How do you deal with depression after a breakup?
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I don't. It takes time to recover from the mourning after a breakup, but you gotta respect yourself and what you're feeling. Take your time, don't mind feeling frustrated. You just don't need to revive in your mind everytime you broke up in your life before. Just let the time do their thing.
vent out your depression by crying, later go for a long sleep. once you wake up re-arrange your room, wash all your clothes, clean your dishes have a bath. Doesn't everything look different now??
you always get lonely after a breakup. i think its being human. but sooner or later we need to focus on ourselves and the things that are good for us. we need to keep ourselves busy and challenge ourselves with new things or go on an adventure. take our mind off the breakup.
Breakups are hard to the best way to look at any situation is that everything happens for a reason. That person was not meant to be with you either at all or at that moment. Life is hard and it's a mystery, but that's the beauty of it. It's going to hurt and take time to heal from a breakup and that's normal. Take the time to deal with the grief, but then remember that if he or she is meant to be in your life than it will happen. Until then, take all the lessons learned from that relationship and apply them to future relationships.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 11:36pm
I personally had a really rough breakup with a person whom I thought was my soulmate. We were thick as thieves. And it all stopped without warning. No news, no seeing each other. What I found was the most helpful to me was to immerse myself in other things: TV Shows, studies, sport... Anything that requires your full attention, and makes you feel again.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 5:11pm
I write things down,rip the pieces of paper up and throw it in a bin or burn it. I sone times also talk to people to release my feelings. Distracting yourself with things you enjoy can also help.
I'll find someone who will help me realize that Life is beautiful&that I should enjoy every minute!!
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2016 1:50pm
Seeing them or reminding yourself of them by social media for example is going to give you more depression so keep yourself away from them and their social medias by blocking them because reminding yourself of them will cause you to miss them and feel depressed. Surround yourself with supportive people and friends and just keep yourself busy and do the things you love
Breakups can be hard. I personally went through a very difficult one myself. The best way to handle it is allowing yourself to grieve for a little while. For some this may be a day, for others it could be up to a week. However, once you have allowed yourself to grieve, you need to jump back into life. Hang out with people you enjoy doing things with or spend time on a hobby of yours. Anything to distract your mind for the breakup. Eventually, it will get easier. Yes, thoughts will still come up and it's okay. But I promise you will make it through, I know it's hard to believe in the moment and I was able to make it through despite what I may have thought
It is always good to deal with the cause of the depression to deal with the depression and in this case its the breakup. Breakup's involves a lot of emotions and it takes time to deal with this emotions and to accept where you are now. Always remember there is always a reason for the breakup and whatever it was its a good reason enough for you to move forward in life.
Anonymous
December 19th, 2015 4:20am
The best thing for me was to just find a group of friends I could trust to spend time with who understood what I went through during the relationship and breakup.
First of all you should delete all your text messages with that person and at least leave the photographs in a place where you have not the temptation to look at them (you have minimize to 0 all your contact with your memories with that person, read text messages and watch to your old photographs with that person will only make you feel worse).
You should hang out with your friends and maybe meet new people. Being locked crying at home won't help you a bit.
It's a slow process, but you will feel better soon
Divert your attention to brighter things. Go back of discover new hobbies. Reconnect wih old friends. Focus on your family and career.
Getting over a breakup can be really tough. It's okay to be upset, and it's natural to feel depressed and hopeless after a breakup. But, it shouldn't keep you from functioning as you normally would. A breakup isn't the end of the world, even if it feels that way. Stay strong, and get help if you feel depressed constantly after a breakup! c:
It is important to remind yourself if there isn't someone to do so for you that there are many people in the world all as unique and lovable as the next and that it isn't the end of days, This is a normal reaction to such a situation and you should only become worried if the depression hovers or lingers for two weeks or longer and has been unrelenting.
You could do something that makes you happy like hang out with friends or enjoy any hobby like, playing any sport, listening to music, or reading a book or anything that you like. Give Time for yourself pamper yourself maybe go to some spa or somewhere else you enjoy going
Maintaining a routine helps, talking with a friend, hiding all the things that makes you remember that person and allowing you to feel bad-heartbroken, cry is you need to but not all day, everyday. You need to allow yourself to do something you like to do, also.
Music. I know that it sounds stupid but it's how I deal with it. Music is the only thing that helps me through my depression besides god.
Try not to think about the breakup, keep yourself busy with family, friends, school, or even work. Even if the places you've gone remind of all the good memories you spent together in the past, have a positive mindset and say to yourself "it's time to move on and make new memories." Pace yourself slowly, try not to have contact with your ex partner, it will only bring more pain to yourself and your ex partner. You will start to feel better internally and move one, remember there is always someone better than the previous. When the time is right that person will come into your life. There is always a new beginning.
Treat yourself to something nice. Spend time with close friends and family you love and take it easy and think on the positive side of life! ;)
Anonymous
August 16th, 2015 6:34pm
The most important thing to remember after a breakup is not to fight the hurt/pain/struggle. It's inevitable that you'll feel that to some extent, so try and ride it out. Time is the greatest healer in this situation. Use ANY support available to you, and remember that it DOES get better.
Cry. Seriously, Crying is one of the best ways you can deal with anything as well as talking. Cry and Talk to your friends, to your parents.
First off, I’m very sorry to hear about your breakup. It’s a horrible feeling, and in my experience it leaves an empty hole. But that hole will heal, even if it may not seem like that now.
It always seems like the end of the world. It always seems like you will never find a better lover and that you will never feel the same again.
In my experience, this has never been true.
If it was meant to be, then it will be. If it was not meant to be, then it will not be. You will find another lover, probably many other lovers. You will say “I love you you†to another person.
What I’ve done to get through break ups is I’ve immersed myself in something that I like doing. Being around friends and being social can really help. If you’re not able to be social, then taking up a project or a sport can be a great way to recover.
I'd think it was the same as any kind of depression, You could seek medical help or discussing the issue with your ex may help...?
Anonymous
December 11th, 2015 1:12pm
spend time with the people who care about you (family / friends), doing this will help to take your mind off of things
The best way to deal with depression after a breakup is to be with the people you care about- or even better find someone else to love. If you find a new person to invest your love in, you will quickly forget you were ever depressed.
this is hard and mostly work differently for everyone.my advice would be to take it day by day step by step. you will feel depressed rejected and alone. you should avoid been alone for to long. been with friends and family helps. do things you normally did before your relationship to minimize painful memory's, and most of all don't blame yourself. there are someone out there who will love you for you.
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 2:05pm
Breakups can be very hard be the key is to be around people that love you and just want to support you, it will be hard for a little bit but you just have to remember everything happens for a reason and you will be okay in time, I'm here to listen.
Anonymous
December 15th, 2015 2:04pm
From my experience, I dealt with my depression after a breakup by busying myself with hobbies, school, or friends. At times, I would let myself to cry, because it helped me release my emotions.
Think about how much you are worth (which is a lot) and work to becoming a better person based of the good qualitys you have.
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