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How to deal with stigma? What if I will be judged for having depression?

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Last Updated: 07/20/2020 at 7:32pm
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I have helped and am helping people cope with loss, divorce, anguish and parenting. Depression is also a major issue that comes up.

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October 22nd, 2014 10:43pm
You do not have to tell anyone that you suffer from depression if you are anxious that you will be judged, that is a personal decision. As long as you are receiving help and are able to talk to a few trustworthy people, there is nothing wrong with keeping it to yourself if you choose to do so. Even if people do judge you for suffering from depression, that's their own problem and they should reevaluate their judgements and what they say to others. Depression is something no one can control. If people judge you for having an illness, there's something very wrong with their own personal perspective and the judgements they make.... They most likely have never experienced anything close to the pain you are having to deal with, day in and day out. If you would like to talk more... Here is my personal request link: I would love to talk to you if you want or need any additional support. Good luck.
January 7th, 2015 1:57am
Part of what causes stigma is a lack of understanding or misconceptions about mental illness. Reducing stigma in your life can be a matter of reducing time spent around negative individuals, but also requires the consideration of spending time to speak to close friends and family about your experiences and feelings, from the heart. It can really help people to see situations in an entirely different light. The effects of stigma can be very difficult to deal with and may require professional therapy and prescription drugs to help with the occurrence of depression. Importantly, never let anyone make you feel bad about mental illness. Understand that it is not your fault and not something that you can control. Use the frustration and vent it in a positive way. The use of support groups, made for those struggling with similar mental health issues, can really help.
October 24th, 2014 3:45pm
The sad truth is that often people do judge others for having depression. It is better to choose your listeners
April 29th, 2015 8:25pm
you shouldn't feel judged for having depression. depression isnt anything that you should ever think is your fault. if you are indeed being judged, the people judging may not realize how serious depression can be. Have you spoken to anyone about feeling judged? it may help. Best wishes to you!
November 19th, 2014 7:16pm
The Apostle Peter wrote that disciples of Jesus Christ are to have “compassion one of another. show your love and just be your self the lord will bless you
December 21st, 2015 5:00am
We are all judged by others, it's just a part of being alive. No matter how together we may be, someone out there will always find something to nitpick and judge you about. The secret here is: what people think about your struggles with depression don't matter. This is YOUR struggle, and there will be people in your life who are there to support you. Those are the people who matter, they are the ones who will hold your hand and guide you toward the light. Try not to worry about those who don't understand, or who decide that they have a right to judge you for having a condition which you have no control over.
June 7th, 2016 6:55pm
People can be cruel. But there's also a lot of people who are nice and supportive. Worrying about what other people think does not do you any good. It's okay to have a depression whether other people understand it or not.
August 15th, 2016 2:56am
To go on despite it and take all the help you can. Some people will judge you in some way or the other, this is just another department for them to judge you on. But not everyone will. Some will actually want to help you in whichever way they can.
October 4th, 2016 11:59pm
I don't think you'll be judged for depression, I think more people have been depressed more than they care admit to others so they can relate in some way even if they aren't vocal about it! And if there is judgment, it's more or less due to a lack of education on the subject. Never feel ashamed for how you feel, that's what makes you human.
January 10th, 2017 3:22am
The people who judge you for depression do not understand where you are coming from, because they have probably never been in your shoes before. They may see the external side of you, but they do not understand the thoughts that are in your head that you face on a daily basis. Thus their criticisms do not really have a solid basis. When you think about it this way, there is nothing they say or think that should affect you negatively. There are many people who, like you, are experiencing depression and who may be seeking therapy. Seeking for help is nothing to be ashamed about, in my opinion. And there are people who will truly understand how you feel and where you are coming from. I suggest seeking these people out and talking to them (you came to the right place for that, 7 Cups).
October 27th, 2015 11:29pm
First understand the statistics for depression, more people than you think suffer from depression, most people will experience it at one point or another in their lives, the stigma from the last decades is not as common today, people are more interested in their mental well being, so you should not feel afraid about being judged, think of all the people that do have depression and you would never thought they did.
July 20th, 2020 7:32pm
Don't let the thought of stigma stop you from receiving help for depression. Treatment can provide relief by decreasing symptoms of depression. It can be difficult to seek help because of the stigma behind depression and how others may react. Reaching out to people you trust such as friends, family, or spiritual support can help you gain self esteem about depression. These relationships are important in gaining self esteem and reducing symptoms of depression. Don't let the stigma create shame within yourself and stop you from receiving treatment and feeling relief. You are not depression, you have depression. Speaking out about your experience with depression may help someone else struggling with the same thoughts of stigma.
September 20th, 2014 5:10am
you shouldnt let that bother you because it is an oppinion of someone elts and if they are judging you out loud then they are the ones that need to get help because they are most likely suffering from depression also
October 18th, 2014 8:08am
dealing with social stigma is rather hard ...depression as itself weighs down the person and disapproval makes it harder . people have a lot to say . its the best to ignore those who look down upon . people wanting the best for you and who care for you will come forward , trust them and enjoy life with them . the others should know better than to judge a person when the person is going through something that they have no idea of .
October 23rd, 2014 1:33am
Awareness of mental illness and particularly depression have greatly increased over the years, but the fear of stigma and judgment are very real. The best way to deal with stigma is to meet it head on--become an advocate for yourself. Educate someone about what they don't understand about depression, and it will go far.
October 25th, 2014 6:20pm
Remember that the stigma is not your fault. How people react to you and your mental health doesn't make you any less of a person.
October 30th, 2014 8:23pm
Stigma about mental illness is a pervasive problem in our society, even if we've slowly been evolving beyond that. Try reaching out about your depression to people who you trust, who you know will be able to offer support and nonjudgmental kindness. As for others judging you for symptoms of your depression -- the listlessness, lack of motivation, lack of productivity, sadness -- try to nudge them in the direction of educative resources so that they understand more about how to be supportive of people with depression. 7cups has a lot of great guides to just that!
November 2nd, 2014 9:05am
Just know that if you've been diagnosed with depression or any mental illness, don't be ashamed. You are not alone and there is plenty of support around you. Never forget that you're worth everything.
November 8th, 2014 3:11am
There are always going to be some people who are ignorant. But by being open about depression, you are changing the stigma. I've found that being open about my depression has made people comfortable around the idea of depression.
November 15th, 2014 4:17am
The people who truly care about will surely understand you and the problem you are facing.Those who do not,why should you care about them?
April 8th, 2015 12:32pm
If you have this thinking, then you will feel yourself more depressed. People judge each other all thee time. Its like a natural thing which comes out of them. Being depressed is not a stigma. Its just a phase and it will pass soon enough. Just worry about what those will say who are really precious to you. Leave others to judge all they want, after all how much do they really know you?
May 31st, 2015 5:35am
You have to accept that each and every person is different and will be judged no matter what the person looks like or their actions. You just have to remember that there will always be someone there for you and ready to help you.
July 13th, 2015 8:46pm
Sometimes you are judged, people are judged on everything they do, the way they are - it isn't your fault. What you do have to work on, is being more used to being judged, accepting yourself for who you are and when you do learn to do that it will be a lot easier to help yourself.