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How do I stop feeling badly about how I'm feeling?

14 Answers
Last Updated: 11/03/2020 at 2:18am
1 Tip to Feel Better
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Halayma Khatun, M.A Theology(U.K, UAE), Diploma With Distinction in Counseling, Certification trauma abandonment


Compassionate, patient, experienced depression counselor. I use Psychodynamic counseling techniques. My counseling experience is +8 years, I counsel women.

Top Rated Answers
October 26th, 2015 12:26pm
You should know that no matter how or what you feel, the feelings you have most likely are not in your control. Some feelings fade with time while some will always be there. You should never feel bad for who you are or how you feel.
March 14th, 2015 12:44am
You must accept that feelings are natural, everyone feels, and it's not wrong to feel the way you feel.
May 6th, 2015 4:46am
I'm not entirely sure what you're asking here - it seems like you either may be experiencing guilt regarding your feelings and thoughts, or you are feeling bad/sad. Either way I hope you're doing ok! Feelings of guilt can really stress a person out. I think that it is important to remember that it is not our thoughts that define us, but our behaviours and actions. We all have a million thoughts a day that we wouldn't share with others - they can be inappropriate, mean, rude etc. but this is just human nature. When people make judgements about others based on superficial things such as appearance, I often ask 'but are they hurting anyone?' if the answer is no, then it is best that we don't pass judgement or say negative things about them. If you notice yourself having thoughts like this, maybe recognise them and be sure not to say them out loud to others. No harm done! If you are feeling bad or unhappy, this is a little trickier. Again, I hope you are okay. Maybe have a think and see if you can figure out what is getting you down. Is it something that can be fixed or worked out? If so, then get going on it! But if not, maybe you could seek out some extra support to help you cope and accept the situation. Sending lots of love your way!
May 17th, 2015 1:31pm
-Make post it notes of things you like about yourself and put them around your room - Write a diary to help process your feelings more effectively - Go hang out with people who help you feel positive
June 22nd, 2015 12:07pm
Find something you enjoy doing, and do it! keep yourself busy. Doing this will keep your mind off of the situation and make you feel much better.
October 26th, 2015 3:26pm
Remember - you didn't choose to feel like this. A lot of the time it's purely down to chemical imbalances in your brain, it's not a conscious decision to feel depressed, or anxious, or whatever else.
October 27th, 2015 4:03am
Accept that it's normal to have emotions such as these, that every single person feels this way from time to time - some longer than others, but nevertheless; you're not alone and you are most certainly normal for feeling the way you do.
December 22nd, 2015 7:31pm
"Get over it" "Cheer up" "Just smile for once" Simple statements that have a devastating impact. So often in life we lose control of our feelings. Something can happen that triggers us to feel sad or angry and after a while... these feelings can become the triggers themselves, and the downward spiral begins. I have learnt that the key to overcoming this spiral is by actively and mindfully focusing on those triggers, identifying the problems that have you feeling the way you do. Once you have identified the reason for your feelings then you will be able to start working towards overcoming that trap of letting your emotions become the cause of more emotions. If you are feeling sad then don't try and hide it... don't lock it away or bury it because you will not have addressed the problem. A landmine is as effective as a grenade, the only difference is that you can see a grenade coming. Emotional issues can be like landmines that we bury throughout our lives... Dig them up and defuse them. If you don't know how to defuse them or they are too complicated... find someone who can help you. But do not bury them away because then you will lose sight of the bomb that you are terrified of stepping on. Identify your feelings... if there is a problem or a situation that you can deal with to make you feel better then deal with it head on, with or without the help of a friend. If you can't identify your problem and you are simply wandering around the mine-field terrified... then you may need to dig a little deeper. You just need to be brave enough to unearth those bombs and diffuse them.
January 4th, 2016 3:05am
I deal with this from time to time.I think the first step to stop feeling bad about how we feel is to validate feelings. It's okay to feel how we feel because we feel. It's okay to feel bad about how you are feeling it's understandable. You do not want to feel this way but you cannot prevent it so you feel bad. I think the second step is accepting how you feel and taking care of yourself and breathe. Its okay and you will be okay. :-) take care you can do it :-)
October 17th, 2016 9:01pm
It's not a question of simply stopping, as it takes work - it takes time - it takes patience. It's not easy overcoming anything. Work at it, and maybe you'll gradually start feeling better about your current situation. It won't happen straight away.
November 14th, 2016 3:30am
Understand how I feel and why I feel like that and identifying what i can do to change that feeling
June 13th, 2017 9:29pm
Remind yourself it is ok to have different emotions but to always move forward in working through those emotions.
July 8th, 2019 7:04am
First I will go over the things that I believe are negative attribute about myself. One by one I will assess them, then proceed to essentially debunk them. For example, “I am ugly.” First of all, beauty is defined by the eye of the beholder; from my eyes, I may seem ugly, but I know for a fact, someone out there sees me as the most beautiful being in the world. I could also note of a small quality about me that I think is nice, like my eyes or my hair, etc. The point of this is to fight yourself and your thoughts. Do not let your own or anyone’s words bring you down. You are your best defender.
November 3rd, 2020 2:18am
I think the most important thing to remember is we are all human which means we all have feelings. You should never ever feel bad about how you feel. Nobody should ever be made to feel bad about their own feelings no matter what it’s about. I have felt bad for a long time with the pandemic as I am not able to work, I felt bad for feeling upset and angry about it because there were others out their putting their lives at risk, yet I was sat at home, safe. I felt bad because I thought I was being ungrateful. But the reason I felt that way is because I love my job and my work, I felt upset and angry I couldn’t work because I am so used to it. Some people may think I was mad to not want to be at work. But my mental health deteriorated because of not working, having no routine. The moral of my story is everyone has their own story. Some people may be worried and feel bad about how they feel because they are aware there is much worse going on. However, this is no excuse for you to feel bad about your own feelings. Everyone has an explanation to their feelings, and no explanation is never not good enough. So the best advice I could give is to take a deep breath, and keep telling yourself you are human, you have feelings, and we all have different stories, pathways, backgrounds. Never ever feel bad about how you feel. Embrace yourself and have plenty of self-care.