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How do I stop being judgemental?

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Last Updated: 10/28/2020 at 12:18pm
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Top Rated Answers
alexiannah
November 22nd, 2017 1:01pm
You stop being judgmental by not making an assumption about somebody before even knowing them or talking to them.
hazel77
November 24th, 2017 2:49pm
well i dont try to indulge in others lives without any reason and i think about what would i do if i were there in the specific situation
aniaepul
November 25th, 2017 9:18pm
To refrain from being judgmental, put yourself in someone else's shoes, and try to see the situation from his/her/their perspective. Recall any times that you have been in similar situations, and think about how you reacted. Remind yourself that nobody is perfect, and everyone is growing in life.
Cryptidchild
November 29th, 2017 2:26pm
Try to think about someone being judgemental towards you. You won't enjoy it obviously so every time you find yourself judging someone think about how would you feel if someone would do same with you. It'll help you to stop your thoughts before they harm you or someone else.
KenziiShy
November 30th, 2017 4:10am
If you can look at yourself in the mirror and ask if you're perfect and you say know then you can do the same for anyone else. Ask yourself if you have ever made a mistake or lied, cheated, or regret a decision you made. Everyone makes mistakes and sometimes when we judge someone's too quickly we realize that they didn't deserve the negative judgment at all. A lot of times people act they way they do because of something affecting them in their life. Just remember that no one is perfect and we're all struggling with something deep down.
trin22
December 1st, 2017 3:15pm
As humans, we are judgemental. if we're not judging another person, we're judging ourselves. There is not a simple solution to judgement. There are ways to help diminish it though. A way to reduce judgement is to remember people often act the best way they know how to for the situation they are in. there is not an instruction booklet for life, we are here to learn things on our own. just be the best you that you can be, remember we all learned things differently and what is abnormal to you maybe be normal to somebody else. stay accepting! #mostimportantthing
Anonymous
December 1st, 2017 9:07pm
The easiest way is to put yourself in the other person's shoes! No one likes being judged, which is why many people bottle up their thoughts and emotions. When we make an effort not to judge others, it shows! It's a great way to build trust early in a relationship. The rewards for being non-judgmental are huge and they happen fast!
Anonymous
December 5th, 2017 3:30am
You can simply remember that,, we all have our life and never the people around us see the full picture, know everything that we deal with, you never know from which options people make their choices. And it is their life, we all have right to live our lives in any way that pleases us unless we harm someone else while doing so.
winnpixiie
December 7th, 2017 5:11pm
You can try to think of the other person’s side of the story, or you could try to stop and rethink how you would feel if you were in their situation.
LagathaStrong88
December 16th, 2017 9:50pm
You can learn to reduce the judgement you place on people or things by being open to learning. Also, you may consider practicing acceptance in differences. No one thing is the same, and that is a good thing!
Anonymous
December 16th, 2017 10:28pm
When you have a judgmental thought, consider: Why do I think this? What emotions are affecting my thoughts? What assumptions am I making? Is it my job to be judgmental right now? Can I be more accepting or considerate in this situation? I think it's also really important to not get upset with yourself. Use the times you may be feeling judgmental to grow. At least that is what helps me!
EmRivale
December 21st, 2017 10:10pm
Remember that everybody has a different story. You might live one way, but another person might live another way. Happiness makes the world go round, and it should be important to you that the other person is happy. If what they do makes them happy and isn't damaging or hurting you or anybody else, respect it.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2017 12:22am
Imagine you are that person you are judging, how would you feel if you were them and they were you. Never assume anything before speaking to someone and try to place yourself in their shoes.
Strawberryprincess
December 23rd, 2017 6:58pm
Everyone is going through something in their life. They have their own thoughts and feelings. They experience everyday life just like you and me. If you catch yourself thinking something potentially judgemental, think about how that person feels. Think about their emotions. Then think again about what you’re thinking.
Anonymous
January 6th, 2018 3:36pm
For me personally, I stopped being judgmental when I started to put myself in that person's shoes and being more emphatic. If you try to understand how it feels to be judged, then you will automatically stop being judgmental.
Pugcanisegosum
January 8th, 2018 5:39am
No one can stop being judgmental. It's just what humans do, everyone has an opinion on something the moment that their senses come in contact with it. Judgements are opinions, beliefs, predicaments, just like if you were driving you need to judge how far away from someone else's vehicle, you are.
Anonymous
January 18th, 2018 9:35pm
Well, first you have to know yourself you truly and deeply want to be less judgemental. And then work towards it, when you conclude something about someone without getting to know them, stop yourself. Imagine someone doing the same to you. Get to know the person first, maybe even a simple talk with them first. Repeat for yourself "I don't this person, I won't conclude anything before I get to know what they really are like". I hope it helps.
YourPersonalPal
January 24th, 2018 2:28am
Perhaps if you try putting yourself in that persons shoes seeing how harsh it is will change how you think a bit
Anonymous
January 31st, 2018 7:30pm
It isn't something that can happen in a short time. It needs small steps and positive thinking. Try see things from another perspective. Think others as they are your friends or smth. Focus more on yourself.
Anonymous
February 1st, 2018 8:40am
Not being judgmental is not about not having any judgments. It is about being able to say that judgment is not important right now. It takes conscious effort to suspend your judgment.
Anonymous
February 4th, 2018 12:42am
Try to keep an open mind, sometimes you have to push your opinions aside and imagine yourself in people's situation to understand where they're coming from.
Jennifer164
February 4th, 2018 1:48pm
By trying to be more empathetic.You should try to understand other people from their point of view.And by not assuming things about people on irrational or invalid basis.
Dramaticlotte
February 7th, 2018 4:37pm
To stop being judgemental, you can just think if I were in this position how would I feel? you should hopefully know how to stop then.
Anonymous
February 9th, 2018 1:28pm
Get to know others. Talk to people more. See others perspective too. Know that different people have different opinions and just because they don't have the same opinion as yours they are wrong.(doesn't apply when they other person is actually wrong)
Anonymous
February 10th, 2018 2:05am
accept that people do the things they do for a reason and that they have a reason as to why they believe a certain thing.
jupitermoons
February 15th, 2018 4:07pm
Remember that even thought that person has flaws, everyone does. Including you. If you can’t accept someone’s flaws, and that they’re different from you, then you should be open to judgement as well.
Anonymous
February 21st, 2018 5:39pm
Being judgemental is a nature in human beings. I am a very very very judgemental person. But, how you deal with it is crucial. It took me a hard way to learn this. So I hope this tips will help others to avoid getting into trouble like me... So, first you must tell yourself, being judgemental is normal. Everybody judge each other. BUT, you need to hold your tongue and your body language. Try to act calm and keep your thoughts to yourself. NEVER say it to anyone, because it would always backfire on you (trust me, i've been there). So, keep all the judgmental thoughts to yourself, and don't tell anybody. The next step after you keep your thoughts to yourself, is to talk to the person that you judge. Just have a short conversation. This way, you can learn about the person better. And sometimes even change your mindset about the person. If you do not want to approach or say anything, then keep your thoughts at bay. Just leave it one side, but do not label the person, just through your judgings. Because sometimes it may not be true.
WishfulWhiskers
February 22nd, 2018 3:37am
It can be very easy to pass judgement on others, but often assumptions are incorrect, or simply unkind and unnecessary. We never know exactly what someone else is experiencing and without intimate knowledge of the person, we have absolutely no idea why they behave a certain way or respond in a particular fashion. Try to put yourself in their shoes and realise that perhaps that person is having a terrible day, or perhaps that person dresses this way because that is what makes them feel comfortable. Everyone is entitled to respect and support, and I believe that you should do unto others as you would like done to yourself. Have a lovely day.
Anonymous
February 22nd, 2018 6:20am
Try to place yourself in the shoes of those you judge. How would you feel being judged? As long as you keep trying you are doing a great job. Try to recollect moments you've judged and been wrong. To try and convince yourself that it's not a helpful attribute. Good luck!! Xx
MissesOliver
February 22nd, 2018 8:54am
I've always heard you are not accountable for the first thought that pops into your head, but the second is what you choose to think. Try stopping and thinking about other's situations before judging them.