How do you deal with depression after a breakup?
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you always get lonely after a breakup. i think its being human. but sooner or later we need to focus on ourselves and the things that are good for us. we need to keep ourselves busy and challenge ourselves with new things or go on an adventure. take our mind off the breakup.
vent out your depression by crying, later go for a long sleep. once you wake up re-arrange your room, wash all your clothes, clean your dishes have a bath. Doesn't everything look different now??
I don't. It takes time to recover from the mourning after a breakup, but you gotta respect yourself and what you're feeling. Take your time, don't mind feeling frustrated. You just don't need to revive in your mind everytime you broke up in your life before. Just let the time do their thing.
Occupy your mind! Take part in an activity you genuinely enjoy doing. Also, if you have a pet, studies have shown that petting an animal releases endorphins, a chemical that makes you happy!
i just cut all the way of communication from my ex because i had to move on and i had my family. so that i had come away from the depression as soon as possible.that's why i made myself strong,i just tried to keep myself busy and didn't look back again.
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 8:57pm
Dealing with depression after a breakup is a tough thing. You really need to give yourself the time and patience to deal with the pain .
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 11:06pm
You should talk to someone that you are comfortable with and share all of your feelings so that they don't build up inside. You should make sure the person is trustworthy and that they really care about you and will be able to help you manage your depression.
Act as if you were not depressed. Keep seeing your friends and taking care of yourself as you normally would, even if you don't feel like it. Keep doing the kind of things you would enjoy if you weren't feeling down. Work on finding a new routine - replace the things you used to do with your ex with something else. Don't get stuck at home alone doing nothing.
If you don't get better soon, get help.
Take care of yourself. Look for tips on the breakup-advice. Surround yourself with nice people who help you be active, going out, moving your body. Eat well, drink enough and do things to make you feel nice. You're going through a hard time - you deserve it!
Surrounding myself with family and friends. A support network does wonders during the tough times such as that.
you try to ignore thinking about your ex by doing hobbies or anything that will physical distract yourself ... put on some loud music and start dancing! serious;y
By reminding yourself that there is more to your life than your ex-partner. Family, friends, school/work, hobbies, all these things are still there for you and will help you move on and feel better in time.
Anonymous
April 16th, 2015 8:44pm
Well i feel really sad sometimes... But we're too young to be sad :) Remember you'll be fine and thats a interim heartbrek :) try to feel better
You can distract yourself with other hobbies and activities that make you happy. If you don't have any, then go out and find things that will take your mind off of it!
Focus on taking care of yourself. Either exorcise go out and meet new people. The most important thing is to not get hung up on the other person as though they are the only thing.
Dealing with depression following a breakup is never easy. Typically, I find that distancing myself from the person always helps. If a certain song reminds me of them- I don't listen to it. Forgetting the person ever existed usually helps me the most.
Anonymous
January 17th, 2016 6:11am
Try to have fun or dont think about the other person for a bit. Maybe try singing or dancing or anything you like to help.
Anonymous
January 20th, 2016 3:19am
Take time to refocus on yourself. Realize that the break-up ended for a reason and that the both of you can still live perfectly healthy, happy lives despite the fact that the relationship did not work out. Pick up a new hobby or dig deeper into an old one that brings you pleasure. Reconnect with friends and look for the positive in the situation. If you felt constrained in the relationship, then you now have the freedom to live life on your own terms. Make yourself happy and treat each day going forward as a new chance to grow and develop yourself into your best version of yourself.
Depression after a break up , can be overcome by first changeing your usual schedule , which you had when your Boyfrend or girlfriend was around make changes in routine , start some thing new like a hobby , keeping yourself busy not allowing your self to be lonely and isolated always surround yourself with people friends dont stay indoors , go out doors meet freinds , avoid talks which will take you to his/her memories , most important stop feeling self sympathetic , you mujst feel it can happen with anyone it happened with you for what ever reason , don't keep grudge against the person just let go not try hard to get back it will only hurt you each time if the other counterpart is not interested to make it up.
Dealing with a breakup is hard. A good thing to do is to talk to someone supportive about it, and make sure your feelings are heard!
Because it's hard to see that someone cares about you and it's even harder to feel like your letting them down
Anonymous
January 27th, 2016 7:33pm
I usually try to hang out with friends as much as possible. Surrounding yourself with loved ones that care about you and that you can talk to is a key element to staying positive. Also keeping busy and focusing on your work and what makes you happy very important too.
It isn't easy. But you have to take it one step at a time. Focus on the positives instead of dwelling on the negatives.
Spend time with your friends and family. At the worst cases a medical treatment might be needed such as antidepressants.
Tlc. Take time to discover new things. Take an art class or volunteer for a cause you are passionate about. Adopt or rescue a pet. Just some ideas. I found myself after a traumatic breakup, and it was empowering
Talk about your depression and get moving, both physically and mentally. Recovery will come but it will be in small steps so be patient and kind with yourself.
Distract yourself, eat lots of cake. Hang out with your friends, Hang out with your family. Do something to reward yourself and make you feel good. When feelings of separation come up, think about what's important to you in life, and do something to reinforce that.
Anonymous
October 18th, 2018 3:14am
My boyfriend just send me this what do I do?
I noticed i have been acting weird lately and haven’t responded to you. I feel I am in a place in our relationship where i don’t what i want at the moment. It isn’t you its me, you never did anything to make me feel this way. I need a break in our relationship to find myself and truly feel if i want to be in the relationship or if we should just end it. It wouldn’t be fair for me to drag you along if don’t feel the same, not saying i do or don’t. Please give me space and time to discover myself and see what i want. Like you said before to tell you and be honest with you about what i felt about the relationship, well i am doing it now. I’m sorry if this is a shock to you but i rather tell you now that later.
Anonymous
November 26th, 2019 2:23am
Breakups are very difficult, and I am sorry you are going through that. Many times after a relationship ends we question what we did wrong, we question if we will ever be happy again, we long for those moments we were happy, but truthfully you will be happy again. Use this as time to reconnect with yourself. Being alone can be great in the sense you do not have to make anyone else happy but yourself. Re-evaluate what you want out of a partner. Did your last partner have any traits that you didn't like? Focus on that and how you do not want that to happen in your next relationship. Surround yourself with positive people, and do things for yourself that make you happy. Give yourself a day to be sad, but pick yourself up the next day and do something positive. Eventually it will get better â¤ï¸ 💕
Anonymous
June 10th, 2016 4:00am
After a breakup, things are definitely hard. But always try to stay strong and don't ever keep those unpleasant feelings to yourself. Tell them to a trusted confidante, and I assure you it will only do you good. That girl/boy is definitely out there, s/he will definitely show up in your life soon, because, you and her/him are meant to be.
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