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How do you deal with depression after a breakup?

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How do you deal with depression after a breakup?
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July 11th, 2015 3:28pm
remember that it can only get better, if it wasnt working whats the point in being together because you need to find the right person which you cab do being witb the wrong person
July 11th, 2015 9:06pm
Rebound relationships FTW ! :D The best way to get over losing something is getting something new .. I don't think rebound relationships are bad though :D
July 11th, 2015 10:22pm
For me, I just have to get rid of my ex from my life entirely. I have to purge them from my life. Delete messages, contact info, block them on social media and just not talk to them. It's very hard at first and there will be tears and you'll want to talk to them so bad, but don't let yourself. You have to let yourself heal after a break up and the best way is to do it without the person who hurt you. Maybe talk to friends or close family members. Do the things you love to do. Immerse yourself into your hobbies or spending time with other people. Eventually, you will feel better. If you're ever strong enough to talk to your ex again, then you can. But don't allow them to hurt you again because it will be the same thing. Stay safe with your heart.
July 12th, 2015 7:22am
Realise why the relationship ended and know that it's usually for the best. You are free to go on with your life and do your own thing, it always works out for the best. Keep going.
July 12th, 2015 12:27pm
I am sad as it should, then I would go on my way. And eating chocolate is best depression-away gun for me :)
July 12th, 2015 5:14pm
I personally think that as one door closes on you, another door will open. So, even if we miss that person, another person will come into our lives maybe even better than the person we broke up with. I find for immediate relief, listening to heavy metal or angry music can help. Talking to someone on 7 cups can help you go through your emotions that you are feeling at the time.
July 12th, 2015 11:25pm
Everyone feels this way at least after a bad breakup. It helps to focus on the fact that its only temporary. Try getting involved with some community activities or clubs, contact some old friends, start a new hobby or take the chance to reconnect with the things you lost track of during your relationship. Life is very busy and goes by too fast. A breakup can be a gift in a painful package. Try to think of it as a new beginning or a fresh start. Being single gives us the chance to fall in love with ourselves all over again and its a wonderful experience once the heart starts to heal again. I speak from experience, life lessons come in many forms and a break up is one of them. Don't be afraid to learn from it. Treat yourself and let yourself enjoy all the things you were missing out on like quality girl time or hunting trips with guys or family outings, whatever it is that will help you focus on the beauty of the temporary season of being single again. Best Wishes, Starlight
July 15th, 2015 12:12am
You have your friends, you also have your family, always remember that there are people who loves you. and people who can be your motivation to keep going. there are 7 billion other people in this world, i'm sure you can find your perfect fit, and the right person who will love you and who will deserve everything about you. so for now, hangout more with your friends and family, enjoy things with them. because they love you better, and what hurts you, hurts them also
July 15th, 2015 4:46am
I remove all social media contact or ways I can be triggered. I understand that the relationship is over and let it sink in. I cry... a lot and let myself actually be sad. Once I get all my sadness out I make sure to not isolate myself and hang out with friends who know not to mention my ex. Time does heal.
July 16th, 2015 7:18am
Breakups can be difficult to deal with! One way to deal with a breakup is to reflect. Write down the pros and cons. If the cons outweigh the pros, then you know that the breakup was the best thing for you. If the pros outweigh the cons, try these in your new relationship to see how things work out. Remember, every relationship is a learning experience. It teaches us more about ourselves.
July 17th, 2015 12:39am
I try to take some time for myself, and focus on feeling better. I do my best to move on from the breakup, cleaning out anything that serves as a reminder or trigger. I let myself feel sorrow, resentment, or remorse, but then I let go of my grasp on those draining thoughts.
July 17th, 2015 8:35am
I think the best way is to try things that you have not like joining a class if you are an extrovert and actively trying to choose healthy alternatives to everything.You know yourself best and some basic things to help would be to communicate how you feel to anyone you know you can trust and trying not to be isolated. Read and listen to happy things. Accept the fact that any relationship is a part of life and not the heart of it.You are at the center of your life and you should involve yourself in activites to show yourself some love.
July 17th, 2015 2:02pm
The trick is to distract your brain (the center of thought processing ad memory). Try to keep yourself occupied with simple tasks. If there is an overwhelming desire to cry, then there is no harm in it as it will lighten your heavy heart. And have a constant faith that your trouble is over and very soon there will be another sunshine
July 18th, 2015 2:40pm
Well i would usually sing, draw and play sports when i'm depressed because i refuse to let my own sadness take away everything i worked so hard for in life. There are many fish in the sea why cry over that one.
July 18th, 2015 6:24pm
Talking to friends, distracting myself, hobbies, and many other things helped me cope with depression after a loss. Also, seeing a therapist was very helpful.
July 19th, 2015 5:35pm
After my last breakup it took me a while to start thinking positively again, I mostly got over it by talking to friends and trying to think positively about the breakup, telling myself that my previous partner obviously wasn't "the one" so I just have to keep looking as somewhere out there the perfect partner for me exists. It's important to take it slow though as it might be hard to really appreciate your new partner if you just dive into a new relationship while you are still having trouble to get over your last partner.
July 19th, 2015 7:50pm
Reintroduce the kind of feelings that you had before the relationship happened, and maybe take up a new activity that is basically a blank slate with no memories of the person with whom the breakup occurred.
July 19th, 2015 10:06pm
After a breakup, your depression may hit your lowest point. Your feeling of loss and loneliness can easily spiral you down further into your depression. Keeping your friends and family close is important, and so is keeping busy if you find yourself feeling the most depressed when you have free time.
July 22nd, 2015 3:17pm
The very first thing to do is to focus on the positives. There is usually a good reason to break up, and you need some time alone to figure out how to get your life back on to the singles track. Your ex-partner may or may not have been a huge influence on your life and this may make it difficult to adjust to the new life. However, though you have to ultimately figure things out for yourself, you needn't be lonely, and should enjoy the occasional time with friends. This can help cope with depression.
July 22nd, 2015 5:18pm
The most important thing that is to surround yourself with people who value, respect, and love you. Through this tough time, they will encourage and push you to do things that might seem difficult now and will help you in your journey to find who you are once again.
July 22nd, 2015 8:20pm
It’s normal to feel sad, angry, exhausted, frustrated, and confused—and these feelings can be intense.Accept that reactions like these will lessen over time . Give yourself permission to feel and to function at a less than optimal level for a period of time.take time to heal, regroup, and re-energize. Sharing your feelings with friends and family can help you get through this period. Isolating yourself can raise your stress levels, reduce your concentration, and get in the way of your work, relationships, and overall health. Don’t be afraid to get outside help if you need it.
July 23rd, 2015 4:06am
I try to spend time working on loving myself again, that seems to be what a lot of people forget to do. I've been known to take myself out on dates. I'll go out to movies, frozen yogurt, lunch - by myself. I like to get comfortable being alone in my own skin again. It's never easy to go through a breakup, but everything gets better in time.
July 23rd, 2015 1:55pm
Try to go out with your friends or out on a date with a fun entertaining person. Or perhaps try to forget about them a little even though it'll be hard, just think about something positive.
July 23rd, 2015 11:53pm
This differs for everyone but what usually helps is if you are diagnosed with depression to keep taking your pills like you're supposed to and just take it one day at a time.
July 24th, 2015 6:36am
Perhaps finding an activity you enjoy or finding a new activity or hobby to keep you busy. Enlisting friends to help you through this journey by going out and enjoying mutual activities with one another.
July 25th, 2015 4:14am
Surround yourself with friends and loved ones, don't isolate yourself, keep your mind occupied and yourself busy.
July 25th, 2015 4:16am
One step one day at a time. Immerse yourself with uplifting people and interests. Relax with massage or hot bath. Read great book. Go to movie or cafe. Pamper yourself. Eat healthy and exercise to boost endorphins. Keep youself and your mind busy on anything but the breakup.
July 25th, 2015 4:38pm
Break ups can hurt a lot and most break ups can lead to depression. If you're experiencing this pain don't get in denial about the situation it can hurt you even worst. It's best to accept what had happen. It's best to surround yourself with positive people who will help you in your time of need. Another thing to do is to express your emotions don't let them build up just release them.
July 25th, 2015 10:45pm
See a whole life without them. I know you can do it because at one point that person wasn't in your life until you meet them.
July 26th, 2015 11:00am
I stayed as far as I could from my ex, always kept myself among people listening their stories about anything, I just kept myself busy with positive stuff.