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I don’t want to tell my parents that I’m depressed. Does that make me a horrible person?

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Last Updated: 05/11/2021 at 5:53am
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March 6th, 2018 7:16am
Of course it does not make you a horrible person to want to share your feelings with your parents. It is very difficult for any person to express their true thoughts and feelings with others. So just the action of recognizing your depression, is a wonderful first step to wellness :) I hope it goes well! Good luck.
March 27th, 2018 6:20am
Sometimes its essential not sharing our depression with anyone as it may make things worst. But when someone has a very supported family s one should never hesitate to share it with your loved ones.
June 25th, 2018 10:09am
It doesn't make you a horrible person. It means that you are selfless and that you don't want to worry them. But it's recommended to talk and share your feelings with your parents because that is the first step on the path to getting better, family support plays a huge part in that long walk.
July 24th, 2018 12:43pm
Of course not. Your parents will love you no matter what. Ask in for help is the best thing you can do.
October 16th, 2018 9:46pm
Not telling your parents that you are depressed does not make you a horrible person! It’s difficult to admit to yourself and especially to the people who you love and love you. Honesty is the best policy though and suffering alone in silence can and often does make things worse. You need support and understanding from the important people in your life. Often, your parents would much rather know from you. In fact, they know you...which means they might suspect that something is different. They’d be grateful for the trust you have in confiding in them and you may gain support through this challenging illness that shouldn’t be faced alone.
June 17th, 2019 11:13pm
Nobody wants to admit they are depressed. In these days, depression is seen as an unequivocal weakness, and no one wants to seem weak. However, this stigma surrounding depression and mental illness in general is circular in its toxicity. Opening up is one of the best ways to cope. However, this does not mean that when one does not open up, they are not trying to make things better. If you don't want to tell someone, that's a personal decision, that only you can ever feel comfortable making. Never feel pressured, because it is your right to decide what you are comfortable sharing. No one, not even one's parents, is entitled to know anything personal about anyone, no matter what one or others may think.
October 19th, 2020 8:19pm
It does not make you a horrible person. It can be difficult to open up to others, especially when we are not feeling good in ourselves. The fact that you care whether you're a horrible person or not, shows that it's not from a place of malice or harm. But rather, that you maybe worried about their reaction, or even how they will feel about you being depressed. Worrying about another person's feelings is okay, and that is the most natural thing to do. I have had similar worries before, and it took a lot of time to feel things for myself before I finally felt able to open up to others. and that's okay.
January 25th, 2021 5:44am
Each person needs to feel their comfort level to express their feelings and become vulnerable. It may not be the best idea for that person to approach their parents. That does not make the person a horrible person. You may not feel quite comfortable talking to your parents for whatever reason. That is fine. Your feelings are still valid. However, you may instead feel comfortable reaching out and expressing their feelings of depression to somebody else. Remember, that there are always help somewhere else and that you are not alone. There are people willing to listen and give you a hand. You need to find your comfort level to talk to the person who can provide you with the support that you need. Sometimes, you just need someone to listen without judgment. Talking with someone may give you some hope and encouragement to see the light out of the tunnel.
May 11th, 2021 5:53am
No, I don't think this doesn't make you a horrible person. Sometimes I rather not tell my parents what I'm going through because sometimes I feel like they might not understand or they may judge me. parents sometimes don't understand their children's problems. if the depression gets to bad i think you should talk to your parents and maybe they can get you some help. when I go through things sometimes I like to talk about it with my friends because I feel like they get me best. sometimes depression can get really bad get help before it gets too bad .