How do I stop being judgemental?

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Stellis
June 29th, 2016 12:37pm
Passing judgement is nothing to be embarrassed about. It's in our human nature and it's a very hard habit to break sometimes. Just being here and asking these types of questions shows that you're on a great path towards change though! A few easy ways to start breaking the cycle is to simply try and put yourself in another's shoes...truly talk with someone and listen carefully about their story and try not to pass judgement. Focus instead on that person and how strong of a journey they've overcome instead of whatever judgments you might have previously made. Read books that focus on people and places that are vastly different than your ow. Volunteer at a Soup Kitchen or Homeless shelter. There is nothing more humbling than seeing others who need love and kindness. Hear their stories and offer them true support and a listening ear. When we begin seeing others as they are...as fellow human beings on this journey that we call life and not as competitors and not as people that we are to compare ourselves against that is when change occurs and that is when you'll start seeing yourself in a wonderfully different light as well.
GTpeace777
June 29th, 2016 9:34pm
It's important to understand and acknowledge that everyone has different beliefs and opinions, so to promote harmony amongst each other we must respect our differences even if we don't share the same point of view.
OctopusGarden
November 3rd, 2016 2:53am
It's difficult to stop being judgmental. If you find yourself judging someone, try to push that judgment aside and make a clean slate about the person in your mind. Remind yourself that there are things about them that you don't know about.
ladycat946
June 22nd, 2016 10:18pm
Just imagine yourself in other's shoes, and try to see what you would do at their place. Sometimes its hard to do so, but i think it can help you to being more opened sometimes to some situations.
PoolOfBrokenMemories
November 26th, 2016 7:00pm
Be “naive”… This might sound strange because the word is almost never used in a positive context. Most people will always do what they believe is the best thing to do. This doesn’t always mean is will provide the best possible outcome and someone his or her opinion might sound very alien to you. Try to accept that everyone of us has started with an empty book at birth and we’ve been filling that book with our memories, experiences, plans for the future, etc. Our environment, social connections we’ve had through our life have been a source of influence for anyone of us. No two people live the same life so as a result your “book of life” will be very different from that of another person. You might have different values, different goals and a different technique to realise those goals. Accept that another person be living his or her life, guided by their own rules. Their book of life will be different but it doesn’t make it less “true” for them. We all have a perception of life and we can assume that nobody on earth has found “the one true path”. A simple trick to make you non judgemental is to (mentally) step into the shoes of any person who has a different opinion or displays a behaviour you find annoying. If you can see yourself through that persons eyes then you’ll notice that your book is invalid from that perspective and it’s a mutual problem. You probably want that person to accept your book of life and with that knowledge you might see that the only way to have mutual understanding is to accept the differences between the both of you. This also works with opinions related to groups of people, theological ideas, philosophy’s, etc…
starryHero94
December 3rd, 2017 5:52pm
This is not easy since all of us have opinions and judgments. Step 1: When someone is talking you actively listen. Do not start formulating an opinion while they are talking. Instead listen to them fully before you take a stance on the matter. Step 2: If you do not agree with someone try to understand their reason for having a differing opinion with an open mind. Not being judgemental will require you to consciously make a decision every time you are interacting with someone. But the mere fact that you are reading this means that you have taken step one towards not being judemental and that is the right way to be going.
Anonymous
August 3rd, 2018 9:48am
Try to think about how would you feel in that person shoes. It is hard to judge when you are trying to understand why a person is doing something. Think about all those movie characters that you judged and in the end, you saw their part of story and saw that they were actually good. In their own way.
aeris156
October 20th, 2019 4:32pm
it's great that you recognized that trait in yourself! catching yourself being judgmental is a great first step; recognize when you're acting judgmental and stop your thoughts right there. ask yourself if it's possible that the person had a bad day, is struggling with something, doesn't have the same life experience you may have, and be empathetic. seek to understand where people are coming from, to learn more about them, before passing judgment. this becomes easier with time and practice. best of luck!
ListeningBunny22
August 19th, 2016 3:26pm
How do you stop being judgmental... Okay let's look at it this way. You live a life you did not create, you have a creator who isn't judgemental at all. So why you a mere human be judgmental. Open up your mind that people have faults and no one is ever going to be perfect just close to perfect but remember Not Perfect.
Anonymous
September 2nd, 2016 1:16am
Nobody is perfect, keep that in mind. Everytime you start judging someone just remember that everyone is fighting their own battles; sometimes, it's easy to judge people we don't know because we only see a certain part of them, but we don't really know what they're going through, it could be anything. And if it's someone you know, just try you put yourself in their place, and try to see things like they do, try to get their point of view. Empathy is key.
muppetnz
September 2nd, 2016 2:05am
Stop seeing others as random people, imagine that is yourself, treat others with emotions and care. Everyone has their own story.
HazelGreenEyez
September 4th, 2016 9:55pm
Listen, don't make comments of personal opinion. Be open minded and empathetic. Don't push your own opinions and beliefs on who has reached out to you as a listener.
Anonymous
December 11th, 2016 3:51pm
Consider that there are many types of people in this world with many possibly differing opinions and ideas depending on their culture, the environment they live in, how they were brought up, etc. No single opinion or idea is necessarily the best or most correct. It is not our right to judge others on things such as these. What we could do is to develop an open mind and an accepting heart, and to always be kind to others.
happyBlossom12
December 29th, 2016 3:51am
Imagine how you would feel if you could hear all the judgements people said about you? The less you heard the better you would feel. So focus on saying less in your own head.
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2017 10:19pm
Remember that we are all flawed human beings and if you judge another then it's not the end of the world, just accept that's what you've done and if you feel you have treated that person or thing harshly make an effort not to do so again. There's no good in beating yourself up over it. Simply be more aware of what you are doing and in time you will find yourself negatively judging less and less however judgement on its own merit isn't a bad thing because it lets us weight up a person, place or thing. It's when there is a negative connotation placed upon it that it can be unhealthy. I hope that helps.
gracefulTruth
January 18th, 2018 1:40am
This is a difficult one. But when you find yourself thinking those thoughts are a situation or a person, actively stop yourself from thinking like that and saying those things. Eventually it will become normal for you to not think in that way. Just watch out for your thoughts and replace the judgemental ones with something genuinely nice about the situation. Find the positive.
Anonymous
March 17th, 2018 9:45am
A good way of trying not to be judgemental is putting yourself in the shoes of the other person, try to see it from another perspective, try to see behind the surface, what could be the reason for a certain behaviour.
Skylarstorm
June 6th, 2018 3:32pm
Figure out what you're judging people or yourself for and why. If you find the root cause of why you're judging people, then you can work to consciously prevent yourself from judging.
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2018 1:54pm
Just try to inculcate the belief that not everyone is the same. There are all kinds of people in this world. Think how boring it would be if everyone had the same personalities or if everyone would talk, think, act like you. Its also important to ignore the minor bad qualities that people have and focus on the good ones bcoz no one is perfect. Slowly, it will form a habit if you wire your brain to think this way. Appreciate the unique personalities of everyone around you.
awesomePudding82
September 7th, 2018 5:04pm
Judging someone based on race, color, gender, appearance, looks or the class they belong to, is actually a reflection of our inner self. When we call someone ugly, it doesn't mean the person who you pointed your finger is ugly. It is you and your inner self which cannot help but having insecurities about your own look is the culprit. So, we can we literally overcome this? Well, to stop being judgmental at all, we should stop paying too much attention on materialistic and physically visible materials at all. In contrast, we should try to appreciate the other peoples' whatsoever appearance, look, or color, with love. I hope this can stop yourself from being judgmental.
Maryam33
June 22nd, 2016 11:14pm
Think of yourself, or someone you love in the situation that person is in, and imagine how you would feel.
PurpleGoddess
June 23rd, 2016 3:54pm
By always putting myself in their shoes. I am a black woman and we are looked down on and judged so much, I said that I would not make others feel the way that I did when people would judge me before knowing me.
Anonymous
June 24th, 2016 7:05pm
It's normal for people to be judgmental. So, we can't really stop being it. And also, maybe you're not judgmental, you're just thinking that you're one.
serban412
June 25th, 2016 11:30am
By always coming in first. Always self reflect onto you first when having the thoughts associated with judgement towards other person. No one is perfect and we tend to judge based on what we feel at that moment. Often times people act like mirrors, so maybe next time when you meet someone that makes you feel uncomfortable, ask yourself. What is showing up in that person that makes me feel this way? It may be the same issue that you are experiencing.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2016 1:12pm
Think about how you would feel if someone made the same judgments on you that you were casting on others. always try to treat others how you want to be treated.
HeavenLie
July 1st, 2016 3:30pm
i would try to see the problem from the speaker point of view as if i was in her/his shoes to understand the situation better
Anonymous
July 6th, 2016 5:41pm
You can stop being judgmental by first looking at things or people positively. If you find yourself being judgy, then as yourself "do I want people thinking of me that way?"
CariHope15
July 6th, 2016 8:19pm
When you are about to judge someone think this: do I really have the right to be judging them? I don't even know their life or situation.
silverlemonade
July 7th, 2016 2:21pm
The first step is to realise that you are judging yourself being judgemental right now. Then, try to figure out why the need to stop being judgemental.
Abdou101
July 7th, 2016 5:11pm
“If we learn to open our hearts, anyone, including the people who drive us crazy, can be our teacher.” ~Pema Chodron Accept the others the way they are .. because thank god we're not the same ! we are all different from the personality to your physical form