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How to tell someone you're depressed without saying it?

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Last Updated: 03/27/2023 at 7:28pm
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snakeskins
March 8th, 2018 8:16pm
Depending on how close you are to the person, they could have already noticed how you feel. Otherwise you can say things like: "I've been feeling really down lately" or "I have a hard time enjoying things anymore". Depression is different for everyone, so depending on how you feel you can describe it in different ways.
Anonymous
March 31st, 2018 8:05am
Show them through actions or behaviour. Dont say the word depressed but talk about it. Or give out examples.
Anonymous
April 12th, 2018 2:37am
Quiet not eating not sleeping not interacting. Showing little to no emotion. Things you were involved in don't seem to matter. Laying in bed or sofa with no intentions of getting up.
amiablePeace77
April 20th, 2018 9:01pm
write your feelings down and if you feel you can trust them, show it to them. If you just do not want to use the word depressed explain to them how you feel.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2018 9:00pm
In my opinion, I'd say that you haven't been feeling you for a while, and you can't figure out what's getting you down. I'd say that you feel like you need to talk to someone about your feelings so you can start to feel like yourself again.
calebny
February 27th, 2016 10:23am
You can give small hints, but in general, it's not good to hide you feelings. They become repressed, and eventually they blow up. It's good to explain as opposed to just leaving them inside,
Anonymous
February 25th, 2016 11:28pm
i have an empty feeling in my stomach and i feel no joy for life anymore. none of my old hobbies interest me now either.
AChildAtHeart
February 25th, 2016 12:30pm
write it out. If you don't feel comfortable saying it, it's okay, write a letter to the person who you wanna tell about your depression. If you don't tell them in one way or another, they'll never know that you're struggling with depression. People all have their own problems to deal with so don't expect that they'll spend a great deal of time to figure out what we're thinking/ feeling. You gotta let them know. You deserve help, so don't hesitate tell your loved ones about your depression. With their help, you'll make great progress and the road to recovery will be a lil bit less difficult :)
Anonymous
May 30th, 2018 1:05am
just say "i've been/i am upset"... they'll most likely ask why, but you have no obligation to reply. if they ask, just say "i do not want to talk about it" and, hopefully, they will understand
Kricket20
May 30th, 2018 8:57pm
Sometimes it can be a lot easier to say "I feel down a lot" than saying "I'm depressed." Especially if you are worried about how the other person will react, saying "I feel down" might be easier for you.
Anonymous
June 1st, 2018 6:49am
Talking about these sorts of things can be kind of scary. Maybe you could ask someone if you could sit and talk with them for a minute, so you have a particular time and don't have to worry about finding the 'right' time. You could tell them that you've been feeling down, or maybe not like yourself. You could also just say that you've been having a hard time lately. Most people will understand what you mean, and will be there for you. Good luck, and everything will be okay
Anonymous
February 21st, 2016 9:57pm
You could write a note possibly. Or even just drop little hints here and there or bring the topic up a lot and maybe they will get it. You could also have someone else telk them for you.
musicalEnergy94
June 8th, 2018 2:58am
i think it is so hard to tell someone your're depressed because they might want to help and they could give wrong advise because they have never had depression so i would tell that person that i am not feeling right today. something is a little off in my brain, i am tired is what i would say
Anonymous
June 15th, 2018 2:57pm
Just tell them the truth ask them for help. You need to be strong and tell them, it can save you a lot of trouble!!!
blindIcicle1966
June 22nd, 2018 2:41pm
Have you tried expressing what you need from others? How long have you been depressed? Do you have anyone you feel comfortable enough sharing your feelings and needs with?
politePillow12
June 23rd, 2018 12:01pm
Well, you can tell others that there are problems in your life or you can also say that there are some things that intesify your unhappiness. Overall you need to tell others your problem in order to get help.
GAddams
July 8th, 2018 1:27am
I understand the desire to keep your personal problems to yourself, but I think clear communication is key. If the person needs to know, then you should try to be clear with them. If you don't feel like you can tell them plainly what you are going through, then perhaps they aren't someone who needs to know.
porsxh22
July 12th, 2018 12:19pm
Maybe the best way to tell them is the truth but if that’s not an option just try explaining what depression is and that you feel sad or just say google depression
FruityPanda470
July 13th, 2018 7:13am
Express to a person you trust what emotions you have been feeling lately such as stress or anxiety or the feeling of being overwhelmed. Explain to them what you are going through and how it makes you feel. They should then begin to understand what you’re going through.
Anonymous
July 14th, 2018 4:55am
I feel tired, emotionally and mentally. Like I can barely get out of bed in the morning or I don’t enjoy the same things anymore.
ALAL2019
July 16th, 2018 3:24pm
You can tell the weather so disturbing. And people annoying outside. I think I need fresh air or I need to go beach
Anonymous
February 20th, 2016 6:38am
Telling someone you're depressed without saying it could involve simply showing them your feelings rather than trying to disguise them. If you're depressed and don't have the motivation to shower or take care of yourself, others are likely to notice. If your sleeping patterns become erratic and lead to abnormal behavior, those close to you will pick up on it. Things like loss of appetite can become obvious after a time, as well. Most importantly, though, I think is not pretending to be ok. You don't have to put on a happy face to appease anyone or hide your true feelings. People close to you will notice a change in your demeanor and suspect that something is wrong.
Shunyata
February 18th, 2016 5:36pm
Sometimes people can tell that you're unhappy even without telling them. Your body language is a clear indicator.
Anonymous
February 14th, 2016 12:49am
I appreciate there's stigma attached to mental health experiences. The comment that I've heard is that the blues are a few days, while depression is much longer. I may be helpful to speak to the length of time, or the consistency of what you've been feeling.
Anonymous
December 2nd, 2020 3:45am
I think maybe just tell them that you’ve not been feeling yourself lately, maybe give hints about how your feeling and how this effects your daily life. Explaining depression is a hard thing to do, so maybe trying breaking it down into smaller parts, like maybe just starting with how long you’ve felt this way, or maybe how you want them to help you. I also think you should tell that your close to and think will understand and better be able to support you, by doing this you can establish a first conversation and then work it out from there.
Bambi24601
November 2nd, 2020 9:15pm
I'm just not feeling myself. The things I used to enjoy I now don't and all I want to do it sit and do nothing. I'm just sad. Just so super super sad. I cry for no reason just because it hurts so much inside. It's like there's stones in my heart and it's pulling me down and I don't have the energy to get back up. I feel hopeless and nothing will get better and this is it. I have to put on a smile though because I don't want people to worry. And often when I do try and talk about it I get shut down. "You're just tired", "Stop moaning", "You have so many good things in your life". So I just stay quiet because no one really cares. Which makes the feeling worse. Sorry to be a downer..
DaisyDaph
November 8th, 2020 7:13am
When a person is depressed, there are a few tell-tale signs that one can look out for; even when it has not been verbally confirmed that they are. Some of these signs include being withdrawn from society and family. How you converse; if your words are heavily negative or if they sound weak or slow in response, it could be noticed. Mood swings can be shown as well; a change in mood can indicate an imbalance of emotional state and if this is noticed, it can be understood that you're going through a tough time. In general, a depressed individual would pose a negative outlook on life through their words, behaviour, mood and cognitive functions. If you find yourself going through these symptoms/signs and/or more, please take care of yourself and remember, how you feel is valid and what you are going through is important for people to know. So please don't be afraid to let them know about your situation, if you can.
TheLinenMonk
October 25th, 2020 8:17am
Depression is an emotion, not a state of mind. Being "depressed" is not the same as being asthmatic, or some other medical symptom. Depression occurs as a way of coping with how we think life is. If we find life challenging, or get easily rattled by different circumstances then we will experience feelings of depression more often than others might. I say all that to just mean. Don't take it so seriously. If you are having a tough time with things and feeling in a dark place, then just be open about it. If you express it as just a feeling, rather than a diagnosis, then people will be more comfortable and understanding.
Anonymous
February 13th, 2021 6:40pm
I have found that telling someone how you feel tends to been more effective than telling someone what your diagnosis is or what you think it is. This of course assumes that you don’t I have an actual diagnosis yet. For instance, instead of saying “I have depression” or “I think I have depression” you can say “I feel down, lonely, worthless, etc. a lot of the time and it has been getting in the way of the things I enjoy.” I like to focus on the things that we know are true, like how we feel and things that have happened rather than what we think about those facts, because opinions can differ wildly especially when it comes to mental health.
Anonymous
February 26th, 2021 1:45am
I can say I have low energy and I have been unmotivated. Even after taking break, I feel like I am exhausted. I feel like I have been trying to solve this problem for long without much progress. Shopping used to make me happy but not anymore. Even eating cheese cake doe not do much. It used to make me happy. I just want to be happy like everyone around me. It looks like their life has been easier than mine. It feels like things come to them easily. I work harder than them but still I am not as successful as they are.