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How can I tell my parents that I think I'm depressed?

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Dlinepop
July 25th, 2018 2:53pm
Coose the perfect time when your parents are having the free time. That way, they can listen more to your problems.
Anonymous
July 29th, 2018 2:26am
Just tell them. There isn’t really a right way to do it as long as you convey why you feel the way you do. Ask to see a professional. You need a diagnosis to officially be considered depressed. The sooner the better.
millie77
August 1st, 2018 10:27am
First, it's important to tell them. But the way you will do it is very important too. Choose easy words but significative, try to explain why you're feeling that way or since when, and be ready for one or two little questions from them. It's difficult to understand and to accept as a parent.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2018 5:31pm
if you are depressed , talk to some one you are very close to and kinda see if you really are . If you find out you are , ask politely to your parents have them sit down and have a serious conversation . Seek some help .
Anonymous
August 13th, 2018 6:56pm
They are my parents and i dont need to shy to share my problems. I will try my best to convey my troubles. Hope , they will understand. Atleast they may help you .
Anonymous
August 15th, 2018 7:52am
Come straight out and tell them. It may seem scary, but they are your parents, and their job is to help and protect you. Get professional help and stay strong.
calmingNight81
August 16th, 2018 11:22am
Telling anyone, especially your parents, that you feel depressed is never easy. If you are worried you will be rejected in some way (or if they don't believe you), this fear can be amplified further. The important thing is that they understand how you feel. I think a good place to start would be to get some sort of counseling to both begin the healing process and to validate your claims. A good way to introduce this would be to convey how you feel to your parents, and possibly that you would like to feel better or that they at least understand what you're going through.
ToastyF
August 17th, 2018 12:03pm
Hello. Thank you for reaching out to the 7cups of tea community! Im sorry you feel depressed. I can realize it's hard to tell parents if you're depressed but you could tell them you need to have a serious talk with them. Then you can go on and say that you're feeling Depressed and tell them why you're feeling depressed. And they may think after if you have stopped doing stuff you liked or been more introvert. These conversations can take time so try to find a good time to sit down and talk. Dont be shy depression is common now day's and your parents will hopefully help you! // Filip.
peaceofmind123
August 18th, 2018 9:19pm
Every situation can be different for different people who handles such news differently. But in my opinion, many times parents see that something might not be right with theit child, but they might think it's just stress or being a teenager or bf problems etc. I think as a child when I was desperate enough, I had the courage to tell my mom, turn out she has been thinking as much for the last year, but I was to stubborn to accept help. When it came straight down to it, I told her that I'm always sad/angry/irritated/lonely etc no matter if if I don't really have a reason to be, no matter how hard I try and take my mind of it, it's always lingering in the background. Tell your parents that you might be dramatic or a teenager or whatever, but that this feels different. This geel like something that won't just pass, that you can barely get out of bed, that you can a rely think and when you do it's bad thoughts. If you want them to really get you, you are going to need to be willing to get real and be vulnerable. People in today's life throw the word depressed around so commonly, that it's hard to distinguish when a person says I'm feeling and I actually have depression.
BestMotivationer
September 9th, 2018 6:49pm
I would tell them by sitting them down at a table, where there are NO distractions and they have your undivided attention. When you are face to face with no distractions, its showing them the seriousness of the situation. Once you tell that you think that you are depressed, let them know that you are seeking help from them. Telling an adult when you think that youre depressed is a commendable deed. It shows that you want change and that way you can all learn what and what not to do. You all can search ways to receive help and make a great change.
Engineeringhappiness
September 15th, 2018 1:19pm
just explain to them what you are feeling... describe your symptoms. you shouldnt be afraid to talk to your parents.
Anonymous
November 7th, 2018 2:10am
I believe it is best to sit down and just talk to them. If it’s hard for you to get it out let them know. Tell them that you don’t know how to say this and it’s hard for you to get out. Let them know exactly how you are feeling. Let them know about the symptoms you are having that lead you to lead you to think that you have depression. Don’t be afraid to let you feelings out. Tell them everything. They need to know exactly how you feel and exactly what’s going on in order to help you. Good luck
Youarewaytooperfect
November 8th, 2018 3:32am
You can tell your parents you think your depressed by sitting down with them and having a normal mature conversation. If they see you are responsible and act like a adult then they will see you as one. Sometimes your parents just want the best for you and from that only see the good so it may be hard for them to accept it. You just have to explain to them how you have been feeling recently and why. If you open up to them they may come to see what you have been going through without them knowing it.
Anonymous
November 10th, 2018 9:00pm
Just go to them and say it out! Plain and simple. I mean it is hard but in the end you got to do what you got to do. They might not understand straight so you got to find adequate situation and then start talking to them. First bring them into a normal conversation and then say it, or during an on going conversation, take your time and express what you are going through. If you don't find any of the above suitable for your situation then ask one of your siblings who you think is close to your parents, or one of your close friend who is well known to your parents as well.
Anonymous
January 16th, 2019 2:47am
Telling your parents that you think you may be depressed is difficult. Just tell them what has been going on, start with the basics. Take it slow and easy, do not try to rush through the conversation quickly. It can be embarising in the moment but it will pay off in the end. Telling them how long you have been feeling this way is also an important thing to tell them. You also might like to provide examples of how you feel and some of the things that make you feel bad or worse. Be prepared to get all kinds of questions, my parents had a lot but now that I've told them things have gotten better. Remember, you are strong.
Luminescentknight
January 19th, 2019 7:41am
It's tough to tell parents about how we teens feel. But always remember parents will always be ready to help you and they keep the power of reviving you from any problem. You can go and say to them how you feel. If you don't want to directly say this, then shw some signs to tell them you feel depressed. It'll help you. You know your parents the best. Find the best time to talk to them and I hope you get helped. You can show signs like you feel sad and don't feel like doing anything, just show them that you're not interested in doing anything, they'll understand you're depressed and if they asks you about you., you say that you even think that you are depressed
CornMonkey
February 3rd, 2019 10:23am
There are a number of ways to tell your parents that you think you are depressed. You can have a one on one conversation with them, but of that seems too daunting then you can write them a note or letter, text them, send them an email, do it over a phone call, or even get somebody else to do it for you. It is important to consider what you say to them, as well. You should not downplay your problems, but try not to make them panic if there is no need for it. If you stay calm, then chances are they will stay calm as well. It is also important to be direct with them about what you need and what they can do to support you.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2019 5:49pm
Be honest with them. Tell them how you're feeling and thinking and bring them the facts of depression and compare those facts to the symptoms you think you have been experiencing. If you approach them educated about depression, they are more likely to listen as you do know what you're talking about. It's important for them to understand your situation so help them understand by letting them know as much as you are comfortable telling them. Once you take some time to think about what you'll say, tell them you have something important to speak to them about and set aside time for there to be a conversation.
Anonymous
February 8th, 2019 2:33am
telling your parents that you are depressed is very hard. sometimes parent react in different ways. many can ignore it say it part of life they get though it or it just a bad day. some may dismiss and simply not believe it. some will deny it and think its a joke. some other may take it to hard and will make the person more depressed. i feel that there is no right way or wrong way, however that depends on how well you know your parents. i think that letting them know little by little and proving yourself to them can help.
JaidenWO
March 8th, 2019 9:10pm
The first thing I think you should do before telling your parents you think you're depressed is to prepare yourself emotionally. You're probably going to feel worried about their reactions, think about different scenarios that might happen, and that's completely natural. Try to calm yourself down before you decide to start the conversation. You should also think of how and when you want to tell them. You don't want to start the conversation when your parents are in a bad mood, which can result in them not thinking clearly or reacting differently than they would have normally. Make sure your parents are calm, and can think clearly. Sorting out your thoughts on all of this ahead of time will hopefully make you feel more prepared when the situation arrives, and perhaps make you worry a bit less. When you've finally prepared yourself enough emotionally, and found the right time to tell them, and feel comfortable saying how you feel: tell them. You could start the conversation with "I have something to tell you, I think I'm depressed because..." or "I need help, I think I'm depressed because..." or in any other way. Tell them in a way that makes you feel the most comfortable so that you can articulate yourself properly, and explain how you really feel so that they can understand you, or at least try to. If you are thinking of telling your parents about your mental health problems, I hope this has helped you a bit, and I hope that it goes well. :)
Anonymous
March 9th, 2019 4:51pm
Well, tell your parents that you have not been feeling so well and that you are having problems concentrating. Your thoughts are beginning to bother you and that you can not control the thoughts and sometimes your actions. You don't want for these thoughts to get out of control, so you want to go to the doctor and see if they can give you something to help you to be able to deal with these thoughts in your head. Also, tell them if you are having racing thoughts, or thoughts of harming yourself or others. It is very important that you tell them everything, so that they will take you seriously and try to get you the necessary help that you might need. I pray nothing but the best for you as you move forward.
Nimeihaoruchu
March 17th, 2019 9:18pm
Telling parents how you feel can be quite challenging, ultimately know they want the best for you. I would consider your parents and how they react to news, make sure you tell your parent(s) when the time is appropriate, simply state, how you feel and why you think you feel that way. If they ask questions about it try and answer as truthfully as possible. Telling family or another trusted adult can really help you as an individual, and if needed you and your parent(s) can choose the best options to treat how you feel through, medication, therapy, etc. How they react will vary, but don’t feel as if they should be holding you back from telling them.
HelpingHandFromHannah
April 18th, 2019 11:41pm
Having faced this conversation before and not having it go well, just trust in yourself and in your parents, if you know that you have loving parents who have supported you in the past then trust that they can handle this and they will be there to support you now, as I said my conversation did not go well I was persecuted my by own mother for the topic of my depression and it made me feel hopeless but I found 7 cups of tea and a listener saved my life, they were there when no one else was. I’m hoping that for you your parents will be there for you no matter what, but if that’s not the case we here at 7 cups of tea are here 24/7
Anonymous
April 27th, 2019 6:30am
Telling parents can be very difficult to do. Perhaps it’s not the right people to tell. You could consult someone in your school or a professional. But if you feel you want to tell them, try not to worry. They love you so much and want to do anything they can to try and help you. I personally would just tell them exactly what I mean and not be vague, that way they know you are serious and hurting. They will most likely ask you what’s wrong and it’s your choice if you want to discuss it with them.
wonderfulSunshine91
May 1st, 2019 3:17pm
It may seem like your parents might not be able to help, especially if they are always nagging you or getting angry about your behavior. However, they may just feel frustrated because they don’t understand what is going on with you or feel lost knowing how to help. It can be hard to open up about how you’re feeling—especially when you’re feeling depressed, ashamed, or worthless. It’s important to remember that many people struggle with feelings like these at one time or another. They don’t mean you’re weak intact accepting your feelings and opening up about them with someone you trust shows real strength. Could you write them a text or message? If you tell them in person then choose a time when they are not distracted or in a bad mood.
Bosslady9601
June 7th, 2019 2:52pm
You must remember there's nobody in this world that looks out for us as much as our parents does. They brought us up,nurted us and they know us inside out anyway. Therefore don't be afraid,they probably already picked up on some changes. Maybe they were even trying to do something about it. I suggest you start with the parent you are most comfortable to open up to. Pick a comfortable time and place that would give you time to talk about your issues. Maybe you could tell them while doing something you always do together. Most importantly remember to listen! You'don't be surprised at the difference this could make.
tranquilEnergy77
June 8th, 2019 12:03am
The best way to do that would be, to be in an already initiated pleasant conversation so that there is a feel good factor between the involved personnel. Then, you can calmly and emphatically speak your mind. Parents will respond and ask questions which might irritate but the need is to keep calm and understand their doubts. This way you would be able to resolve their doubts. An effective conversation always helps in getting the message across. When we try to share something we have got to realize that the other person has doubts and reservations of them own.
Parn442
July 7th, 2019 7:23pm
I think that there is no particular way to go about this. There are different situations different people are in and they have different kind of parents who would react differently to this kind of information. You need to assess all this and you would know your parents the best, so pick out the best time and place and tell them about your suffering. It would be better if you have kept a personal diary of some sort so that you could've noted down your miserable times and how exactly you were feeling and thinking about in that state. You could maybe show them to your parents and they might understand you a bit better by reading it. I know that it won't always be comprehensible for unaffected people, but at least they would know that there is something seriously wrong.
EmmaKay22
July 10th, 2019 3:47pm
If your parents haven’t already picked up on your changes already, you can simply ask them to have a chat and not speak or ask questions until you have finished what you have to say. Even if it’s as simple as,”I am not feeling like my typical self lately and I am scared it’s only going to get worse.” Sometimes, depression sneaks up slowly on us. It sends little hints that we choose to push away or ignore until it’s so heavy we no longer know how to get out. It’s ok to honestly say, I think I need help getting out of this funk. Depression is depression for a reason. If it was easy to heal from, it wouldn’t be labeled depression. If one was physically ill from cancer, for example, they would need medical attention. Same goes for depression. The earlier detected, the better!
generousJoy15
July 21st, 2019 5:25pm
Hi there, being depressed is never something to be ashamed about. I do understand your reservations though because of all the stigma surrounding depression. When telling your parents maybe try and make sure that you're not blaming them for your depression as they may feel like its an attack on them and their parenting, rather just let them know how you're feeling and what you think has made you feel that way. Try to use " I feel" messages as much as you can. I really hope that your parents are understanding and supportive, but if they arent try to understand that it can be very difficult for others to understand what you're going through and just be patient with them. Good luck, I hope that this has helped and it goes well.