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How can I tell my parents that I think I'm depressed?

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Last Updated: 12/03/2021 at 1:00am
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genuineLove3661
August 8th, 2019 11:29am
You can tell your parents your depressed in many different ways. Sometimes when I find things hard to tell my parents I try write a letter telling them how I feel. I find that this way can be easier because sometimes sitting down and telling your parents face to face can be extremely nerve racking. If you find it easy to talk to your parents maybe sit them down and tell them you need to talk to them about something. Maybe try tell them your feeling a bit down lately and let the conversation flow from there. It is very brave and courageous to tell your parents how your feeling so you should be very proud of yourself
Bettiepage
August 28th, 2019 6:10am
Opening up to your family is always hard, but honest open communication is the only way to have a fulfilling relationship. If you aren’t comfortable seeking help from them right now you can always start with an adult you do feel comfortable with first. You should always reach out to a medical professional or helpline if you need help right away. Also sometimes writing down your thoughts and feelings can help organize things in your mind to make them easier to communicate to others. I hope this helped but always feel free to reach out here for any struggles you may have.
VisibleRayn
September 25th, 2019 8:19pm
Start it off on how you feel.. tell them you feel upset and depressed of somethings. Tell them things have been bothering you. Parents are there to support you and listen to you. They should provide full support at all costs. Telling your parents you feel depressed can really help build your relationship with them. My experience with telling my parents I feel depressed was a very hard time for me. I had to build up the courage to tell them how I felt. When I finally told them I was depressed they comforted me and offered me their support.
tranquilWings74
October 6th, 2019 6:28pm
you could prehaps wait untill there is a calm environment with no one else around and tell them you have something difficult to tell them regarding your well being and ask them to listen untill you are finished. If this is to difficult maybe you could write it in a letter,or even perhaps an email.Sometimes it helps to have a friend there with you in difficult times,or another family member that you can confide in. Your parents should be supportive and help you get the right treatment or therapy, your doctor is also someone that you can confide in.
brianna67
October 27th, 2019 7:57pm
I was very scared to tell my parents I was anxious. I thought I would be disappointing them or letting them down. I was scared of what their reaction would be. However, when we were all together, talking about a stressful, anxiety-inducing topic for me, I decided to go ahead and share the anxiety I'd been feeling. I was right in that they didn't fully understand it, but it was at least such a relief to have it off my chest. I suggest waiting until you are ready to discuss it and telling them in person. You could bring it up randomly or while talking about a similar topic.
KindHeart1010
December 1st, 2019 1:09am
Write down how you're feeling at the minute and pass them the note and go from there. They will talk to you kindly if they really care about how you're feeling. Ask them to refer you to a mental health service if you feel really bad as you can then talk to a stranger and you may feel more comfortable talking to someone you don't know about your feelings. If you go to school or college you can speak to a teacher or tutor, colleges should give you a specific support tutor you can talk to about things, talk to them and they'll ask you whether you'd want them to talk to your parents, say yes and then things will be easier for you that way if you have anxiety.
ohmydays10
December 1st, 2019 11:39am
Acknowledging the problem is the first step. if you already know and accept that you are depressed its a good start. First just be honest with them. Tell them how you feel and if you need help you can mention then as well. It's good if you are open and honest so you can address the issue and work on the plans to tackle it. You can ask if they have time so they won't be rushing. Maybe after dinner or when its quiet. Tell them exactly how you feel and ask for their help. Good luck and remember just try and be as honest and open as possible.
Anonymous
December 28th, 2019 7:54pm
Your parents are the most trust able people. parents don’t ever break your trust so just feel like they are your friends and tell them whatever is perplexing your mind and trust they are gonna give you best advice and you can seek help from them in the best way just go for it parents are the best helpers seek help from them they will give you the best advice since they want best for you love them and trust them even I got into depression as well and when I shared my grief with them they appreciated my effort and showed me the right path
Odunayo97
January 11th, 2020 8:53pm
You can start by seeking their advice on how to live a better life and how to cope with unpleasant feelings or try and ask them questions related to how they cope with unpleasant feelings in the past or you can just come straight and tell them how you are feeling.it allows them to better know how to treat the situation.it might seem awkward At first, especially if you dont have a good communication with your parents but in the end,it will be worth it because your parents knows more about real life experiences than we do and they are always willing to sacrifice anything to keep us happy.in all,talking to your parents about your depression is a big step to getting better
strawberrywaves
January 30th, 2020 10:11pm
Sit them down. Tell them that lately you have been feeling extremely down and you'd really appreciate it if they'd support you and help you in whatever way they can. If they don't take it seriously and think that you are just upset or tired, tell them that you feel like this the majority of the time and you want to be listened to. Tell them when this started happening and what made you feel like that (if you know why). Then after a little bit of easing into it, tell them. Say that you're depressed and ask to research into treatment.
Sci
February 2nd, 2020 9:30am
Please be open, honest, sincere, brave. You could tell a friend first, or a sibling, or another family member, and ask them to support you as you talk to your parents. It takes a lot of courage to reach out, but you'll feel better immediately after. Remember that they love you and they want to best for you. You're not disappointing them, they were always there for you and will continue doing so. Remember that you're not alone, and that seeking help when facing problems like depression is the best thing you can do. Reaching out is the first step toward serenity, and you deserve the best from your life. So, stay here and stay strong.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2020 3:39pm
Hello, friend~ Reaching out to parents about your mental health can be scary! However, depression is a very common condition, and there's a library of information about it both online and in books. If your parents are not already familiar with it, these can be a valuable resource in helping you put how you're feeling into words they may better understand. It takes a lot of courage to share that you're struggling with someone; thank you for reaching out to us, as well. I'm really glad you're here~ Ultimately, you know your relationship with your parents best, and if you need to follow up any conversation with them with a message to one of us, we're here to listen.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2020 8:15pm
I think making clear to your parents you want to discuss something important and sitting them down is the first step. After that I would straight up tell them how you feel and you think you are depressed. Maybe ask if they have some advice on what you should do. If you are seeking for help how you can best approach them and showing them you want to involve them in the healing process. Do all this in a calm and relaxed room where you can be uninterrupted for a while and tell your story to your parents :)
iwishuwell
February 13th, 2020 9:42am
if you a worried about your parents being supportive and understanding, you could decide to go to see your doctor first. This way you would find out if you are depressed and what the doctor suggests might be the best treatment for you. You could then get one or both of your parents to go to the doctors with you so that the doctor can explain to them. One of the problems your parents may have dealing with it is lack of understanding. I know that I did when my son first told me. So it might help to print out some of the information on the site here to have with you when you have your conversation. If you are concerned about going to see the doctor by yourself and do not want to tell your parents do you have someone else in your family or a friend who would be able to help you.
Anonymous
March 6th, 2020 4:28am
Telling your parents that you are possibly depressed can be a difficult thing to do. Sometimes unwanted feelings arise in our lives that make us sad and only seem to make our life harder. However, there are solutions and helpful methods to help you discuss this with your family. For example, initially tell them how you are feeling and make sure to be honest and open. In addition, make sure to tell them only if you are ready; everyone handles emotional distress at different paces. Chances are they will be open and receptive because they love you and want to see you feel better.
KindFall5330
March 15th, 2020 1:36pm
Talking to our parents about mental health issues is scary, period. It doesn't matter if you're 15 or 25, it's daunting. But it's a necessary step if they are big supporters in your lives. As a method of going about this process, I am a huge fan of writing/typing letters. So try to write a letter on what you want to discuss, and either give them the letter or read it aloud. It provides more structure, and helps if your nerves get the best of you. But most of all, remember that your parents want to help, they are not the enemy.
peacefulLily4150
April 3rd, 2020 4:53am
The easiest way to be honest with the way you're feeling is to be up-front with your parents. Do not try to hide your thoughts and your actions to try and protect them. Give them your honest and true self. If you do share with them your true feelings, thoughts, and behaviors, they might get a sense of depression within you. If you are being your genuine self with them and not trying to hide yourself, having a talk with them to state that maybe you are depressed won't be as stressful. Since they will have noticed your thoughts and actions prior, they might understand where you are coming from a bit more.
zebezerra76
April 3rd, 2020 1:46pm
I am glad to you ask this question. This is an important moment to ask a person to help and special parents. The parents are the frontline and give support for children. I open your heart with you problems will help than to understand and support with you. Together with have chance to solve your problem. The important is that you take out this problem from inside. You will open your thoughts to explain your depression and find solutions. You will feel more comfortable with your own thoughts because now you have someone to share and will help you.
Anonymous
April 10th, 2020 8:10am
This is a hard step, but an incredibly important one and I'm so glad that you have made the big decision of starting to reach out. I would say, that as hard as it might seem you really need to be upfront. If there's something in your life that changed because of your shift in emotions, maybe bring that up (Have you noticed how I haven't wanted to go to soccer practice like I used to, etc..). My parents didn't want to believe me when I told them I wasn't feeling well, and that stung. But I know it's just because they loved me to much to want to believe that I didn't love myself. Also, this doesn't have to be a big declaration, you can say something as simple as "I've been feeling a little down lately" and just see where the conversation goes. You can do this, and I'm proud of anyone who is brave enough to recognize that they might need some support.
Anonymous
April 15th, 2020 10:50am
Just be up front and serious with the situation, I believe that they will help you in any way shape or form, because they are your parents and they will love you no matter what. However you are you, and I don't know what's best for you as I have never met you, you are able to use what I have suggested or you can mould that into something you wold be confident in doing. the more straight forward you are the more your parents will understand and try to help. Don't try and make things complicated, as it will just be confusing to your parents, the more straightforward, the better.
JennMarie2
April 17th, 2020 9:07pm
I know that it can be super scary to approach your family about how you might be feeling in regards to your mental health. I experienced a situation similar to this, only for me it was anxiety. And so just like you, I didn't know how to tell my parents that I was different and that I needed some help. It took me a very long time to get up the courage to let them know what was going on. There are multiple ways. For me, I was scared of their reaction, so I told them while we were out to dinner in a public restaurant so that whatever their initial reaction was, I wouldn't be exposed to it too harshly. Ultimately, your parents are people who love you and want to support you and so that is where you can draw your strength from. Best of luck to you!
Anonymous
April 18th, 2020 8:04am
Why are you depressed? Facing extreme poverty? Got cheated in relation? Bullied in school or college?Has no job? Failed in several job interviews?Wants to be in love?Edge to get divorced?Got beaten by another? Sexually harassed by someone? Failed in exam? Can't manage to get admission because of poor grade? Has different sexuality? The environment you live isn't good?Worried about obesity? Then why are you depressed. Tell parents the reason of your depression. Parents will find a solution that will help you solve issues and when issues are solved you won't be depressed again. I hope you can find out your issue
veronica04
April 24th, 2020 9:19am
Go to your parents and let them know that u been dealing with something for a while now & that u think it's really been getting to u now and that u really need help with dealing with it because it has really put u in a Depressed situation and u don't know how to deal with it on your own. But most parents will know when something is going on with their child due to their mood changes and other etc. The best thing to do is go to your parents with the situation so a better outcome will occur or take place before your mind starts to trigger.
Anonymous
April 27th, 2020 6:02pm
Remember how safe you are with your parents. It's never easy to say something out loud, so maybe try practicing first in front of a mirror by yourself before hand. It may also help to try to tell them in a safe space, like your own room or living room. It could also be somewhere in public if you're worried about them having major reactions to the information. Just remember, you don't have to tell them at all if you really don't want to. Try your school counselor or friends if you think that thats easier. Just don't pressure yourself, go at your own pace.
jhappyflowwr
April 29th, 2020 8:16pm
First and foremost, you should realise when you are ready to tell them. You should be prepared and aware of what you want to tell them and how you want to do that. There are various ways of getting it across to your parents but you have to definitely use the one which works the best in your household. Understand your feelings and get them across. Connect with your parents. Don't dwell on what might say or how they might react but just remember that your parents will only want what's best for you and won't do anything that would negatively affect you knowingly. However, they might take some time to process and understand the way you're feeling and make sure you let them have that time.
7cupswilliam
May 20th, 2020 3:20pm
I would tell them by being honest and sincere with your approach and the things you say. You may be surprised how understanding and loving your parents really are! If you are feeling anxious, I would make a checklist of each topic you want to discuss with your parents and some sub-topics for each topic. I would speak with the parents and ask them if you could set a time and place to speak with them regarding an important topic. Once that day arrives, get out your list of topics and sub-topics you wish to discuss and go through each one.
RollingOcean
June 13th, 2020 8:25pm
I think one way to tell your parents you think you're depressed is to sit with them and have a very open discussion. I also think if you can speak about it in a very empowering way - to let them know how you've been feeling, how it's affecting your life, and what reading you've done that makes you think it's depression - it may help them to feel how serious you're taking this. And if you ask your parents to help you get help, it may help you feel like you aren't so alone (especially since depression can make us feel like we're all alone in the world!).
WhiteNBlackFeather
June 14th, 2020 10:00pm
Hello Dear, Can you try to imagine a role play in front of a mirror, where you are the parent, and your reflection is your kid. Make up few questions, and try to respond them the way your parents would,.Try doing this a couple of times, until you are comfortable with what you want to say, and the responses that they will get you.I hope this helps. Your parents really need to know what you are going through, and they will feel trusted and loved, if you tell them.Its okay to feel depression. People get through it.I hope this helps.Good luck.
Misskhan01
June 19th, 2020 6:28am
It may seem hard to share personal feelings with parents, especially if you haven't done it in a while. It also can be hard to share when you're not really sure what's going on yourself. Sometimes parents can offer a new angle that helps you figure things out. Just talking about it might help you see things more clearly for yourself. Some people worry about how a parent might react. Will mom be mad? Will dad be disappointed? It's natural to worry, but most parents are supportive and understanding when they realize what's going on. If you're like most people, you probably wish your parent would start the conversation. Sometimes a parent will ask what's wrong. Much of the time, though, it's up to you
Sweetheart444
June 20th, 2020 7:26pm
This would depend on how educated they are on the topic and what your relationship is like. Best case scenario you have understanding parents who know what depression is (or don't but are willing to learn), then you can share your thoughts openly. However, don't expect them to agree with you, it might take some time for the idea to grow on them. They might try to shrug it off because it scares them and they don't know how to react. If your parents are one of those people who think depression only happens to people who have undergone serious trauma or they believe it's an excuse for being lazy - I believe a good way to introduce them to the topic is asking your school counselor or another professional to talk to them, it is more likely they will take it seriously if they hear it from a professional. Maybe try getting them to watch a documentary on mental health and comment on what you have experienced. Anyway, sometimes parents wouldn't even try to understand. This shouldn't discourage you to seek help and get better, educate yourself, do your best to eat healthy and exercise, talk to people who understand. Stay safe, get better ❤️