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How common is depression, am I really alone?

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April 6th, 2015 7:27am
Deppression is one of the most common disorders, is also probably the most "hidden" one, a large number of people spend years even without knowing they are suffering it. I have know many people who think that they are just "passing trough a rough patch" "having a bad time" but since they don't know they are deppresive they try to convince themselfs that what they feeling is normal. Martha Manning say it better: Depression is such a cruel punishment. There are no fevers, no rashes, no blood tests to send people scurrying in concern. Just the slow erosion of the self, as insidious as any cancer. And, like cancer, it is essentially a solitary experience. A room in hell with only your name on the door.
April 8th, 2015 12:41am
Depression is very common actually, this shouldn't diminish or invalidate anyone's experience of depression, but most people will suffer from depression at least once in their lives and it's nothing to be ashamed of or to ask help for. You are not alone.
April 10th, 2015 6:59am
"Clinical depression is the most common type of mental illness, affecting more than 19 million Americans every year." These are the statistics. Depression is common and no, you are never alone. There is always someone who is feeling exactly the same way that you are. Stay strong!
May 9th, 2015 4:47pm
Statistics show that 350,000,000 people have depression. That is only of the people who have gotten professional help. Depression is very common. You are not alone. Even I have depression. But, darling, you can get through this.
May 9th, 2015 6:52pm
In my personal experience, I've learnt that you are NEVER alone. There are always people around you who want to help, even if you can't see it . Depression is very common and so it's likely that people in your neighbourhood or even your school are going through the same kind of struggle as you.
May 17th, 2015 2:24am
You are not alone, depression is one of the most common clinical diagnoses in the entire world. There are many with it, much of them are guaranteed to want to share their experiences with you and to grow and learn alongside you.
May 21st, 2015 8:55am
Depression is really common, and you're not alone. WHO states that over 350 million people world wide suffer from depression. So it's really, really common. And you're really, really not alone :)
June 30th, 2015 1:17am
it's all in your head when you say you are alone. there are many people out there willing to listen and support you. you just gotta open yourselves up to them
July 21st, 2015 6:02pm
Depression is considered the "common cold of psychiatry" because it's common enough that a randomly selected person of sufficient age would be able to say that they have had it at some point in their lives. You're not alone, and there are people out there who want to help you.
September 1st, 2015 5:22pm
Depression is a common thing, but sometimes we don't know that we are experiencing that. Sometimes we would just feel hollow, sad, lonely, bad mood, upset, and all of sudden we realized that we are depressed. I've been through this. I still do sometimes. But now when i start feeling depressed, I talk to someone, my best friend. If I can't, then I would just write. Write anything. Doesn't have to be good, but writing is actually a way of talking too. Let anything just flow through your fingers and mind and watch you pen dancing by the grip of your fingers above a sheet of paper. Then go outside. Suddenly i don't feel lonely anymore. That's what i do when i feel depressed. But again, this only my point of view, we are actually not alone. The mind of lonely comes as a distraction when we don't really see our surroundings. Even if it's only a friend, we should be grateful for it.
April 17th, 2018 10:21pm
Depression is absolutely very common.Everyone has it at one point or the other in their lives.Some get rid if it easily while others don't.Even as listeners/ therapists, we all have gone through it, so you're not alone.
March 5th, 2015 2:46pm
You are not alone. It's really common. People face a lot of problems in life and that causes them depression.. I even find people who seem to be cheerful, but they just wear that face...
March 6th, 2015 7:00am
From my experience, depression is extremely common. Some people are good at talking about mental illness, and some people are good at hiding that they even have a problem. This makes anyone who isn't good at talking about depression feel very alone. But, when you start talking to different people, you realize that many of them will have struggled, or are struggling, with some sort of mental illness. I once had a doctor tell me that 16 percent of the population has a form of mental illness. You are not alone.
May 29th, 2015 10:40pm
You are not alone, you will always have someone with you. If you have having problems with your mood I suggest you talk to a professional.
June 5th, 2015 6:02pm
Of course you are not alone! There are lots of people who are fighting depression just like you- And there is lots of help and support available out there- Here are some ways to fight depression without outside help, if these ways do not get the depression to leave, then it would be a good idea to reach out for outside help. Regulate your sleep schedule and make sure you're sleeping enough. Recent studies have shown that when you sleep, your brain gets a deep cleaning. Your body uses this time to flush out toxins and other dangerous material. When you don't sleep enough, this puts you at risk of all sorts of mental problems, because that buildup makes it hard for your brain to work properly.[1] Make sure that you get enough restful, continuous sleep to ensure that your brain has its best chance. •Most adults will need around 8 hours of sleep but plenty of people need more while some people may need less. You'll have to experiment to find what works for you. •You also need to watch out for conditions which interrupt your sleep. Waking frequently interrupts your sleep cycle, like stopping a wash-machine while it's in the middle of a load of laundry. If you snore or only sleep for a few hours at a time, this can make your problem worse. Get plenty of daylight exposure. Though no one fully understands why, sunlight exposure seems to play a role in preventing or controlling depression.[2] For some people, it's possible to suffer from a condition known as Seasonal Affective Disorder, which is when the lack of sun during the winter season throws you into a deep depression. For others, staying inside too much may be the root of the problem. Whatever the case, try to make sure that you get several hours of sunlight each day. •You can take your lunch outside, even when it's cold. •Try walking to work or school, at least part of the way (and busing the rest), as another way to fit more daylight into your day. •You can also invest in a daylight lamp or get one covered by your insurance with the help of a doctor. Start by introducing exercise into your life. When you exercise, your brain releases chemicals called endorphins and serotonin. These chemicals help you to not feel the pain of the strain on your muscles but they also do something else: they make you feel happy. An inability to regulate these chemicals has been implicated in studies of depression and many depression medications work by controlling them. This means that exercising really can help you manage your depression. Of course, there's a trick to it: you have to exercise consistently over a long period of time to really enjoy the effects.[3] •One good way for you to exercise while also managing the feelings of depression is to go for a jog or a swim. Both of these exercises are known for helping you clear your mind, as you focus on your environment and the physical sensation of what you are doing. •The associated studies found that thirty five minutes of exercise every day or an hour three days a week were the most effective schedules. •You can find more information on exercising and different ways that you can get and balance exercise on our exercising page. Try to improve and regulate your diet. What you eat can affect your brain in a lot of ways. Not getting enough nutrients, either through eating too little or eating mainly unhealthy foods, can cause problems with brain function. Some people also feel that certain ingredients in our modern diet, like the hormones in commercial meat or gluten and sugar, can cause hormone imbalances which affect our moods. Either way, you may want to experiment with dietary changes and see if that helps you manage your symptoms. •Make sure to get plenty of omega-3 fatty acids in your diet. These play a role in brain health and there is some limited evidence that a diet rich in this nutrient can help manage and prevent depression. Good sources of omega-3s include fish and eggs, although you can also take fish oil supplements. •If you want more information on eating a healthy, balanced diet, get more information here. Generally, you want to be sure to eat nutrient rich vegetables and fruits, whole grains, and get complete proteins from meat or by eating a wide variety of alternative protein sources. •You can also try removing coffee and other caffeine sources from your diet. Many people find that caffeine aggravates their symptoms. Try to regulate your schedule. Maintaining a regular schedule is a common practice when combating depression. When you have depression, time tends to blend together, responsibilities go by the wayside, and you have a whole lot of life piled up before you know it. That can be very overwhelming. By sticking to a schedule of sleeping, eating, working, and socializing, you can help carry yourself through the darker days of your depression. [4] •Make a schedule of when you're going to sleep, eat, and do activities for every single day. Plan your days down to the minute. Avoid surprises and try to stick as closely as possible to your schedule. Like learning to put one foot forward when you learn how to walk, you'll be teaching yourself how to walk through life by learning the "steps" of the day. Try a new hobby. Combating depression takes time and in that time you'll need to keep your brain focused on something else. Different activities can also give you a shift in perspective or a greater sense of meaning, both of which can help you learn to cope with your depression. One good place to start is by picking up a new hobby. Choose something that you've always wanted to do and do it. Volunteer with a local cause that means something to you. Choose a cause that means something to you, even if that cause is depression, and find a local organization. They'll have volunteer opportunities and other ways that you can help out. When you volunteer and get involved with helping others in this way, you increase your sense of connection to other people. It will also give a greater sense of meaning and purpose to your life. These feelings can all help keep you afloat while you get your brain under control. •An example of a good organization to volunteer with is Big Brothers, Big Sisters. This organization will pair you with a kid who might be struggling and who certainly comes from a tough situation. You in turn help the kid to see their potential, making sure that they don't fall through the cracks. This is good when you're feeling depressed and alone because you'll end up opening your own eyes by giving someone else the advice that you yourself need. Create goals. Goals often give us hope when we have few other sources of hope. By working hard and working towards something that matters to you, you can gain greater control over how you think. Find a big goal, something that is really important to you, and then break that big goal down into smaller goals that you can reach one step at a time. As you progress through your goals, you may find that you have greater confidence, greater drive, and more hope than you did before. •For example, let's say that you want to become a nurse. In order to do that, you have to go to school and in order to go to school you need to get money. Make a few financial goals, such as applying for financial aid and getting a job. Once those are out of the way, work on getting into a school. Eventually, you'll find yourself reaching your goal and you'll have gained greater control over your depression in the meantime. Increase the feeling of purpose in your life. A common feeling that comes along with depression is feeling like your life has no purpose. When you live a very quiet, basic life, it's not hard to feel this way. Introduce more purpose into your life in order to combat the negative feelings associated with purposelessness. •For example, maybe you're really into reading. You read a lot of books and you know what makes a good book. There are communities online for budding authors who could all use some feedback on their first books. By lending your skills as a reader, you might be helping the next Hemingway develop their true potential. Spend some time with kids or animals. Young kids and animals have one major thing in common: they're both really good at being happy. As you get older, life tends to beat you down and many people forget how to be happy along the way. By spending time with these masters of happiness, you can learn a lot about how they see the world, helping you develop skills you can apply in your own life. •For example, maybe your niece needs watching on weekends, so that your sister can go out and relax with her husband. This is a great opportunity for you to play with your niece and experience how she views the world. •You can also try volunteering at a local animal shelter. Shelter animals not only need feeding and cleaning, they also need to be loved and played with. Volunteers for shelters are always appreciated and you'll be surprised at the impact it has on you. Combat stress in healthy ways. Having an unhealthy response to stress and negative situations in your life can also exacerbate feelings of depression, disconnection, and loneliness. If you find your depression getting much worse when things get rough, you might want to try some different practices for calming yourself down, in order to put you back in control of your emotions. •Try meditation. Though you might think meditation sounds silly, this technique works really well for many people. Give it a try and see if it changes things for you. •Crying and shouting can also help. Bottling your emotions, a common response to negative feelings, is very unhealthy. Get some alone time and then let your feelings out. Cry. Shout into a pillow. Write about your feelings in a journal or blog. This can make you feel much better. •Every time you find yourself worrying about your own problems, do some reading on an issue close to your heart and then find a way to help. Write a letter to your representative, start a fundraising group, or write a blog post and help to educate others.
June 14th, 2015 1:34pm
It's incredibly common, but with the stigma surrounding it and the way it makes sufferers not want to talk about it, it seems a lot rarer than it is.
June 18th, 2015 11:51am
It is probably the most common mental disorder there is. You are NEVER alone. 121 million people worldwide suffer from it.
June 29th, 2015 5:53pm
Not at all.Depression is a common thing,sadly..And you are certainly not alone,I know alot of people around me have had it or have it.You are not alone.
July 13th, 2015 5:46pm
Everyone occasionally feels blue or sad. But these feelings are usually short-lived and pass within a couple of days.. depression only makes you a stronger person!
July 13th, 2015 11:16pm
Depression is the most common "mental disorder", affecting more than 26% of the U.S. adult population (CDC Centers for Disease Control and Prevention).
September 21st, 2015 3:57pm
According to, a whole 6.4 percent of of people in the United States of America are diagnosed with depression. That is a large number when you think of it as about 7 people for every hundred. Say you live in a town with 10,000 people. The number of people who also have depression isn't so small anymore. You are not in anyway alone, and there are many people who would love to support you if they knew you.
September 29th, 2015 10:50am
Hey there! You are not alone. Thousands of people all over the world are afflicted with depression. In fact, 1 in 5 people experience some form of depression at least once in their life. If you are feeling depressed, consider getting professional help.
October 2nd, 2015 6:58am
Depression is incredibly common; I believe it is one of the most common mental illnesses. You are certainly not alone, but I can understand how it can feel that way. This is a generalization, but depression seems to have a tendency to create isolation, so it's understandable that you would feel alone. It's also such a different experience for everyone who has it, despite certain commonalities, that the subjective nature may further contribute to one feeling alone. But you are not alone, really. Not only is depression very common, it is also very treatable, and there are so many resources and support systems out there for you. Stay strong. You are not alone.
November 3rd, 2015 3:27pm
Depression is quite common all over the world. Some may not know. Or have never been diagnosed. That could be very scary for some. But you are NOT alone! No one is ever alone! Reach out to someone on 7 cups, search some professionals in your area who will listen.
November 9th, 2015 2:42am
Depression is actually really common. You definitely are not alone :) People all over the world suffer from depression and know what your feeling. Talking to someone will help you understand that and feel better. Your not alone! Stay strong! And remember, we're here for you.
November 30th, 2015 3:40pm
It is very common, in fact some people don't even know they are depressed, it is called smile depression when people act happy but secretly are not. All I can say for sure is you are never alone and surely someone close to you has been through a depression before.
December 8th, 2015 7:37pm
Very common. Have you heard that depression is a common cold of mental problem? When I told people I'm depressed, many times I found out they are depressed too.
December 29th, 2015 3:19pm
Depression is very common! I think something like 10% of adults have depression. Almost everyone knows someone with depression . You are for sure not alone.
February 2nd, 2016 4:01am
Depression is one of the most common mental health disorders-you are NEVER alone. Just knowing that fact, should help, because it can help people realize that there is absolutely nothing wrong with feeling depressed. It is a serious mental issue, yes, but it can be treated with the many tools that are available today. From therapy, to the right medication, you can beat it!
May 2nd, 2016 1:07am
Depression is extremely common, and so is anxiety. Depression affects more than 16 million adults each year. I promise, you are never alone. So many are willing to help you through your unhappiness. Trust me.