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How do I tell people I'm depressed?

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Last Updated: 06/01/2021 at 4:53pm
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Top Rated Answers
KRN
December 21st, 2015 3:46pm
If you want people to know that your depressed, tell them how you feel, tell them the current situation you're in. Tell them honestly, also tell them why do you think you're depressed.
Anthony974
May 8th, 2015 4:46pm
Find someone you can trust that has been through depression at one point in their life. They often have more valuable insight than someone that has not.
EmmyRose
July 14th, 2015 12:44pm
I would never tell someone I was depressed. I don't think I have ever used that word about myself verbally. Instead I talk about how I feel in a way that I think will make the people who I tell it to understand.
Anonymous
August 18th, 2015 3:04am
Start with one or two people, people you trust. You don't have to tell everyone all at once, and you also don't have to tell everything all at once. It's okay if you tell them about your situation a little bit at a time if that makes you more comfortable. Take your time, and try to pick people who you truly trust to listen.
Tumb13weed
August 25th, 2015 9:24pm
You'll be able to share this with people you can trust, else the fear of not being taken seriously can be there. Tell them upfront, that you have reason to believe that you're undergoing depression. They're likely to ask you about further details, whence you can open up more and talk about it. Have your reasons ready; but since it's someone you trust, someone who cares, chances are the reasons won't be subjected to a scrutiny.
Freeverse
September 1st, 2015 5:50am
Just say it. There is nothing wrong in being depressed. There is nothing shameful about coping with depression. I think the bravest of the lot have the ability to battle depression.
SlayIsMe
September 7th, 2015 10:16pm
Try talking to them in a friendly way letting them know your issues, and what you're dealing with in life.
DragonHearted
November 2nd, 2015 11:50am
If you wish to inform people that you're struggling sitting down one on one is best. Make sure you tell them that you have something important to talk to them about so that they know to give you their undivided attention. You may wish to start the conversation by asking them if they've notice anything about your emotions recently. Regardless of their answer, follow on by telling them that you haven't been feeling yourself. This opens the conversation so you can continue on and tell them that you are struggling with depression.
Anonymous
November 3rd, 2015 3:22pm
I have started by reaching out to people I trust. I tell them how I have been feeling, and ask for help about depression.
Anonymous
November 3rd, 2015 3:33pm
i think its better not to because then they get a chance to take advantage of it yes you should open your heart to your close ones but not everyone
Positivecounseling
November 3rd, 2015 3:33pm
Understanding your feelings, and where they are coming from will help you find the words to tell your loved ones or others that you are depressed. Not everyone understands what depression means, so further explanation is helpful.
devilsOrchestra
January 22nd, 2016 2:44pm
just be open and let people know how your feeling, you should never be ashamed of how you feel and you may be surprised as others you know could also feel the same way and are afraid to speak out about it.
healthyMax12
December 29th, 2015 5:47pm
Talk with one of family member who'll listen to you without being judgmental. You can talk with your closest friend.
tranquilPillow93
January 14th, 2016 2:08am
just say i am down and your situation why you are and they should be able to figure it out from there
Miracle
January 15th, 2016 4:07pm
Sometimes we don't need to tell people that we are depressed in order to allow them to understand that we are struggling. If you do choose to tell people that you have depression you need to be prepared for a whole range of reactions from denial, rejection, support and even over protectiveness. There is no best way to tell people you are depressed because everyone's situation is unique as are their relationships. Often it is better to tell those closest to you first and explain how you feel they can help for example "I've been really struggling recently and I've been feeling very low, it's been suggested/I think I have depression".
BatWings89
January 15th, 2016 6:49pm
If you want to tell them - which you are not obligated to - there are many ways you could do that and it depends on who you want to tell in which setting. You could ask them what they know about depression or just tell them you've got a diagnosis etc. Imagine how you would react if a friend/family member or colleague told you to check what might be too much information.
electricPeace79
January 16th, 2016 6:32am
It depends on who you are telling. If it someone close to you, such as a friend or a family member, you can either say it bluntly or you can ease into it by telling them how you have been feeling lately and whether or not you'd like to receive professional help for it, or if you simply just need someone available to listen when you are feeling depressed.
ughhitshaley
January 20th, 2016 5:45am
well if you are depressed you will feel worthless, helpless and useless. you will feel like you constantly have something on your shoulders
Truckerwife08
January 20th, 2016 5:24pm
Sometimes it depends on how well they know you and if they know your behaviors to tell em youre depressed. Some people know the signs of depression and if they care theyll understand. But it all depends on the person. Sometimes its easy to just sit down and tell em. Or if you have a councelor and you feel you could do a joint counceling session then that may help too
Cr0pCircle
January 21st, 2016 8:14am
So, I like to sit them down and just let the person know that I can't always be happy, that it's not something I can control and ask them if they could just be there for me.
truefrend
January 21st, 2016 9:38am
By voicing out if you already know you are depressed you must tell people you dont feel like doing some thing or joining them for a reason of you feeling low .