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How do you deal with depression after a breakup?

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How do you deal with depression after a breakup?
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coolvibes
August 15th, 2015 1:56am
Allow yourself to feel your emotions then take breaks from them and fill your time with what ever you need. hang around people who can support you in what your going through. Be kind to yourself.
Ky23
August 15th, 2015 11:51pm
You have to trust that things will always workout as they should, and that includes a breakup. Support and time spent with family and friends, passes the time, until you can move on.
Larzy
August 16th, 2015 3:59am
I'd think it was the same as any kind of depression, You could seek medical help or discussing the issue with your ex may help...?
Anonymous
August 16th, 2015 6:34pm
The most important thing to remember after a breakup is not to fight the hurt/pain/struggle. It's inevitable that you'll feel that to some extent, so try and ride it out. Time is the greatest healer in this situation. Use ANY support available to you, and remember that it DOES get better.
powerfulStrawberries4371
September 14th, 2015 3:47am
we should concentrate on our work and achive something high in our life then everyone will follow you
whimsicalstarlight
September 18th, 2015 4:08am
Try not to think about the breakup, keep yourself busy with family, friends, school, or even work. Even if the places you've gone remind of all the good memories you spent together in the past, have a positive mindset and say to yourself "it's time to move on and make new memories." Pace yourself slowly, try not to have contact with your ex partner, it will only bring more pain to yourself and your ex partner. You will start to feel better internally and move one, remember there is always someone better than the previous. When the time is right that person will come into your life. There is always a new beginning.
Someone2LeanOn
October 27th, 2015 7:53am
Treat yourself to something nice. Spend time with close friends and family you love and take it easy and think on the positive side of life! ;)
miraculousIcicle83
November 2nd, 2015 4:42pm
Cry. Seriously, Crying is one of the best ways you can deal with anything as well as talking. Cry and Talk to your friends, to your parents.
spoopyhooty
November 3rd, 2015 2:19am
First off, I’m very sorry to hear about your breakup. It’s a horrible feeling, and in my experience it leaves an empty hole. But that hole will heal, even if it may not seem like that now. It always seems like the end of the world. It always seems like you will never find a better lover and that you will never feel the same again. In my experience, this has never been true. If it was meant to be, then it will be. If it was not meant to be, then it will not be. You will find another lover, probably many other lovers. You will say “I love you you” to another person. What I’ve done to get through break ups is I’ve immersed myself in something that I like doing. Being around friends and being social can really help. If you’re not able to be social, then taking up a project or a sport can be a great way to recover.
Anonymous
December 11th, 2015 1:12pm
spend time with the people who care about you (family / friends), doing this will help to take your mind off of things
gentlePrince55
December 12th, 2015 2:17pm
The best way to deal with depression after a breakup is to be with the people you care about- or even better find someone else to love. If you find a new person to invest your love in, you will quickly forget you were ever depressed.
ManyFaceMan
December 13th, 2015 1:05pm
this is hard and mostly work differently for everyone.my advice would be to take it day by day step by step. you will feel depressed rejected and alone. you should avoid been alone for to long. been with friends and family helps. do things you normally did before your relationship to minimize painful memory's, and most of all don't blame yourself. there are someone out there who will love you for you.
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 2:05pm
Breakups can be very hard be the key is to be around people that love you and just want to support you, it will be hard for a little bit but you just have to remember everything happens for a reason and you will be okay in time, I'm here to listen.
Anonymous
December 15th, 2015 2:04pm
From my experience, I dealt with my depression after a breakup by busying myself with hobbies, school, or friends. At times, I would let myself to cry, because it helped me release my emotions.
readman
December 16th, 2015 4:33am
Maintaining a routine helps, talking with a friend, hiding all the things that makes you remember that person and allowing you to feel bad-heartbroken, cry is you need to but not all day, everyday. You need to allow yourself to do something you like to do, also.
iouty
December 16th, 2015 12:56pm
You walk through the sludge until you find a river to wash yourself clean. Depression is from the separation.
UndulatingKyle
December 16th, 2015 3:14pm
Talk to someone about it. This is a great place to do so. Talking through all of your thoughts and feelings about the other person can save you from making a bad mistake.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2015 3:35pm
First thing you need to do is accept the fact that you broke up and make yourself busy with other things such that you will never have thoughts about your breakup and dont shut other people from your life, make new hobbies and dont blame yourself and try to be positive. This is what i did when i were in your situation. So i hope this will help
Patrick91
December 16th, 2015 4:52pm
That's a difficult question to answer. After my fiancee left me, I struggled for about a year with loneliness and depression. I found that developing strong, platonic relationships with people really helped me. I also tried to "branch out" by trying more challenging projects at work. It helped me stay enegergized and focused; plus, it helped me realize that I'm a valuable asset to a team. Bottom line: Find something that will occupy your mind; surround yourself with positive friends; and take the time that you need to learn more about what you need from a future relationship. Good luck. Keep your head up! Reach out to me if you'd like to talk about your relationship.
TopHattedTeaMan
December 16th, 2015 4:54pm
Think about how much you are worth (which is a lot) and work to becoming a better person based of the good qualitys you have.
Oodelaley
December 16th, 2015 5:56pm
I think that finding other activities to occupy my time were the best way for me to deal with post breakup depression. Surrounding myself with fun and positive people was also a big part of getting through it.
Manatea1
December 16th, 2015 7:56pm
It is hard to deal with a breakup and depression at the same time. It is important to keep yourself busy and finding time for yourself. It is imperative that we remember who we are and what are needs are. We need to regain self worth and independence by being active and doing things that are most important to you.
CaringJoy
December 16th, 2015 10:19pm
The best way to deal with depression after a break up is to remove all reminders of that person and delete pictures of that person from our phones/devices. Accept that it happened and build your self worth by reminding yourself there so many other people who will care about you and accept you for who you are. Find other distractions like exercising, hobbies and spending more time with family/friends. Focus on getting yourself back to feeling good about yourself by pampering yourself and working on improving your self image.
StormyAngles18
December 17th, 2015 12:30am
The ways you can deal with depression after break up is 1) spend time with family and friends (That's the best remedy) 2) Find as many distractions as you possibly can to keep your mind off them. 3) Get reminders away from you and out of site until you are able to cope with seeing them. 3) Help others
CuddlyOasis98
December 17th, 2015 2:19am
You could do something that makes you happy like hang out with friends or enjoy any hobby like, playing any sport, listening to music, or reading a book or anything that you like. Give Time for yourself pamper yourself maybe go to some spa or somewhere else you enjoy going
JoeMarlo
December 17th, 2015 6:41am
It is important to remind yourself if there isn't someone to do so for you that there are many people in the world all as unique and lovable as the next and that it isn't the end of days, This is a normal reaction to such a situation and you should only become worried if the depression hovers or lingers for two weeks or longer and has been unrelenting.
birdwatcher444
December 18th, 2015 1:10am
Getting over a breakup can be really tough. It's okay to be upset, and it's natural to feel depressed and hopeless after a breakup. But, it shouldn't keep you from functioning as you normally would. A breakup isn't the end of the world, even if it feels that way. Stay strong, and get help if you feel depressed constantly after a breakup! c:
courageousRose27
December 18th, 2015 9:50am
Divert your attention to brighter things. Go back of discover new hobbies. Reconnect wih old friends. Focus on your family and career.
DarkFairy99
December 18th, 2015 6:15pm
First of all you should delete all your text messages with that person and at least leave the photographs in a place where you have not the temptation to look at them (you have minimize to 0 all your contact with your memories with that person, read text messages and watch to your old photographs with that person will only make you feel worse). You should hang out with your friends and maybe meet new people. Being locked crying at home won't help you a bit. It's a slow process, but you will feel better soon
Anonymous
December 19th, 2015 4:20am
The best thing for me was to just find a group of friends I could trust to spend time with who understood what I went through during the relationship and breakup.