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How to forgive yourself for cheating or lying?

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Last Updated: 05/23/2022 at 6:47am
How to forgive yourself for cheating or lying?
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Howcanihelp7
March 16th, 2020 3:54am
You can forgive yourself for cheating or lying if you are honest with yourself and the person you cheated on or lied to, about your actions going forward. Reflecting on all your good qualities and the actions you do consistently that are inline with your true intentions and remember we all make mistakes and only by learning from those mistakes by actively trying to do better are we then able to forgive ourselves and others. By constantly telling ourselves we can do better, searching for ways to do better or reaching out for help from family, friends, community and/or professionals are all positive ways to start the journey of forgiveness.
sanabanu
March 18th, 2020 2:50pm
When you know what you've done is wrong, you're already half way there. Remember there are no bad people, only good people who sometimes do bad things. knowing that you've done wrong, try no to repeat it again and give space to whoever it is you cheated on. give yourself time to understand why you did it and try to work on those reasons. listen to yourself and give yourself time to reflect. doing something wrong is a very common thing, but the ones who feel bad about it are truly trying to and willing to change. If you are willing to change, you can. Set your mind to it and promise yourself not to do anything like it again.
Anonymous
March 27th, 2020 6:30pm
This is hard it could take awhile, you need to forgive yourself.I think that you will be able to I would suggest maybe talking to someone about it.I hopemthat you will be able to.You may feel regret and when we regret sometimes we don't stop it and it can feel like we are carrying problems , like we are a burden when we aren't.With time you can forgive yourself it just depends if you want to be able to forgive yourself. I have had experiences where I haven't forgved myself for lying we all make mistakes its normal.If you lie I would think there would be a reason but for you there might not be.
rainbowstar55
March 27th, 2020 8:33pm
Forgiveness is definitely an inside job! I would say that cultivating compassion and practicing self care is a great start. Often times we just need to remember to treat ourselves how we would treat our best buds. Another way to process the situation is to investigate the intentions behind the behavior. Forgiveness can be found in the lesson we learned along the way. Implementing and committing to do better with the new knowledge we have in the future is helpful in leaving the unhealthy behavior behind and walking into new circumstances with fresh eyes. Forgiveness is gained when we are open to viewing life as a learning expericene.
blueskiesforyou
March 29th, 2020 1:25am
We all Make mistakes from Time to time. Being our own best friend and gentle and patient with yourself Isley to forgiving yourself. You are not perfect . You don't have to be perfect to be liked. Over time we sometimes do t back the best choice for ourselves and we can turn back the hands of The time. the sense you can move forward and make better choices I. The furture. Be kind to your self if you are sorry forgive yourself and know that know is a perfect ! Keep Moving forward and try to make better choices that make you feel Better about yourself
Anonymous
July 27th, 2020 5:53pm
Remember that it takes time to grieve and get over past stressful experiences and events. We all make mistakes in life, but those mistakes help us discover our flaws and improve on ourselves. It's normal to have recurring regrets after doing something like cheating or lying, but remember that you can still move forward with your life and prevent those mistakes in the future. You are not defined by your past mistakes but the person you strive to be in the present and in the future. And finally, be patient with yourself. It takes time to get over any experience like that. You got this.
Anonymous
March 8th, 2022 2:50pm
must try to see within yourself, find the good. find who you are. eventually when you do, you will find the good you. You will discover many things, try to extract what you find. when you do , you will find more peace, more harmony and the stress, the worries will eventually fade. Now ask yourself many questions. ask yourself, do you like who you are? are you at your expectations and not others? Do you forgive yourself. If you don't say yes to many of those, those can be the things you want to work on. then as time goes by ask yourself those same questions. Then go from there
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2022 6:47am
It’s never easy to come to terms with oneself for something like this. I know how you feel, I cheated on my partner when I was at a very low point in my life. I tried to hide it for the longest but ultimately the guilt was too much and I had to tell them. I was scared of how they would react, I was mad at myself and I was anxious as to what would happen next. It wasn’t easy but it took a huge weight off my chest. You have to come to terms with that you did, understand why you did it, and you ultimately have to tell your partner of what you did in order to truly forgive yourself.