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How do I stop being jealous of others success?

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Last Updated: 03/23/2021 at 8:38pm
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Anonymous
November 21st, 2015 2:18am
Success has its own definition to every individual. For some having a seven figure bank balance is, for others its owning new cars, for other its getting a good academic performance, and so. If you think like this way, you will only self improve.
gentleRainbow43
November 22nd, 2015 2:59am
Make success for yourself and don't be so focused on what others have. Push yourself and make it so others feel jealous of what you have, then share this advise with them
origamicraness
November 22nd, 2015 8:41pm
As human beings, we often find ourselves feeling a little jealous when others around us succeed at things in life. That is natural. But I find that if you concentrate on your journey - may it be in life, career, family - you won't have time to notice others and their gains and losses. If you focus on yourself, you will find that you can appreciate your successes that much more and your losses won't seem as big compared to what you have achieved in life.
greenJOHN1971
November 25th, 2015 4:29am
I can't. Sorry.I can't. Sorry.I can't. Sorry.I can't. Sorry.I can't. Sorry.I can't. Sorry.I can't. Sorry.I can't. Sorry.I can't. Sorry.
Anonymous
November 25th, 2015 1:13pm
Hire a hitman. ;)
SwedishFlower
November 26th, 2015 12:16pm
Accept that each human is incomparable, they are special and so are you. Rejoice in the happiness of others, in the beauty of the divinity inside them, and you too will be shining. Namaste.
Anonymous
November 27th, 2015 12:48am
your success will come in time. Don't worry about others only yourself. If you become jealous just try harder to earn success yourself :)
shrinkingviolett
November 27th, 2015 10:45am
When you first understand and are able to show compassion and empathy for yourself you are able to see yourself and others as separate people. Your successes will be just as important and you can show joy for other people.
LittleLantern
November 28th, 2015 1:28am
There is a very very short way of saying this my dear: Meet your own goals! Beat your own limits, gain your own success.
Anonymous
November 28th, 2015 9:20pm
you should see how hard the others worked for their sucess and you shouldnt compare yourself to others. everyone is different and has different Goals in life
Anonymous
November 29th, 2015 5:33am
If you are jelleous of other people's success, try to succeed in something you enjoy. Do somethimg that raises your self esteem.
prettygrlnay
November 29th, 2015 3:32pm
well you start your own success and Focus on you and not others because just know nobody can't be like you
LucasW
December 2nd, 2015 1:59am
Success is something we tend to see in others and ignore in ourselves. To stop feeling the jealousy of the success of others, try and focus on our own successes and the personal victories we achieve each day
Malek
December 2nd, 2015 9:12pm
Focusing on one's success and how s/he progressed even after failure can boost one's self-esteem and makes him/her feel a lot better.
Anonymous
December 3rd, 2015 4:41pm
Start by congratulating them, and try focusing on your own goals even if its "learning how to swim" or "doing more exercise" reward yourself for your own achievements small or big.
BurgundyDay98
December 4th, 2015 9:48pm
You create your own successes, ones that no one can take away from you, and you allow yourself to be proud of yourself for it.
Anonymous
December 5th, 2015 6:34pm
Just try to focus on you. Your life is about - you. It will be easier for you if you begin to understand - success of others doesn't stop you and it doesn't make yourself less worthy. You are good - the others are not something to worry about or to even care. Yourself can do anything, of you keep doing. It might take years and you might not be good in everything but that's never possible. Try to focus on the good parts of yourself.
TiaJae
December 6th, 2015 12:59pm
I think the first step is probably recognising that these people are good at their job, and this is why they're successful. You might not be particularly good at that specific thing so there's no point dwelling over it. You might be good at something else, so try working on that thing and then youll start getting more successful yourself and wont be as jealous of other's success. This is what helped me in my case, anyway!
Anonymous
December 14th, 2015 12:18pm
No need for jealousy just do what makes you happy work hard for it others will be jealous of you create your own success
Anonymous
January 4th, 2016 12:56am
Try to look at the good things you have and be proud of it. Sometimes we need to stop looking at others because maybe that's what is stopping you to become what you want
Lotus48
January 14th, 2016 8:43pm
Find your niche in life and what motivates you. Ask yourself what you are interesting in addition to putting things into action.
allnatural
January 17th, 2016 8:48am
You should start looking at it in a different manner. Try being happy for the people that suceeded. And if you are jealous because you wish you acomplished something try harder at whatever it is thst you are doing. Write scheduals for yourself. Have breaks. Eat healthily.
WrenGS
January 20th, 2016 5:34pm
First, stop beating yourself up. Being jealous is a totally natural reaction. We're capable of simulatenously being happy for someon's success and wishing that we had the same successes happen to us. So, don't judge yourself too harshly. Secondly, remember no one's life path is the same. Take two or three famous or successful people you admire, and read their bios: I bet the way each of them attained their success was totally different than the others. The same holds true for everyone! They way you'll attain your success won't be like how anyone else did it, so, you can't compare yourself to them. You can only, honestly, compare yourself to yourself. Look at how you are doing with your own goals, and measure how well you are doing with realistically moving towards them. If you find you have stalled, use the jealousy you feel to re-energize yourself to get moving again, revise your plans, or try something new.
morgendorffer
January 24th, 2016 11:00pm
To envy others. Yes, I used to be jealous, not white, and black envy, I could not talk with the person or get angry at him for what was just jealous of his success. But as you grow older, you realize how foolish you were, I could not communicate with the person because of his success. I think it's not easy not to be jealous. But I did it. When you're successful and your friends and family are so happy for you, you know, how silly do you have to be to be jealous of others success and victories. Focus on their successes and ignore others. And rejoice in their successes and victories, even if they are not as high as others.
Anonymous
January 25th, 2016 12:45am
know that each one of us is unique and successful in a certain but different thing. moreover, you can always reach success if you work hard.
Scarlettskyblue
January 27th, 2016 9:38am
Put that energy into pushing yourself forward, one small goal at a time. This will help help you focused.
Anonymous
January 27th, 2016 11:05pm
tell yourself that you will have great success too. The more you focus on others people success the more it will eat you alive and get you more jealous. Whatever you want to do in life you go for it and strive for that success, put your mind to it. Dont let your jealousy stop you from being successful you can do it.
Anonymous
January 29th, 2016 12:28am
Focus on yours because yours is all you have and everybody's success have been taken so work on yours and be better them
MalignantLove
January 29th, 2016 1:25am
Set goals for yourself, and do whatever you have to do to accomplish those goals and achieve the level of success that you feel so jealous of others for having.
Anonymous
January 29th, 2016 6:12am
Stay positive. Believe that their success wont effect yours. Take everyone as your friend, then you will be happy at their success.