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I decided not to kill myself. Now what?

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Last Updated: 07/20/2020 at 12:02pm
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OrangeWarrior
February 4th, 2017 6:29pm
First of all, deciding not to kill yourself requires a lot of strength (first-hand experience talking here, wassup). We all are very glad you are still alive. Once you've decided to keep on living, do just that - live! Do fun things, eat something you like, set a goal and work towards it. When suicidal, what's always helped me is to set goals. They can be as small or big as you want. Do you want to read tomorrow's newspaper? Cool! Do you want to learn a new skill or language? Cool! Do you want to meet new people? Cool! Do you want to try those cookies they sell at that bakery you walk past every day? Cool! I am sure that there are some things you want to do. Now, you have a chance to do them! If you're still not feeling too well, you could try taking to someone, or doing things you enjoy. One way or another, please take care of yourself. I am proud of you for still being alive. ♥
Zara4kindness
April 25th, 2017 12:58pm
I decided not to kill myself. It was the hardest decision ever. It was the period of time when I didn't understand what I had to live for. But it was the best decision ever! Because now I figured out that I have to live for MYSELF, for my OWN SAKE. I decided to give myself a chance. Now what? Now I am writing this with a huge joy and pride! And I'm calling out to all the people who have ever gone through this. Give yourself a chance!
Anonymous
January 29th, 2017 9:52pm
Now what? Now follow your dreams. Do everything you've ever wanted to do. Live your life to the absolute fullest and never let anything stop you. Visit new places, try new food, make new friends- you name it. Keep growing stronger and happier and become the person you've always wanted to be.
shyEyes895
February 6th, 2017 8:21pm
I am so happy that you didn't. Trust me i was there not too long ago and i know its really hard but look at it like this. You are meant for great things, believe it. Some of us have to go through some really tough times because once you get through it you will have such a deep appreciation for life, a passion that can not be dulled, and a very developed intuition. Find out what you are passionate about and develop a tunnel vision in the pursuit of this passion. May you live the rest of your days in peace, love, and joy.
Anonymous
February 9th, 2017 7:53pm
You start looking for joy in the little things. A good song. Some inspiring words you see online. Wind blowing through the trees. The joy of helping someone else. The little things build and fill you up.
Anonymous
February 14th, 2017 7:54pm
Take the day one by one. don't overwhelm yourself with the future just yet. Just deal with today and the problems and the joys to today. If you have siblings, family, friends, think of how distraught they would have been if you weren't in their lives. YOU ARE VALUABLE! Yes there are cr@ppy moments in life, turn them around. Do the things that make you the happiest, just be you.
Anonymous
September 4th, 2017 11:52pm
Congratulations, you've taken a big first step into the rest of your life! If you've gotten to this point, it sounds like you're ready for change, and change can be a beautiful thing. Your first step should be to seek help, because it's much easier to carry a burden that heavy when you have help along the way.
Anonymous
January 30th, 2018 6:47pm
Now you live. You live your life now by appreciating things around you. First of all, you're brave and strong enough to stop you from killing yourself - keep that in mind. Everything is still going on, whatever situation that push you there will still going the same but what's difference is YOU. Ask yourself why did you give up on killing yourself? Because of what? And hold on to that reason..hold on to that until you get stronger and you'll thank yourself for giving up suicide on that day.
nutcrakr
January 30th, 2017 7:11am
First of all, good for you on deciding not to kill yourself. A good next step is to acknowledge and understand how you're feeling, and seek further help with coping. Therapists, psychologists, friends, family, etc, there are alot of people who are available and willing to help you with your situation. Thinking positively and communicating, can be a good start to getting better.
Sketcher244
February 1st, 2017 6:41am
Go on living as you have, as you decided to, continue your own life and this time, enjoy it much much more.
Lauren1035
February 9th, 2017 8:09am
First of all deciding not to kill yourself is a huge success and you should be very proud! Are you speaking to a professional or have someone close to you that you can speak with? Life can definitely improve and our current situations are only temporary although unfortunately what caused you to feel suicidal in the first place still needs to be worked through to prevent those feelings from returning. If you would like to chat in private please feel free to message me when I am online :)
PowerofNow247
February 21st, 2017 2:53am
Reach out for help, don't be afraid to face whatever is in your life situation. There's so much for you to do, to see, to learn. Please honor your presence and where you are now find your inner purpose and never give up.
NikkitheFox
July 10th, 2017 1:41pm
If you have suffered the depression and had a suicidal thought it is important to seek the help of a therapist. That kind of a help is not because something is wrong with you, but because we all need a push in life in the right direction. Some people are trained to give us that push.
Anonymous
October 24th, 2017 5:22am
It sounds pretty simplistic but, you keep on living. You should figure out the problems in your life that need fixing and talk to people about it. Whether it is on this website or with other trusted people in your life, it's an important first step
BaileyS0624
November 13th, 2017 9:51pm
Try talking o someone, join a support group, do things that make you happy. Your happiness is what matters.
Anonymous
January 8th, 2018 12:35am
There are so many wonderful things you can do now! Say hi to friends or neighbors, watch a sunrise/sunset, listen to the birds outside chirp and watch the bugs crawl around. Get fresh air and go for a walk. Plan out an amazing future for yourself. Gorge on your favorite food and not regret it at all. Go back and look at all of the wonderful things you would have missed if you left earth early. Just don't give up, hard times pass and you will get through this.
GlowingDreamer15
May 7th, 2018 1:22am
First of all, congratulations! It is an amazing step foreward and I am really proud of you :) Now, you should take care of yourself to the best of your possibilities and make sure you are always safe. It is normal to have downs sometimes, but hang on and keep fighting! Try new things, stick to your hobbies and keep your smile shining!
IWishYouAllTheBest
July 20th, 2020 12:02pm
Live and praise yourself for each day you're living. Find a specialist to help you. If they don't work for you, keep looking for a new one. Talk to a trusted person, if you have one. If you don't, then I repeat: find a specialist. If both of these don't work, I suggest reading a book on depression or anxiety or other feelings you feel you're suffering from. Check your local library, there should be a few books avalaible. Talk to people on this site. I recommend joining group chats, where you can talk to people at every hour. Learning about your feelings and learning other people's experiences helps with dealing with these kinds of feelings. Good luck. I wish you the best.