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How to talk to a therapist without your parents knowing?

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Last Updated: 11/14/2021 at 3:50am
How to talk to a therapist without your parents knowing?
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November 29th, 2017 8:00pm
7Cups! Read the ratings and reviews and pick yourself a really good one, my experience is that the best people here are even better than a good therapist sometimes. Choose someone for compassion and love, not what they say, because that is what is really healing
November 30th, 2017 11:08pm
It's always good to tell your parents our feelings but sometimes not, doing what you are doing now is fine
December 1st, 2017 4:59pm
If you are a student, then the chances are that your school whether it would be primary, secondary or tertiary would have some sort of free counselling program. Otherwise there are free therapy phone hotline for young people I believe.
December 6th, 2017 9:17am
Book a doctors appointment and request a therapist. Your doctor is not allowed to let anyone else know what you are doing.
December 7th, 2017 11:20pm
You can go online and visit a 7 cups therapist and not tell your parents about what you are dealing with unless it is nescessary.
December 16th, 2017 12:28am
There is an opportunity on this site to talk with a therapist, so you could talk to one through here without your parents knowing. Also if you are still in school you may be able to talk to a therapist through one at your school. I know that where I live there is access to few therapists in public hospitals, so you may be able to walk into one of those. Hope this helps :)
December 23rd, 2017 8:00am
That depends very much on your age and location as the law changes depending on where you are located! Your school may be a good place to start as many schools have school counsellors you can ask!
December 29th, 2017 7:34pm
There are places where you can get online assistance or online therapy, such as 7Cups. However a strong support system is vital to your overall well being and long term recovery.
January 10th, 2018 9:04am
This isn't possible since it's required by law for your parents to know,however if you feel the desire to get therapy or council in you could the get the courage to talk to your parents (after all for your own benifit) or talk to a counselor at school and ask for them not to send a confidentiality request when wanting to speak to them,everyone has they're bad times in the end what we can do to help ourselves is tell someone and get help
January 10th, 2018 11:14am
There are many ways, a popular way is through the internet. Telepsycholgists and therapists are popular, but counselors at school are useful in this endeavor as well.
January 25th, 2018 12:56am
Theres no real way. A huge part about talking to a therapists is having people that care about you around. I've tried to find so many ways, and eventually found out its literally impossible. Emotionally, and the fact that I cant pay alone
January 25th, 2018 6:31pm
Often, schools have counsellors or nurses that will be happy to help, you could also make an appointment with your GP to discuss different options ❤
January 31st, 2018 8:43pm
If you currently go to school, you can talk to teachers or your nurse to discuss options for therapy. You can, sometimes, do this without your parents being informed. However, I would urge you to try and speak out to your parents - they are normally the most supportive and loving when times are tough.
February 4th, 2018 6:09pm
Let them know you have a study group, or a new extra curricular activity, and every time you leave for the appointment... use that as the deter.
February 7th, 2018 10:22pm
If you are a minor it is hard to talk to a therapist without your parents knowing: but you could always find a listener on here that you click with and talk with them long term!
February 17th, 2018 10:50pm
You can join platforms like to anonymously talk to therapist without your parents or anyone else knowing. 7cups is a great platform to be heard and get helped just by sharing your problems to the listeners
February 24th, 2018 10:22am
Depending on legislation in any particular country or jurisdictions, a young person can access doctors and therapists in their own right from a reasonable age. It is around 13-14 in my State of Australia. These services are bound to confidentiality, so unless what you share indicates abuse or neglect towards yourself or another person, what you share in confidential between you and the professional. They legally can't disclose any private information to your parents or anyone else without your consent.
February 28th, 2018 11:59pm
It depends on your age unfortunately, if you are thinking about speaking to a therapist outside of school then you will need to be 16 to be able to speak to them without parental permission. If you are thinking about talking to a school counsellor than a parent does not need to be informed if you are not at risk of harming yourself or others. I hope this helps.
March 30th, 2018 5:23am
Talk to your doctor first. Your doctor has an obligation to keep your conversations confidential. A doctor can easily refer you to a therapist, who also will keep your meetings confidential.
April 6th, 2018 4:20am
My school has a school therapist and you can ask the counselor if he could help you schedule an appointment. You can have him or her call you in during school and everything is confidential.
April 8th, 2018 1:01am
Assuming you're a minor, there isn't much you can do, as far as I know. Most therapists and psychologists won't even see a minor without parental consent due to malpractice. If you strongly feel you need to see a therapist, and your parents won't let you, talk to someone higher up in the chain of authority of the world who can help you. A principal, a police officer, a support group.
April 8th, 2018 6:40pm
That can be difficult. It's important to have support from your family, but I understand that sometimes that simply isn't an option. Talking to active listeners and therapists on 7 Cups can be helpful, and it's completely anonymous. A school counselor would most likely be willing to listen to you and offer support and resources. You could make an appointment with your regular doctor and tell them you think talking to a therapist would benefit you, there is patient confidentiality but be aware that therapists may require parental consent.
April 27th, 2018 2:56am
Unless you REALLY have the money to do it yourself, it's probably not a good idea. Your parents might have an insurance plan that partially covers the cost of a therapist. I don't exactly know your situation and why you would not tell your parents, but usually trying to do it on your own will probably go noticed.
April 27th, 2018 6:43am
It might be worth while looking for free services in your area if you didn't want to go down the doctor route out of fear your parents finding out. But anything you say to a therapist is confidential even to your parents.
May 9th, 2018 2:36am
You can always come to this site, or you can always call in a hotline that’s in your area. It is confidential and safe to talk on.
May 9th, 2018 9:54pm
come to 7 cups, its online and they dont know, however if things to seem to escalate, call a hotline or consult with a trusted adult
May 11th, 2018 8:16pm
You could get in touch with your schools councelor and that way get in touch with a therapist. You could also tell a theraphist not to tell everything t your parents.
May 13th, 2018 10:08pm
Just don't tell them. Personally i can understand the pressure of your parents knowing your seeing a therapist. So until your comfortable with your therapist, just wait it out.
May 19th, 2018 5:52pm
Maybe it’s best if your parents know.But if you don’t want them knowing try maybe a school counselor
June 27th, 2018 11:24pm
I've already tried doing that and I wasn't able to succeed. If you're a minor, your parents are going to have to make an appointment (I tried making it on my own, didn't work) and if you need insurance, your insurance will probably notify your parents.