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May 20th, 2015 10:30am
The first step is becoming aware of your negative thoughts. Whenever you realize that you're thinking something negative, stop yourself and ask 'why?'. Try to determine whether that negative thought is rational or not, and replace it was a more positive, rational one. For instance, if I think "Everyone hates me" I might stop myself and think, "is that true? It is even possible for everyone to hate me? Maybe some people in this world dislike me but certainly not everyone, and there are people who like me too."
Try to recall happy memories. Then try to ask yourself what makes you truly happy. When ever you are in a bad situation always try to remember that things can be worse. Write 3 things you are thankful for every day in your personal 7 cups journal.
In the world we live you can either be happy, sad or both. So how do you think of happier thoughts especially when you are going through something horrible? Think of everything you love in the world. Think about what brings you joy and happiness. Once you start thinking about things you like your mood and behavior actually start to change.
Its very simple, first calm down if you are stressed. Then close your eyes and think of the one person you love/respect the most. And imagine that person is with you right now, and is walking with you in the situation you are right now. You will feel the power to overcome anything because that person is with you. And if you do not have such person in your life. Then imagine that person is your future self, watching you through memories. You will get charged and motivated instantly.
Destract your mind. Think about things that make you happy or do what you enjoy doing. Go outside and take a walk, and maybe obsevere nature if you want. If you do, play your favorite instrument. Draw a picture. There are so many ways to think happy thoughts.
Positivity is the key to life in general. Instead of focusing on everything that is negative try to think of things that would make it seem less negative. For example: I failed my test in class today my parents are going to be so mad! Change that and think, well if I failed this test, I know what I am bad at and what I am good at. If I work a bit harder there is a possibility that I can pass the next test.
1. Meditate or do yoga.
3. Surround yourself with positive people.
4. Change the tone of your thoughts from negative to positive.
5. Don’t play the victim. You create your life—take responsibility.
6. Help someone else.
7. Remember that no one is perfect and let yourself move forward.
9. List five things that you are grateful for right now.
10. Reflect on positive quotes.
Watch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become your character.
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.
If you’re constantly telling yourself “I can’t” you may convince yourself that’s the truth. Replace these negative words with positive ones instead. Tell yourself you will do your best or that you will try your hardest instead. Don’t let negative thoughts and feelings overwhelm you when you’re feeling down. Even if it’s only for a few hours a day, push your negativity aside and only focus on the good things in your life. Try filling your thoughts with words that make you feel strong, happy and in control of your life. Make a concentrated effort to focus on these words rather than those that make you feel like you are failing or incompetent.
Reframing your thoughts can be one way! Along with challenging them and replacing them with positive thoughts/affirmations!
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December 24th, 2018 12:22am
Pull out a blank piece of paper and try to think of things that make you happy than write it down. It can be anything from a person you like to a flower you saw yesterday. Sometimes our minds take life or color out of things and you just have to remember things will get better. There is always something you can think of to make you happy. I promise things will get better and you will be able to think happy easier. Somethings take time but nothing takes forever. Just keep a notebook and write down things that make you happy inside.