these Questions help us realise that Worthless thoughts are all in our head which is not even factual.
EllaLoves
February 8th, 2016 4:21am
It is hard but I write positive words, to combat the negative ones, and everyday read the positive words.
KatieWhite
April 19th, 2016 6:12pm
Replace them with self worth. And I know that may sound unhelpful. But seriously, stand in front of a mirror and just think, I'm pretty, I'm smart, I'm good, or whatever is is that you need to think. And make a way to remind yourself throughout the day.
genuineCupcake25
August 15th, 2016 2:07am
It is a slow process of learning. Appreciating the small achievements you make in life, the small efforts you put on your everyday life or even in the special moments. You're much more braver than you think you are.
Anonymous
August 16th, 2016 6:35pm
We can never stop thoughts, we can only overcome them byaking our weaknesses into strengths. Thanks!
Anonymous
August 22nd, 2016 11:30am
I can help by referring to helpful hotline of therapy that can help with you your issue? If so, I can give you the link to the helpful hotline if it okay with you?
Xae
September 26th, 2016 5:46am
You should start by loving yourself first secondly don't blame yourself for everything that causes you to feel down and third is forgive yourself, your friends/ people who surrounds you lastly learn from it and move on. :D
Anonymous
November 28th, 2017 12:12pm
Stick positive quotes on your mirror, don't compare yourself with others, stop spending time with people who make you feel worthless.
Bestyou87
July 24th, 2018 1:07am
Ask yourself the question why you think you are worthless and if you believe it. Do not go by what others say about you alll that matters is how you feel about yourself. The opinions of other on what they think or feel about you are just opinions and not facts.
Anonymous
September 4th, 2018 3:35am
Think of all the people who care. Your friends, your family, even your pets. Then think of all the people who will care. Your future partner, coworker, future kids, future friends. They all care for you, and they all will care for you. If you feel worthless, just take time to reflect on yourself. Why do you feel worthless. Is there anyone making you feel this way? Am I doing anything to make myself feel this way? Try taking care of yourself, like taking a shower, taking a nap, complimenting yourself, or talking to people who are a positive influence and show that they care in your life.
blissfulKiwi74
November 13th, 2018 7:07pm
Think of reasons you're not worthless. These reasons can be anything you want them to be. As long as your able to feel it inside. Reasons one may not be worthless is also best found inside of you. So ask yourself, why do I think I'm worthless? Am I really worthless? What have I ever done wrong? What have I done right? When you ask yourself the right questions, the answers will start to become more clear to you. As they become more clear, you'll begin to feel better. Remember, everyone has a reason to be here. If you didn't, you wouldn't be here today asking/reading this response to that question.
Anonymous
February 11th, 2019 9:42pm
Personally, something that really helps me with my self worth is taking a little time out of my day to appreciate something that I’ve done. I’m extremely socially anxious, so for me that can be something as little as talking on the phone with a friend. At first it might be hard, because you feel vain or selfish for complimenting yourself, but eventually it will make you more comfortable and confident in your own skin. Loving yourself is really important, because it makes conquering outside challenges easier. It makes making friends easier, and it’s jut something that’s really worth investing the time into.