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How do I stop being jealous of others success?

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Last Updated: 03/23/2021 at 8:38pm
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January 30th, 2016 3:24am
be proud of yourself and your own success!! make yourself proud first :) I strongly believe in bettering yourself before anything else
January 30th, 2016 10:18pm
If you're jealous of others success, I suggest you do something to make you feel proud/successful.
January 31st, 2016 9:00am
Put yourself in the shoes of successful person and consider efforts/struggle/talents of the person too. That makes jealousy transform into inspiration.
February 4th, 2016 4:55pm
Recognize your qualities and accomplishments are important and build up your self worth so you don't compare yourself to others.
February 4th, 2016 11:56pm
Stop comparing yourself to other people. You will ALWAYS be able to find people that are better or worse than you in certain respects, but it doesn't matter. All you can do is try to be the best you, the success will follow.
February 7th, 2016 3:29am
You start by not comparing yourself to them . You see them winning at something, but take a moment and reflect on if that is actually something you would want. Consider the costs and weigh the pros and cons. And if you want they've got, don't be shy in asking them how they got there :) reframe your thinking. Make this a positive learning experience
February 7th, 2016 6:56pm
I believe the best way to achieve this is to be able to first recognize when you are being jealous of someone. Take some time to think, what am I jealous of? Why? In this case, if you are jealous of someone else's success, ask yourself why are you jealous of their success? If the answer is because you wanted to be in that position, then try to figure out what you can do to feel the same level of accomplishment... or if you are jealous that they COULD be successful, try and think of ways or other things you can do to better improve yourself or your situation. Try to fill in what you seem to feel you are lacking.
February 10th, 2016 4:33pm
by thinking you are better than them and you can succeed too and that in this world everyone will get what they deserve and get what they work for and someone can be jealous of me too so i should love myself and not stress
February 10th, 2016 5:27pm
Tell yourself that you can succeed as much as they can, and that you just need to focus yourself to it. Or try to forget about their success. If they're telling you about it, tell them that you would rather not because either say your jealous or that you're feeling down about not succeeding or however you're feeling about it.
February 12th, 2016 3:11pm
Success isn't like a glass of water, if one person takes a drink that doesn't take away from what is left in the world. Success is like the oceans, more than enough for everyone to have their fill. So remember that they aren't taking from you. Also, success happens for those who are supportive, so in supporting others in their successes you increase the chances of your own.
June 7th, 2016 11:22pm
Look at the better sides of yourself, rather than comparing yourself to others. Your only competition is what you see in the mirror.
July 5th, 2016 7:35am
Everything in life takes place at the right time. Some people get lucky and their success happens sooner. We are all in our own lanes and we can't compare ourselves. You are not in a race with other people but yourself. Take your time. Success will reach you too eventually.
July 5th, 2016 10:36am
I can stop being jealous of others success by trying to build up my own success story by using the talents that I possess.
July 10th, 2017 2:32pm
Jealousy is a very tricky flavour in oneself. We would want to have like what others want or have. We might also feel we deserve more than what others have. These can be solved by self realisation. Realising and being contented with what we have can lead to a happier life.
December 18th, 2017 7:36am
Jealousy is a normal feeling that we all have experienced at least once in our lives. I think that one of the ways to stop this feeling is to understand that others may be not fully good and successful as we seem them. They may SEEM to have the perfect job the perfect love life or have traveled the whole world and leading a positive life. But it's not that way people's lives are not perfect. We should keep that in mind. We also have to stop caring about other people's lives. How they live and what they do. We have to focus on our own path and realize that we are different from them we have our own different circumstances. We have to get to know them if could and compliment them. Soon we would accept it. Also find new hobbies to do. We may feel lost now but we will soon find our own success too.
January 8th, 2018 7:44pm
Being jealous of other peoples success is completely normal. We've all been there. In my opinion the best way to get over the jealousy is to make your own success.
March 13th, 2018 8:53am
Be proud of yours. Jealousy is a strong feeling, and makes you feel bad. I think you should remember that you accomplish things other would like to accomplish, too! There's nothing wrong with that, but try to be aware of the things you accomplish too
March 13th, 2018 2:32pm
Whenever I've been jealous of someone's success, it has been because I found myself lacking in ways that the person wasn't. It is difficult to recognize one's lacking, so that's usually my first step. When I realize that, I evaluate whether the lacking is because I have not tried, or because I think of myself incorrectly. In case of the former, I try to device a way to try. In case of the latter, I re-evaluate myself and the things I am capable of. Because sometimes, that feeling of lacking is just us harshly critiquing ourselves. And then there is the surprise element of "things not in our cotrol". Maybe we tried everything in our power. Maybe we worked just as hard, if not more, compared to the person we are jealou of. And it still didn't work out. It happens, and we cannot do much about that. In the entire process, take care of yourself, and count to 10 before saying anything you immediately feel.
March 19th, 2018 2:04am
Look at your own successes and believe that someday you too can achieve what you want. You have already done so much, no matter how small, you can continue to grow
April 17th, 2018 2:06am
Einstein once said, Everybody is a Genius. But If You Judge a Fish by Its Ability to Climb a Tree, It Will Live Its Whole Life Believing that It is Stupid. Consider this, and there is a distinct possibility that you will be better able to appreciate your own successes and talents. you are unique. With that said, it doesn't happen overnight; Rome wasn't built in a day after all.
April 17th, 2018 2:06pm
Tey creating your own success!! You can do so many things that are considered as a great accomplishment for example, donate to the poor, feed a street cat, or even consider tutoring someone a subject your good at, take your gurdian out for tea, thats all wonderful things that will make you feel accomplished and successed
April 17th, 2018 11:57pm
I think the key to keeping the jealous thoughts at bay in regards to success is to look at how far you have come. Every person's journey is going to look different and if you focus on how far you have come, you will be more grateful for your own accomplishments. Comparing ourselves to others is so easy to do but it becomes the main source of jealousy.
May 27th, 2019 11:40pm
YOU are NOT in a competition with other people. You are in a competition with yourself. You need to improve the old you to the new you and that is how you become successful in your own way. Seeing other succeed may feel like your left behind in a certain aspect (relationship, career, family life, etc.). It just means that you are a work in progress and that to is beautiful and normal. Successful people also felt the way you do now. Take one step at a time towards your dreams goals in life. Never give up. The light bulb was invented with more than a hundred failed attempts before it became what it is today.
December 31st, 2019 1:46am
Most people have a different path in life, nobody has the exact life and experiences that you had. You might have similar struggles in comparison to someone else but you might also have different goals and talents. They might feel ready to have a family and kids and you might not or they might want things that you don’t. There are many things that lead to success, maybe you were meant to do something else or you had to take the longer path to it because you struggled with issues that that person didn’t struggle with (discrimination, disability, race problems, etc.) Nature is not in a hurry but everything gets done.
July 21st, 2020 11:59pm
In life, it's very easy to get stuck comparing yourself with others and always pitting your successes against theirs. However, living with a mindset like this doesn't really get you anywhere when you're always subconsciously competing with others. The best way to not be jealous of others is to focus on your own accomplishments and goals in life. Remember that we're all running our own metaphorical races in life and we don't accomplish anything by comparing ourselves with others. The best thing to do is to always focus on your own self-improvement. And also, make sure to take the time to appreciate yourself and be proud of yourself for the things that you do!
March 23rd, 2021 8:38pm
First of all, you need to recognize the emotion the right way. In jealousy you want someone's success to be gone or their success becomes yours with them turning out to be failures. While being envious is when you wish the same success like someone else without meaning them harm. After recognizing your emotion, you can start working on them. Its normal to feel these emotions sometimes in life when we see other people getting success either through their sheer hard work or sometimes luck. Success is different for everybody like for some people attaining their financial freedom and money is definition of success and for some, helping people is their definition of success while for others its being popular. There are people who find success (Mark Z.) early while there are others who find it late (Harland Sanders). Understanding your version of success can also help you see things in different perspective. Sometimes the bigger thing we can do is to accept ourselves. There will always be someone who is better than you at something but there will also be things where you will be better than many others. Take the emotion as motivation to work towards your goals ( which do not need to be the same as everyone else ) in a healthy competitive way. In the end, I'd share something which I learned from my elders i.e. Each and every person has their own path which they have to walk themselves. Sometimes, some people's paths cross ours but the path we have always stay different. So, always lift yourself up when you feel down for not achieving something early or at the right time, work hard. Getting success through luck might feel good but the real success one gets through by sheer amount of their will and hardwork is the best feeling. Always smile, be empathetic, be happy for others and you will find a new perspective to see things. Wish you best of luck.